married 5.5 yrs. he is 10 yrs older very fit and in great shape!! treats me well. respectful ect. good to my kids and parents (who aren't well and live with us.) great guy kinda lazy but... has No sex drive!! well, maybe 3 or 4 times in 2yrs. he went to dr. got viagra wont take it. we went to marriage counceling I told him i need intamentcy ya know some type of connection. and I will not wait forever. Well I have a friend who has been there to take care of me where my husband wont! I told my husband. he was upset but... says we will work through it. yippie he has decided to put out more hugs!!! I still feel ..god, I dont know bad. Am I wrong? If he dont want me to go elsewhere you would think he would at least try right? I tell him all the time he is just a man who sleeps in my bed!! we have no real connection. I feel stuck in a no win situation. help!!!!!
2007-09-29 17:59:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its not just physical but also emotional needs arent noticed . I have been going through hard times kids ,health,family death. ect and I am main provider always have been. I have talked to him about divorce ,I have taken us to counceling and have talked to him many times about my feelings and needs he is always so willing to work on things but nothing ever changes. he dont want a divorce. all we have I aquired before marrage he has it good here I feel used for what I bring to relationship and the fact he dont want to be alone. It i need help with anything it just seems to be .........I dont feel right but I have been honest,layed it all on the table and told him
2007-09-29 18:30:57 · update #1
You are married. What is with you people? You get married, you find out you are not happy so you cheat, then you have the nerve to ask if you are wrong. YES you are wrong. It doesn't matter why you cheat. You could have left out the whole explanation and only ask, "Am I wrong for cheating?"
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The bottom line is that you are unhappy and your husband is happy. You cannot leave the decision up to him. Do you understand what I am saying? If you are the one that is unhappy you are the one that has to end or continue the relationship. In a relationship both people have to be happy. Even though you are wrong for cheating, he sounds like he is taking advantage of you. Toughen up and make the decision, you know is comming.
2007-09-29 18:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by Danny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is impotent. or has very low testosterone level. or maybe he has bad health - like heart problem. and i know those doctors - they just give u a pill.no help at all. anyway, have u tried to initiate sex yoursel? i know it sucks and boring to do all the time, but what else. i initiate it almost always, but we have sex almost every day. when i was tired and didn' t have power to doi anything, just sleep, he never even once wanted to have sex. so i presume mine has also very low sex drive. so i initiate it always. but he is a brilliant man and i like to be with him, so i guess i can suffer a little
2007-09-30 01:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by yeahright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything you do that you can't do with your spouse standing next to you is wrong. If you are not happy in your mariage you should get out for both your sakes. Cheating is wrong no matter the reason.
2007-09-30 01:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're 100% wrong. If you're not ahppy with the guy then divorce him. Otherwise use ur hand or a vibrator or something.
2007-09-30 01:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by bushnana 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do not fulfill your own needs with another person. At least you are trying to save your marriage, walk around house nude, he will notice you...
2007-09-30 01:10:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The marriage vows are for better or worse...not for better or until I can't get laid anymore.
2007-09-30 01:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by samcane 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are committing adultery. You must stop this now.
2007-09-30 01:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him to go to a councellor and use a vibrator instead of another person..that is WRONG
2007-09-30 01:08:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋