A friend of mine is about to marry this chap, but has been unfaithful to her on many occasions. I myself, have just found how unfaithful when I started asking about. The problem is she has this idea in her head that he is prince charming and he cannot do no wrong.
Last week he told her, that he was going on a fishing trip with the lads, but he was spotted in a nightclub by a friend of mine, who said he was 'reeling' somthing other than a fish.
I don't know if I should tell her as I don't know how she will respond, or should i let her get married and then find out for herself. But what kind of friend would i be if i did that ! advice me, this is doing my head in !
2007-09-29 21:33:42 · 11 answers · asked by dangermouse 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her. Divorces are expensive.
2007-09-30 07:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by DesignDiva1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first line is your answer - she is a friend of yours. Why would you let a friend make a horrible mistake when you could stop her, or at least open her eyes to the possibility? To marry a guy who lies about where he's going and what he's doing would hurt worse in the long run.
Tell her, but MAKE SURE you have proof.
2007-09-30 04:42:18 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were I in your shoes I would take the chance and let her know what you have found out and ask her to just look into it, sorta like spy on him for awhile to make sure what people are telling you is true before she takes it fully in. Let her know how much this is bothering you because you care for her but you want her to make sure this isn't true before she marries the wrong man.
2007-09-30 07:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hai,
Well this situation is critical.
But try, not better sit and watch.
You will feel guilty of yourself later.
I think you better talk to that guy first.
Take it calm, don't react rude to him although he hurts you.
If no positives..
Then go to the girl. Tell her what he does.
Prove it to her. Tell her that you care for your friends like her.
Tell her that you couldn't tolerate your friends being doomed.
Support her and say that there are better guys for her to get married to... and live happily with her only one loving yet to be husband.
Help your friend...don't expect things would go well.
But try your best.
Bye
2007-09-30 04:51:02 · answer #4 · answered by Honey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would confront the guy, tell him the truth and that your friend saw him with another girl. As he'll probably deny it, tell him your friends description of her. Say that if he doesn't tell her the truth then you will. If i was her i wouldn't want to beleive you but i'd never forgive you if you let me marry this prick knowing what he's done.
2007-09-30 04:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her. I wish someone had told me about my husband cheating before I got married and had a baby! It will save her alot of heartache down the road.
2007-09-30 04:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her because if she finds out that you knew all along he was a creep she will hate you. Be a friend and spill the beans.
2007-09-30 06:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't just tell her, you need pictures or something. If you just tell her there could be doubt on her part about it. She needs to know w/proof.
2007-09-30 04:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with mchel
2007-09-30 04:58:10 · answer #9 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell her.If she doen't believe you and get's married then thats no longer your problem.
2007-09-30 04:48:09 · answer #10 · answered by mchel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋