to a a guy she went to school with hes in the army finishing his ait thats schooling the problem i have they could send him to germany or japan im hoping he stays in the states he proposed to her today i feel like crying i feel im loseing her and we might not get to see her if they ship him off overseas is there anything he could do to stay here?
2007-09-29 18:12:38 · 6 answers · asked by dan m 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
shes 19 and has a baby boy from another relationship . she lives at home i know lifes a b h but i still love them im just looking to see if theres a way for him to stay here i like my soon to be soninlaw and i know he loves my daughter and granson
2007-09-29 18:30:52 · update #1
I am an AirForce wife and I dont know much about the army but in the AirForce, you can turn down one set of orders. I dont know how committed he is to his career field but if he is willing to cross-train to one that doesnt send people elsewhere as much then the chances are lower. I have been very lucky that we havent gotten orders to move overseas and I really dont want them but I have heard from friends who have moved away that it is an experience of a lifetime and they are having a blast getting to see the world and different cultures. This may be a good thing for her. Also, you could go visit her once a year or however much your budget allows and it would give you a chance to see the world as well. I know it is killing you inside but either way, you are going to feel like you are losing your little girl, even if she stays here. If he is in a career field that he just gets deployed by himself then she will still be here. My husband is over there right now and she will need a good strong support system to get her through the months. You can look at this as possibley losing her because she is so far away or you can look at it as a great oppertunity for all of you. I would stay optimistic and be proud she found one of the good guys. I think that is most important that she is being taken care of. If you know she is being taken care of and she has a good man then you will feel more comfortable with her distance from you. You can call and write and visit and remember that they are temporary. Usually about 2-4 years long. Dont dwell on it or bring her down because she needs to know her daddy loves her no matter where in the world she is and her wedding day and married life should be beautiful. If you love her as much as it seems you do then no amount of space will keep you guys from having a great relationship. My daddy is in Alaska and I am in Texas but I know he loves me and we see each other as much as possible but I know he is there for me in a second if I need him. Sorry to get off track. There is nothing to completely safe-guard him from going but remember, if he does, she will be a proud military wife and it isnt an easy road but one very rewarding just the same and you have to be her support and love back home if she goes. Hope I have helped ya out. Good Luck and God Bless :) ~Tell your son-in-law to be to keep making us proud~Texas loves him!!!
2007-09-29 18:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by ilovemyssgt 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is a chance he could stay here. Is he active, reserve, or National Guard? That is a huge difference. Just because he's in the Army doesn't mean he'll be sent anywhere. I am an Army wife, and Army Brat too... If the time I've been married, and as a Brat, I never moved overseas. Also sometimes they might just send him overseas for a short period before returning home. I think your best bet is to talk to her about your fears, and talk to him as well. Get stuff out in the open. If they do at one time have to move overseas, think of it as a vacation you could go on. It'll be better than you think for all concerned. I'm sure it will work out!
2007-09-30 03:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by ~Katie~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that the potential of losing your daughter like that is hard for you. A father never wants to let go of his daughter. But however you shouldn't look at it like that. Think of all the places she will get to see, and go!! It should be exciting. She'll still be able to come home and visit every now and then. And it will only last for perhaps a few years, not eternity. After two years or so they can get shipped to a certain base in the states.
2007-09-30 02:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by pooka225 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say there isn't much he could do to stay, he signed up with the military and they will send him over seas especially with the way the world is today. Even when we had semi peace time someone in the military had to do sometime over seas. Maybe she could split her time between the states and over there, but that would be unfair to her husband who would really need her support with his career and unfair to her starting her marriage off with resentment. Just think of how much she will see and how much she will learn from her travels and be proud.
2007-09-30 01:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by lucidwillow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it my be it is time for your daughter to live her own life, even if she moves somewhere with her husband, you will still get to see her when they move back to the states. Sounds like you have devoted your life to your daughter and my not have a strong relationship with your spouse. This chain of events creates many emotional problems in parents that do this. Children almost always grow-up and move away for careers. It is part of the natural process of time. You may want to see a therpist or physcian if the depression last over three weeks.
2007-09-30 01:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's time to cut the apron strings. Your daughter will become a wife and she will follow her husband just as she should.
2007-09-30 01:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋