the wo.re that let him cheat is being abusive to me through emaill. I now have access to his account and he let her know he was ina relationship & she still met with him & did it with her. He has used Yahoo Answers to meet her and she will not even say sorry . i bet she is a desperate housewife that couldn't keep a husband for herself.
how can i get back at them both? i am so angry
2007-09-29 22:12:22 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
THe best thing to do,is get on with your single life.
2007-09-29 22:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My mother always says ' the best revenge is to live well' . Your husband went out and made an effort to cheat - it didn't 'just happen'. That being the case, I don't think you have a relationship left. It wouldn't have mattered who it was that he cheated with - it could have been the one on Yahoo or any other female willing to cheapen herself - and there are many out there. There is no point in being angry with the other woman, she needs her ego boosted by nicking men off others - she thinks thats a compliment to herself. She is deluded and yes, probably desperate so not worth your scorn. Direct this anger to your husband and use it to clear him out of your life or, if that isn't what you want, then use the energy to make your marriage work. Revenge fantasies are marvellous, so keep one going in your head for a while. Otherwise, live well. Treat yourself to a make-over and get yourself busy with a great social life. It is your husband who will regret this the most in the end.
2007-09-30 04:06:12 · answer #2 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't betrayed by the woman. She's merely the scummy idiot your husband cheated with. It would have been some other scummy woman if not her. Deal with the person that did betray you. Hubby. Now, you gotta decide. Are you going to divorce hubby, or allow him to call deliberate cheating an "accident" or "mistake" From the tone of your question, you seem to be laying the blame on the woman, rather than your husband. I imagine you'll pretend hubby was just "confused" or "caught up" in erotic silliness. You'll have some counseling, and you both will "get past" this. Then, a couple years from now, you'll be back here asking WHY???? Why would he cheat again? And the answer will be- Because he's a cheater, and you are well aware that he is.
2007-09-30 02:49:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Most of your anger is pointed at the other woman. And that is normal she is not someone you would think nicely of. But what about your husband,he's married to you. He is the one that should show some loyalty towards you-not some woman you don't even know.
Although revenge might make you feel better,what will it really solve?? It is normal that you will be feeling really hurt and angry.
Best wishes whatever happens. As for the woman harrassing you via email, you just need to block her. Or delete any mail from her.
2007-09-29 22:36:31 · answer #4 · answered by Forgetmenotshell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge is none. I know it may hurt, but in the long run you will see that they both did you a favor. If he is willing to cheat on you publicly than he really doesn't care about your feelings or how much he hurt you. Plus if you get even with them what will that accomplish. It may make you feel go for awhile but you will still have that felling of betrayal. Do yourself a big favor. Forgive them and move on. Unforgiveness is a great part of the reason that we go though life miserable. Learn to love yourself and know that you are worth much more that this. Be Blessed.
2007-09-29 22:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by XtremlyME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry you've been treated this way. the best way to 'get back at them both' is to build a fantastic, fabulous and wonderful life for yourself and start with filing for divorce, because you can never trust him again. It will hurt and take a little time, but it is the best thing to do.
take up a new hobby, find new friends that he doesnt know (supportive girlfriends), do something you've always wanted to do but never had the time. forget about dating for a while that's not actually the best way forward in my opinion, it too often leads to you going backward. This relationship he has will probably crash and burn before long but you will be going up and up.
you can do it.XX
2007-09-30 08:33:02 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah J 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to believe that the man we loved and trusted out heart to would do such a thing, your in denial here. it is true when someone per-sues someone Else's husband that they have needs that they want to satisfy and don't care who pays the price as long as they get what they want. revenge will get u no where here, all revenge will do is keep u in the pain, u can't hurt people who have no conscience. best to do well in life, divorce the cheater, get some counseling, as its not about u its about them, it has alot to do with the relationship your husband has with himself. she did not cause this, he made the choice here. she could not have done this without him. he was the one who fell to the temptation and who allowed it, he could have told her no. she isn't sorry because she is not the one hurt, she succeeded in what she wanted, and she could care less about your hurt. kick him to the curb and let him have her, and move on, because the damage is already done here, at least keep your dignity and seek no revenge as it will not make u feel any better.
2007-09-30 00:09:45 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be angry with him. Not her. He was the one who promised to be faithful to you.
He was obviously looking elsewhere, and if it wasn't her it would have been someone else.
The only person your anger is hurting is you. You don't need to get back at them. You just need to move on and get on with your life. The best way to punish them is to show that you can be happy without your husband, and that you are better off without him.
You are well rid of the cheat. There must be things which you have always wanted to do. Now go ahead and do them, and concentrate on being happy!
2007-09-29 22:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by Copper 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you have left him by now.
The best revenge is just to totally ignore them & not let them know you care. Once she realises he is unattached she will probably not want him anymore. Some women only want what they can't have & find pleasure in taking other women's husbands. These women will end up sad, old & lonely because at the end of the day, most married men in affairs return to their wives. The "other woman" is usually only for sex & of no real importance. Maybe he will realise that if you ignore him & move out.
2007-09-29 22:20:23 · answer #9 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just know he will do the same to her in time.... once a cheater, always a cheater!
The only way to truly get back at them is to move on with your life... to show them that you couldn't care less about their sad little life.... and that you are better off without him
That will get at his ego and she will realise that she hasn't actually got something all that great!
She clearly has issues if she feels like she has to send you abusive emails and it's not worth getting involved in that kind of thing, it achieves nothing... just ignore them... she'll get really frustrated in the end... she's waiting for a reaction
2007-09-29 22:16:10 · answer #10 · answered by Lauren 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
here is one i really like
sleep with 3 or 4 of his friends/work mates (preferably at the same time) and tape it!
make sure you scream your head off have multiple orgasms etc.
be heard on the video taking about his erection problems and his tiny d*ck and that's why you have to get it else where, make it a good show
(see perhaps blacks on blondes .com for ideas)
now ether let him find the tape by accident or better still give a few copies to his work mates friends etc.they will laugh behind his back for weeks, before some one puts him out of his misery and you'll have had great fun both making the vid and watch his pain! win/win
by the way if you need someone to hold the camera for you drop me a line happy to help!
2007-09-29 22:29:22 · answer #11 · answered by carlg340 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋