I have been having a lot of emotional stress and I need some help. A lot has been going on as of late in my relationship of two years and things are changing quite a bit.
I still love my boyfriend very much, but where I was jumping to get married and have another child a month ago, I am now thinking I don't want to rush into it.
I know that it has to do with reuniting with an old friend who I am have some romantic interest in, but I don't think it's all on him.
See, a year ago, I cheated on my boyfriend. It wasn't anything major, just a kiss, but since then our relationship has changed drastically. We don't fight, like I was expecting, but my feelings for him have changed. I still love him, but it feels different than before.
To make matters more complicated, I think I am falling for my old friend and there is a stated and obvious attraction between us. We are trying to keep things as just friends, as he respects my relationship, but it is very difficult.
2007-10-03 17:33:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whenever I am with him, I am so happy, and I just don't feel that with my current mate. I feel guilty because this other guy makes me happier than my boyfriend. I just don't know what to do.
2007-10-03 17:34:37 · update #1
Just to get it out there, he hasn't forgiven me. Actually we were talking the other dya and he outright told me he didn't trust me and wasn't sure if he ever would.
2007-10-03 17:49:54 · update #2
thank the lord you ran into your old friend before you got married had kids and ruined their lives. leave your boyfriend and go after your new love. you already answered your own question you know what and who you want, just do it.
2007-10-03 17:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by Cooter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This old friend is only confusing you. You should work on things with your boyfriend. Also, did you ever think that the two of you don't fight over your cheating because he has forgiven you? It takes a big person to forgive another person. Concentrate on the two of you! You said you still love but you also have doubts. In every relationship there are doubts. It's all in how you react to them. You can't always have this doubt every time something goes wrong. Be happy with him if you are happy. Forget about the other guy right away. It will only cause you undo pain. Goo Luck
2007-10-04 00:43:47 · answer #2 · answered by hawthorne354 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get a piece of paper and list the good and bad about both men and then make up your mind whether you want to continue the same relationship or end that or start with the new one, and you may see something in the old friend that the new relationship is lacking. for example, in your current relationship do you do things together outside the house or just vegetate? It may be that doing things outside the home - stopping for coffee walking in a park together somewhere, whatever, are things missing in your current relationship and once you realize that, perhaps you can bring those things into the relationship with your boyfriend.
2007-10-04 00:52:12 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide who you want to be with or you will end up alone. I think this other guy is just clouding your judgment. Maybe there is this part of you that wants to leave your boyfriend and this is an opportunity to do so. You do need to understand that this other guy will make you happy for now , its something new, different and exciting ,but what about 2 years from now. Do you really think things will be the same 2 years from now? The excitement will be gone and you will be back into the same situation you are in now my dear.
2007-10-04 01:01:23 · answer #4 · answered by aicgoddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break to give time to the matter. If you miss your b/f then you'll know what to do. When in doubt always take a break...or step back there's nothing wrong with trying to make the right decision.
2007-10-04 00:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by VibiB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your boyfriend & yourself...
you can't help the way you feel & life is to short to settle for someone you don't really want to be with. The other guy might not be Mr. Right either but the one your with diffently is not... so tell him you want to break up. it's only right to be fair him!!!
good luck!
2007-10-04 00:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by Holly s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One or the other....you don't want to hear this, but you're playing with these guys and enjoying it. You're not serious about either or you'd commit.
2007-10-04 01:11:33 · answer #7 · answered by betternher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a decision. Then live with it. You can make it work, either way, so be sure you know what you want.
2007-10-04 00:55:15 · answer #8 · answered by SweetLittleSister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for starters stop and settle down with who you love and . stop trying to play them in time it will come out and you will lose both choose one and settle your self down. my opion?
2007-10-04 00:39:26 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋