Marriage & Divorce - 3 October 2007

I have been married over a year & 4 months now. My wife commits Adultry twice. My wife thinks she has every right to commit adultry because I did not meet her needs such as sex,compassion,etc. My wife & I had arguements how can a man meet a womans needs when she complains all the time? Does it give her the right to go out to find her needs with another man while married? I learned in this 3rd party the on going sex of her needs the 3rd party get's her pregnant? The 3rd party asked her how would he know if she won't do it to him? She simply said meet my needs I won't leave. When I heard that I was told then I married a person it's all about her needs. I married a woman who did not care about my feelings at all. I married an "Unfaithful Wife" If any woman out there with the right mind that can give an answer to my question was my wife very wrong what she did or a woman needs is worth the adultry?

2007-10-03 04:07:52 · 33 answers · asked by luckster 1

I have to interview folks for my American Culture class.

Age:
Sex:
Occupation:
Ethnicity:
Race
Married or Unmarried

1. Is marriage necessary to have a family? (Describe a typical American family)

2. What is the major role or function of a family? Is the family on the decline? If so, How so?

3. Is family important to you? If so How so?

4. How do you feel about homosexual marriages?

2007-10-03 04:04:42 · 12 answers · asked by Megan 3

You know how we are guys. We see cleavage and we just have to stare for a few seconds. I don't think it's disrespectful because the women who show their cleavage want us to look. I admit it....I love looking at cleavage.

2007-10-03 04:04:18 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you know if cheaters change or what would make them change if they do and is it from disrespect for the opposite sex that they are able to do it, or what? Why do cheaters cheat?

2007-10-03 03:51:48 · 32 answers · asked by scsspace 3

My parents are divorced. Almost every couple that I know in my family, of my friends etc. have contemplated divorce, have been cheated on, or are extremely unhappy. Is marriage worth it? Are we as humans just not programmed for monogomy?

2007-10-03 03:45:41 · 32 answers · asked by Crystal D 2

Would you wear PVC uniforms for your partner?

i.e. Nurse, Maid etc

2007-10-03 03:44:08 · 32 answers · asked by Sc00ter 1

2007-10-03 03:40:59 · 37 answers · asked by Greywolf 6

Yea, I'm in a problem, my mother in law live with us -.- ... and i never could make something awesome for my husband, (you know, romantic dinners, sexy dance, blah blah)... his birthday is coming up, and i want to do something special for him, i just had a baby and I'm not working, so I'm broke... What can i do? =(
Any one creative?

2007-10-03 03:37:18 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

She said she will move out but her grand ma passed away and she got a cold … Her grand ma died overseas, so I sent a beautiful flower bouquet and I took care of her till she got well. Now it is 2 weekends that she can go and search for an apartment but as I see she is shopping ($1000 clothes, shoes …) she used to come home at 6:00 pm after work but now she is home after 9:00 pm
I tried to talk to her 2 times after getting the divorce papers but she did not listen, accused me and said unreal things. I asked her to come to the Family canceller and she said: I came to her 3 times but the feed back was not good and I do not believe in counseling (meaning: My way or highway!)
She had some boxes packed all around our small apartment for 3 weeks. Last night finally I put them all in front of her wardrobe. I told her I thought about the papers and I agree with divorce. We should get separated ASAP and go on with our lives.
I realized that she was not expecting this but she has a big ego and said: I will leave as soon as possible. And started accusing me of pushing her!
She always wants to keep me hanging on! Isn’t it my right to ask her about her plan? I bought my house in a week. Can’t she find an apartment to rent (she wants to rent)
I want to know what she thinks… Maybe you have been there my friend… What is all that shopping (I know there is no other man) Why is she procrastinating?
I talked to our counselor yesterday, she told me I gave up my rights in this marriage, she was walking all over me because I never had a back bone… counselor is right, I always accepted whatever she said ... I am a successful businessman, very handsome but with my wife what I did was interpreted as my weakness not love…
I have feelings for her, but for one time I want to stand up because in this relationship I will not be happy at all…I want to know about your experience… she has a big ego, very jealous and controlling…she has good things but knowing the bad side, do you think she will move out?

2007-10-03 03:36:34 · 18 answers · asked by mazyar m 1

As you can tell from the question thats the situation i believe i'm in. I'm not sure i can live with myself if i break up his relationship but equally if i just let him go i'm not sure i could forgive myself either.

2007-10-03 03:30:41 · 32 answers · asked by hotvic_23 1

Okay here is the deal i just had a baby about 3 months ago and i had to quit my job before i had him well after i had him i told him that i wanted to go back to work and he told me that he wanted me home to take care of the baby that i could go back after the first of the year now that he is the only one working he has to pay all the bills and he is not liking that much well now he comes home bit**ing all the time and blames me for everything and i'm the type of person i don't like it very much so i'm thinking about leaving someone please give me some advice

2007-10-03 03:26:56 · 9 answers · asked by Butterfly 2

I have a master's degree and make about 45,000 a year. My husband works however, his paycheck is hardly nothing about $700 per month. We have one child and one due in December. I would like some realistic ideas on how I can make some extra money possibly from home or on the weekend. My husband has searched for other jobs, but he only has a high school diploma and the town we live in is very small and hardly hiring. With our bills, (just the basics rent, power, etc.) we are barely scraping by. Any suggestions?

2007-10-03 03:21:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

We've been married 18 yrs, he's cheated on me, and expects me to accept him having a female best friend? What's more is that it happens to be someone I went to high school with. I have intercepted some of their phone calls and emails, and it's all still a huge secret. Yet, I'm supposed to accept them being together every wednesday night. and other times when conveinent. I know my marriage is over, and cant flip a switch ater 25 yrs together (18 married). He knows it hurts me, and bothers me for him to be with her, but he doesnt seem to care and does it anyway. I think he is lying to himself. that they arent just friends. It's showing in his actions to be alot more. This is fun to explain to our 15 yr old son too. I am at wits end, I've hit rock bottom. Neither him or I have gotten a job since may, but I've been trying alot, and then came down with pinched nerve in back down my leg, and cant represent myself in an interview very good. I'm so stuck. we are both in mid 40's.

2007-10-03 03:17:03 · 21 answers · asked by queenlionus 1

Or, if youre thinking about a divorce, why?

I am thinking about getting married and I am curious what what advice you could give from a different perspective.

2007-10-03 03:15:17 · 9 answers · asked by Stuey 6

too long of a story, and much too depressing...Due to some real screwed up people,and a judicial system that will rewards narcs, He was allowed to take my children far away,It took me time to find them, when I did, the children vehemently refused to have anything to do with me,saying only that "someting bad would happen'.. 9 years later, and i still don't understand...
i didn't have the money to continue to fight, so i sent word that when the children were old enough, they knew where to find me. recently, i found my daughter online,i tried to communicate with her, letting her know how much love her and miss her, that i didn't understand what i had done to make her dispise me so.... her reply-a wedding picture and a headline ' I have every thing i need.' i sent another message,
congratulating her , sending well wishes,trying to accept her decision, though, i was devestated because i thought she would want to see me again.

2007-10-03 03:12:25 · 11 answers · asked by iwild 2

I have an appointment with a lawyer but my husband is pushing me to make decisions and I haven't gotten to talk to a lawyer yet. I am 26, he is 42. We have been married 6 years and have a 3 y/o child. I am leaving because he is verbally abusive, controlling and neglective as a husband and father. He is a doctor and I am a stay at home mom. I am willing to let him have the house, what should I ask for in return? I don't want to take him to the cleaners but I don't want to be broke either. He is willing to pay my van off too.

2007-10-03 03:08:15 · 9 answers · asked by Barn Babe 3

My husbands claims to be a sleep walker who eats in his sleep. He gets up in the middle of the night and scarfs down every snack in the house. Now if he just ate one or a little, that's one thing, but i might make brownies and have one piece out of it and gets up and scarfs the rest down. A box of little debbie snacks will go in one night too. I have to literally hide snacks and stuff where he can't find it at night so he won't eat it all up.
I kind of believe him cause he'll do weird things like crack open an egg on a plate and put it in the fridge and weird things like that.

I need advice, so I can keep food around. How do i make him stop eating everything in the house in the middle of the night?

2007-10-03 03:05:14 · 25 answers · asked by Cutie 3

Did you have a court order, and things changed like times or places and you did a mutual agreemnt and the guy and the girl agreed to something else by signing it down on a paper but NOT getting it notorized, did it work in court?

2007-10-03 02:59:16 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

What is the recent known figures of girls who are able to remain virgins till marriage in the U.S?

2007-10-03 02:51:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

he feels he is living a lie, not true to himself. he loves her and care for her so much and dont wont to lose what he has estabished with her. they have never been married, she is 8 years older, but he is not happy, and his health and stressed level very high she naggy, compline, he feel she does not trust him, he was up front with her about his preferances for men and women fromday one.

2007-10-03 02:49:30 · 21 answers · asked by Reginald H 1

I am 23 years old male. I am doing a job in an advertising company. Currently I do not have much cash with me. I have made investments. I do not own a car and live in a house on rental. Should I get married or should I wait?

P.S I dont want to have any kind of sexual relationship before marriage.

2007-10-03 02:44:39 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok, so where should i start? been with this guy for over a year now- eveything's been perfectly fine with us... moved in together after 3 months when we met, settled down quickly, got a dog and lived happy 'little family' life....
it's all started like a few months ago when i found out he keeps checking my phone, emails and stuff... i asked him is that just cos he doent trust me or something? he swears that he does trust me and just being stupid...
since then so much changed- i keep getting crushes on other people (which is bad- i know) and don't fancy him that much... sex life changed a lot as well...
does that something to do with age gap? im 20 he's 33?
dont know what to think.... get my own flat and keep seeing him? end everything just now?
any advice appreciated...

and how to take a break without moving out? he's gonna go mad...
plus im scared to leave him.... last time he split up with his girlfriend he tried to kill himself...

2007-10-03 02:42:48 · 24 answers · asked by Laura J 2

My current B/F of two years is being harrassed by his ex wife to keep me away from the kids. Him and i have had altracations in the past & now we have been working on getting back together. His ex id now threatning that if him and i get back together that she will file to keep me away from them. Can she do this? Him and I HAVE had arguments but NEVER when the kids are around.

2007-10-03 02:42:29 · 16 answers · asked by Curious 1

knowing they still work together, even if i forgive her should i just leave her, she says the reason y she cheated was because she always suspected i was , with little proof. i have a son by her , married 15 years and have a house together. really what should i do , i wanna get a divorce but i don't want it to efect my son........HELP!!!!!!!!!

2007-10-03 02:35:27 · 32 answers · asked by happy2be 1

Hypothetically: you have two choices.

1. You meet a man who has not been in your life very long, but you know his is a man who is calm, steady and reliable. There's not much "excitement" but he is safe and he loves you and you love him.

2. A man who you have loved for years, but who hurt you. A man who, after you left him, decided to make drastic changes in his life and become a new man who wants you back and wants a family with you. There was plenty of excitement and fun, but you're not sure if you could ever really feel emotionally "safe" with him.

Would you give the #2 guy another chance and see what happens, or stick with the contentment and safety of #1?

2007-10-03 02:33:32 · 24 answers · asked by Mel 6

I'm looking for opinions as to whether is would be appropriate for me to use the store credit from my ex-wife's wedding ring towards a new engagement ring for my current girlfriend. I do not intend to re-use any part of the ring, only obtain a store credit towards a brand new ring.

2007-10-03 02:31:58 · 33 answers · asked by Jeffrey K 1

I WISH I CAN FINISH MY RELATIONSHIP BUT IN THIS MOMENT IT IS IMPOSSIBLE HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH SOMEBODY YOU CANT STAND???

2007-10-03 02:22:01 · 15 answers · asked by haki 5

Why men are so selfish.....................
i have done tremendously good to my love... extreme support in hard phase of his life and now when the life become set he forget all his crises that were created to his family and now he soon to be marry with his cousin… he leaves me …………

i know his cousin and family is so selfish...........

this is hard time for me
plz support me

2007-10-03 01:59:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been with my GF for over two years and almost everything is fine except that she doesn't like it (what I've come to find out/ realize) when I don't spend it on her. She gets upset and I get even more upset to the point where I think we wont last when we live together and I don't even know if its worth staying in the relationship.

Some of the points she brings out when I ask her why it bothers her that I spend MY money are : she's worried that I won't be able to provide for her/ support her etc. She wants me to spend more money on her. Since we first started dating we've been going half and half for everything. Now she is saying that while is not right for me to pay for everything that she would like it if she only paid 25%. I'm sure I am missing a lot of her points but you women can probably help me see her side. I have my own goals; if I want to buy whatever I want and can afford it I don't want to think about whether she'd agree with it or not. This is the cause of bikes.

2007-10-03 01:55:35 · 9 answers · asked by status 1

I know a couple who have been together since they were 17 (now 21) have lived together for two years and discussing marriage etc. While on one hand I'm kind of awed by the depth of commitment that they show for each other at such a young age, part of me thinks that its mental to get into that sort of relationship at that age and that theyed be better off seeing people, having hearts broken etc for a few years like normal people. At the moment the girl does all the cooking, cleaning etc while her b f goes to work and then sits in front of the tv for the rest of the night. The mind boggles!

Does anyone else think that this sort of thing is best saved for when you have $hagged arround a bit and had a bit of life experience??

P.S No I have no interest in breaking them up for nefarious personal means- just interested to hear others thoughts...

2007-10-03 01:22:53 · 23 answers · asked by lilredhead 2