How do you tell your man that you are going to leave him?

Question

Okay here is the deal i just had a baby about 3 months ago and i had to quit my job before i had him well after i had him i told him that i wanted to go back to work and he told me that he wanted me home to take care of the baby that i could go back after the first of the year now that he is the only one working he has to pay all the bills and he is not liking that much well now he comes home bit**ing all the time and blames me for everything and i'm the type of person i don't like it very much so i'm thinking about leaving someone please give me some advice

Answer 1

As far as having poor judgement, I wouldn't say all of that. Anyone that is married has realized things about their spouse after marriage that they do not care for, not to mention people change. The man or woamn youmarried last year, likely will not be the same man or woman five years later. People mature... or not.

Answer 2

I'll assume you're not married since you're talking about just leaving.
You had a baby 3 months ago, this is a new experience for both of you, and neither of you seem to really have considered the implications.
Is it possible for you to go back to work on a part-time basis? This will give you a break from 24/7 baby care, but consider whether financially it is worthwhile.
And he can stop moaning about paying bills and give you help with the child the two of you created.

Answer 3

You need to sit down and talk with your husband. Tell him that you know he's under a lot of pressure and you want to go back to work, so it won't be so hard on him. Also tell him that you appreciate what he's trying to do, but you don't want to see him upset all of the time.

Your husband's heart is in the right place, in that he wants his wife to be able to stay home with the baby for a while. It's probably frustrating for him to know that he can't manage it financially. Think about how he feels, before you start talking about leaving. You're a grown woman now. Stop pouting like a child and try to work this out with your man.

Answer 4

Welcome to marriage. You guys need to sit down and work it out like intelligent, rational adults. You don’t pick up and leave because things get complicated. If the two of you can’t figure out how to settle the problem, you seek the advice of an objective third party who can help mediate the situation – a marriage counselor. You have a 3 month old baby to think about here. You both need to grow up and start acting like adults for the sake of your child.

Answer 5

Have you sat him down and said look you told me too stay home after I told you I wanted to go back to work? So here is how it is going to work. Either you quit doing this or I am not only going back to work I am going to have to find a different place to live.......!
You need to be honest with him. If your not willing to work it out then you could just pack up and leave and either call him or leave him a note...

Answer 6

You have to be understanding to an extent. People handle adversity differently, if you all are going through tough times you need to be adult about it and work it out. Maybe you should think about going back to work, in this day and age, it can be VERY difficult to make it on only one income.

Answer 7

Just tell him it's over ! He wanted you to stay home to take of your child but his lazy a** don't want to take care of the bills!Don't think, just leave he sounds like a piece of sh*t anyway.Go back to work and leave is a**.There is no special way to leave a LOOSER you just simply tell his a** that you are leaving him , then bounce!

Answer 8

This is the guy you hooked your star to??? Poor judgement. First off, try to save your marriage, divorce is too easy. If that doesn't work then leave and use better judgement in the future.

Answer 9

Come on....This can't be the real deal in this relationship. He already knew that he had to pay the bills before he told you that. What's the real scoop?