Can someone who has been a cheater in the past change if they want to?

Question

Do you know if cheaters change or what would make them change if they do and is it from disrespect for the opposite sex that they are able to do it, or what? Why do cheaters cheat?

Answer 1

I think so. "Once a cheater, always a cheater" applies to a small few.

I think that cheaters step out due to selfishness, or something missing in their relationship. I believe that if you have honest, true communication that you and yours can avoid the temptation of cheating.

Everyone deserves a second chance. It's your call if they deserve a third.

Answer 2

I personally think a repetitious cheater will never change. It is an addiction. It is also a selfish person with no morals or respect for another person. Further if that person is an alcoholic that influences the cheating addiction even further.
Been there done it. I do not believe it is because of another person not making you happy. If that was the case get out of the relationship and let everyone go free but usually the cheaters are the control freaks. They want to keep you at home while they are out having a good old time. Even after I divorced my cheater he always came to look for me with a million more hillbilly girlfriends whom he said he never had. He had terminal cancer and even up to the end he had another one come to the hospital when I wasn't there. I also think cheaters have something from the way they were brought up. IS IS VERY EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE AND TAKES ITS TOLL ON YOUR HEALTH AS WELL IF YOU PUT UP WITH IT.

Answer 3

people cheat because they are not happy with themselves. They feel like they have to go out and find something new because they are feeling down about themselves and need a boost. Once a cneater always a cheater and they will never change. They get that rush from going behind someones back and they can never get rid of it. If you are interested insomeone that cheats run the other way.

Answer 4

Can someone who has been a cheater in the past change if they want to? >>> Yes, especially if the reason behind the cheating has been dealt with.

Do you know if cheaters change or what would make them change if they do >>> Talking about the parts of their relationship that are not working and work on changing that.

Is it from disrespect for the opposite sex that they are able to do it, or what? >>> No one reason covers every situation. In some cases Yes, but in other cases it's from disrespect of themselves.

Why do cheaters cheat? >>> There could be underlying psychological reasons for promiscuous behaviour... or maybe just wanting to feel attractive and wanted... Maybe their sexual needs aren't being met... or maybe it's their emotional needs that aren't being met... then again it could be just plain boredom... or maybe they don't have the same values as their partner when it comes to monogamy...

I could keep going but my fingers are hurting and it's 1:20 am...

Answer 5

I think a cheater can change if they want too. If it's a new relationship anything is possible. If you have been cheated on it is hard to regain the trust or believe that person will not do it again. If you are the cheater and you find someone you really care about I think you can change.

Answer 6

I would say if a cheater finds the reason they cheated will avoid making the same mistake twice.
Why do cheaters cheat? I am not sure but alot of people do it. I went on an all girls weekend this past June. We are in our forties, married, kids etc.... So we were just going to let our hair down, drink too much, dance, and just have fun enjoying being with each other. Well we met alot of different people at the place we were staying. The place had an outside bar and dance floor right in front of the beach. It was great weather was perfect. We were hit on more than you could ever imagine. One married guy after another was coming along. We were invited to dinner, invited to their rooms after the bar closed, they wanted to buy drinks etc.... One (married) guy even had a shirt on that said "I love hot moms" (on the front), and the back said, "married and looking" It was a meat market. I was shocked to see how many married men cheated and I am sure it was the same for some women. One guy chatted with me and he asked me if I really never cheated on my husband I told him no that I am in love with my husband, and he said its cuz I haven't come across the right type of guy to have a good time with. He told me he and his wife have an open relationship for the main reason that its better than ever in their bedroom when they get home. I was so shocked by all this. We are not talking a few guys there was a ton of them.

Answer 7

Someone who has cheated can change. But I do honestly think that if you do it once you are much more likely to do it again, because it becomes less of a big deal. It's like stealing, or lying, or taking drugs, all things that you know you shouldn't do, but once you've crossed the line they seem easy. I have friends who've cheated on their boyfriends (all girls, interestingly enough, so it's definitely not just something men do) and they would always come up with some kind of justification for doing it, as if they were trying to convince themselves it was ok. One of them was with a guy who'd cheated her badly at the beginning of their relationship, although she had stayed with him. She started cheating on him as a form of punishment which was just ridiculous as he didn't know about it. I think that one of my friends will never do it again, but the other 3 (I'm not only friends with cheaters, honestly) I'm pretty sure would.
I won't cheat.
If I were with a guy and things weren't going well, I'd like to think I would respect him enough to talk to him about our problems rather than go to someone else. Cheating is disrespectful and disgusting above all.

Answer 8

Yes I do think that cheaters can change. Cheating on someone is a CHOICE. So if they Choose to cheat they can certainly Choose to not cheat. Before I got married I cheated on my husband. I did it once, and never again, He married me the year after that, He gave me a second chance, and I proved to him that I would never do it again, and I had to earn my trust back. We are very happy now, and we talk about anything and everything that bothers us. We do not keep anything from each other. and why I cheated.. well It had nothing to do with disrespect. It was just the fact that, I didn't feel that I was getting enough attention or love from him. No not a good excuse, no excuse is a good excuse, I should have talked with him about it instead. Seeing how much I had hurt him. I never want to see that again and I have and never will cheat again.

Hope I helped.

Answer 9

Sure. I did.

During my first marrage my ex would have sex with me once a week. She felt obligated to do that much. I wanted it every day and more than once a day if possible. So I took matters in hand and if a woman was willing I took her.

Finally divorced wife one and found wife 2. Now I get what I want at home so I don't need to look elsewhere.

the question isn't if he is a cheater but why did he cheat. If he just couldn't help himself then he will cheat again. If it was to fill a need not being met at home then he probably will stop.

I did.

Answer 10

Yes, someone who has been a cheater in the past can change if they want to. Unfortunately, if they cheated on YOU and got away with it, believe me, they will continue.

What you need to do is put some time and space between you and them and see what happens in six months to a year...

Like they say, if you love it, let it go... if it comes back...