i want to die.......................................................................?

Question

Why men are so selfish.....................
i have done tremendously good to my love... extreme support in hard phase of his life and now when the life become set he forget all his crises that were created to his family and now he soon to be marry with his cousin… he leaves me …………

i know his cousin and family is so selfish...........

this is hard time for me
plz support me

Answer 1

Sorry to hear about this.

But remember: "a giving love never loses." Meaning you'll find another second chance in love and you'll be much happier!

Try to accept what happened. There's no use of running after a man who kicked you to the curb despite that you have given your best on such love relationship.

Move on with optimism and courage.

He's not the last man in this world ok, so move on once you have healed this hurt.

Be surrounded with good caring friends, fill up your moments with busy stuff and also try watching comedy film or series or focus yourself on other things apart from dreaming of what-could-have-been.

Remember this.."he is never your loss".... "you are his big loss in life because later he will realize that."

Try to raise your self-esteem and self confidence and don't be drowning to regrets, if-could-have-beens nor blame ok.

Read books to keep you occupied and avoid places that would remind you of such guy.

And don't even think of dying!!!

You don't end up your life just because a man rejected you...

instead affirm to yourself that you deserve someone better who would love you and respect and cherish you and reciprocate and knows how to give love like the way you do.

I've been to big frustrations in my life too and I turned it into creative writing- my resolutions... during the process I have learned to love again and it took me years to hibernate and heal such wounds but then now, I am most inspired and happy because I have found or rather he has found me... the one whom I love in my life.

so you see... after a stumble in our life... or a fall in our life... or such past dark ages... right now you have your dark ages in life...

one day you'll have your rising... your renaissance and that second chance in love which I tell you will be more much much much better than this past.

good luck.

Answer 2

Yes, men are selfish no matter how good we are to them. We keep on giving and they keep on taking.
As far as him leaving you to marry his cousin, that's another chapter for discussion down the road. You are caught up in a situation which is very painful to you, but you will get passed this if you want to. No one can do to you what you don't allow. Get over him and move on. He isn't worth dying for. You didn't mention if you were living with him or not, but if you are you need to leave. He is showing you how much he really cares about you by his behavior and actions. We easily get caught up into these hopeless situations wih no thought of the repercussions. Please do something to help yourself, talk to your Pastor or family members if it's possible. By the way would you be willing to tell us your age?
Wishing you well...

Answer 3

Sweetheart you have to first show support for yourself! Nobody is going to value you better then you! When we get in these relationships you must keep in mind that you did your part! For all the good you have done you will get your blessings in ten folds! Keep in mind for him being selfish and self-centered he will not only rep what he sow but you can sit back honestly and watch him totally fall apart meaning being that he done you wrong you don't have to do anything God sees all and he keeps his children. Regardless to any I am sure he's keeping you! You don't even have to think along the lines of wanting to do because your blessed with so much and you don't even know it! Your blessed to be reading this right now and your blessed I am sure with your health and the strength and the courage to face each and every day knowing that you have a good heart and he'll bless you with someone that will not only complete your life but will bring much good! May you just look to your inner beauty and think of you first oppose to anyone else, and keep the faith that there's better fish to fry then worry about some self center bastard that marrying his relatives.................. How nasty is that!
God Bless you sweetheart and keep the faith! IN YOU!

Answer 4

You poor girl. You don't deserve this. It's obviously happening due to his family (and his) beliefs and it's a common thing. You are better than this so move on. There is nothing you can do and if he were to leave his situation and be with you, his family would make you miserable for the rest of your life. He would possibly end up leaving you in the future. You are better than this and don't deserve this. It's very hard but you need to make a decision to move on. There is a different plan for you. Take this relationship as hard as it may seem, as a learning experience. Something better is in your future. I promise you.

Answer 5

Find the strength within your mind and body and YOU WILL BE ABLE TO GET OVER THIS SOON! Try to wake up tomorrow morning at a later hour or an earlier one than your usual hour, be busy all day, call some friends and meet up with them and talk about some nice and intersting stuff for a change!!Do not even mention him, but if you do..remember he does not worth it so say a stupid joke about him and AGAIN.. GET OVER HIM WITH LAUGHS AND WHATEVER MAKES YOU GET HIM OUT OF YOUR MIND. I do believe you are strong enough to at least try this, see life in a different light tomorrow, all the friends arround you. all the pets and teddy bears arround you and never say you want to die again cause you dont really want that! Take care of you please, you will be so much better, you'll see!

Answer 6

I know you are hurt but all men aren't selfish, you may think so right now, because you are angry and hurt. Now think about it,, he is going to marry his cousin right? The jerk isn't worth your time. I would say good riddance and be done with it. I really don't know where your from but it is looked upon very badly when someone marries family in the US. Move on and find someone who deserves your attention.

Answer 7

I think both men and women are selfish. It is sad when you do so much to help someone you love and care about. But in the end, if he does not reciprocate your feelings, why put yourself through the sadness and heartache? Pick up the pieces and move on. He obviously doesn't want to be with you - so move on. Don't dwell on him. You can find another man who truly deserves your loving, caring, and kind ways.

Answer 8

Sweetheart! I can feel your sweet loving soul and feel for you SO much. Some one breaking your heart is SO hard to et over and takes time! Please do NOT hurt yourself, you will honestly look back in a while and think 'Thank GOD I didn't kill myself over THAT ********'. PLEASE trust me, I made myself sick for YEARS over someone who left me and hurt me so bad and believe me, I am now FAR better off than him. I am happily married to a BETTER man. You are obviously intelligent and beautiful and WILL find happines, friends, a new social life, a man and your joy again. I PROMISE.
MOST IMPORTANT THING= Accept his stupid choice and MOVE ON. The sooner you do this the less pain you will be in and the less time u wil waste off your precious life worrying about him. You will be a success. Good luck honey.

You are better than him, worth more than him and you deserve a man who truly loves you, and you will find it. You go girl, take a deep breath- open your eyes, look around you at your opportunities, beauty and future and embrace it!

Answer 9

Death is not the solution for it all....

Death gives no salvation...

Huny, I say this from the bottom of my heart, "If yu have the capability to bring a full grown man from crisis to prosperity, there is some magical power in yu." I am very sure of it...

Wen yu have succeeded in solving another Human Being's crisis, do yu think yu can not solve yur own? Yu are strong enuf to s**t on such a man and make yur own life more beautiful. So beautiful that this man shud regret his every living day for not marrying yu.

I AM SURE YU HAVE THE STRENGTH TO DO IT....

Answer 10

I know you feel as if you wish to die, but that only shows the deep love and care you are able to give someone else. He was just the wrong person to give it to. Deep down in your soul, you know you don't wish someone to stay with you if they wish to be with another, not matter how much it hurts you.

You will not die. You will hurt and heal and go on with your life. This man was not meant to be with you permanently as there is someone else out there, right around the corner, who is the perfect 'fit' for you. You are stronger than you think and you will survive this a winner.