Wife Commits Adultry.?

Question

I have been married over a year & 4 months now. My wife commits Adultry twice. My wife thinks she has every right to commit adultry because I did not meet her needs such as sex,compassion,etc. My wife & I had arguements how can a man meet a womans needs when she complains all the time? Does it give her the right to go out to find her needs with another man while married? I learned in this 3rd party the on going sex of her needs the 3rd party get's her pregnant? The 3rd party asked her how would he know if she won't do it to him? She simply said meet my needs I won't leave. When I heard that I was told then I married a person it's all about her needs. I married a woman who did not care about my feelings at all. I married an "Unfaithful Wife" If any woman out there with the right mind that can give an answer to my question was my wife very wrong what she did or a woman needs is worth the adultry?

My wife commits Adultry Twice. I have been married year & 4 months. The First time is a one night stand a friend of hers which I have forgiven that one. The Second Time is another guy friend. My wife told me they had on going sex & now I learn she is pregnant with this guy friend. I made my mistakes in this marriage & yes we went to marriage counseling. She complained that her needs are not meet such as attention,sex,compassion,How can a guy meet those demands of needs when you argue all the time? Get me this & that, Nit-Picking was worse of all. If her demands were not meet then it is only right to wait after the divorce correct? Now the guy friend asked the question how would I know your not going to do that to me? She simply said if my needs are meet then I won't leave. Quote "we have no kids at all." Now my question is it justified what she did because her needs & demands were not meet worth the adultry?

Answer 1

She is so wrong that she did that. She is married to you, and she cheated on you.

You need to get her out because she may give you hiv or aids

Answer 2

I'm sorry for your problem. You married a very selfish manipulative woman if she is able to even make you think for a minute that her straying is all your fault and your responsibility to fix.
Has she ever once asked about your needs?? She is obviously not taking any of your feelings into consideration.
There are many options that she had other than cheating like talking to you or going into counseling. She only wants you to fix any issues without her involvement.
It is only a little over a year into your marriage and she is already doing this. She is most likely not going to stop no matter what you do. As hard as it will be, you should ask for a divorce and move on to someone who will care about you, your feelings and is willing to talk like an adult...not make demands.
There is never a good reason for adultery that I have heard..either you work on the issues as a team or get a divorce.

Answer 3

Marraige isn't about ONE person, it's about TWO people. If she won't face that, she shouldn't be married. You sound like you have serious self-esteem issues. Maybe she's making you feel inadequate. Everyone can learn to meet someone's needs but you can't learn if she won't communicate with you. She's selfish and shouldn't be married.

What she did was wrong but more importantly, what she's doing NOW is even more wrong: cheating is not something you can blame the injured party on. You didnt' "make" her cheat, and if she can't see that, she'll never change. If she was truly a wife she'd be working WITH you on how to make the marriage better.

Divorce, sorry to say, is about all that's left. Go get counselling because what she's doing to you will leave a mark on your soul. Learn to love yourself and move on without her.

Answer 4

She was 100% wrong. Marraige isn't just about one spoouses needs. If that is her logic, then she must not have been providing something for you, or else you would have been more than happy to oblige her needs, whenever, wherever.
Any relationship is a balance of give and and take, yes we all have needs and a desire to have them fullfilled, but you should be willing to give more than you receive. If each person has that mind set, then each person in the relationship should be more than fulfilled.
I'm curious how she felt she was meeting your needs when she was sleeping with other men.
Unfortunatley, you found yourself a selfish women. It's also sad, that an innocent child has been brought into the mess.

Answer 5

She was wrong marriage is between a husband and wife once you marry someone you have made the choice to give up all others (some couples agree not to do this and that is beyond me) but in your case you made no agreement to have an open marriage. She is wrong and if she is not willing to stop i would leave before you end up with some kind of STD or wondering if a child is your or not

Answer 6

Oh dear! You're should still be acting like newlyweds. Your wife is being selfish and what she is doing is WRONG! I like you need to take a big, long look at your life and how it will be down the road if you stick around. I am sorry for I do not believe that this is something you can forget, forgive or live together happily. My advice to you is to leave and get a divorce. You deserve better treatment.

Answer 7

Dude - RUN. The fact that you're even asking if she's got a right to adultery because you're not meeting her needs makes me wonder where your head is at the moment. This woman is using your so called incompetence as an excuse to screw around. People like her will never change. I'm surprised you weren't clued into this before you married. Don't tell me that you didn't see if coming. People always see it coming. They just don't want to admit failure. Dump her a$s an move on. No one diserves to be treated so disrespectfully.

Answer 8

You married a very selfish and inconsiderate woman. You sound like a nice guy and she's taking advantage. Leave her. Or...get an investigator to prove so you won't have to owe her anything. Start getting all your stuff separated...your car loans your checking accounts and then leave her. Once that is settled, wait for the right woman. This is unfortunate, but atleast you weren't with her 10 yrs and find out the kid was never yours. Good luck. Seek guidance in prayers and stay strong.

Answer 9

Yes I think it is very wrong. She should have never taken the commitment of marriage. It is a commitment thru better or worse. She is extremely selfish and I would be afraid of catching a disease. Don't sell yourself short or even subject yourself to all the emotional abuse. I did it myself but if I had to turn the clock back I would have never allowed it at all. Once you don't put your foot down it will always continue with a million different excuses.

Answer 10

i would file divorce and tell her see ya later. Apparently she is wanting something better than you can give. Communication is a HUGE factor is a relationship. Find out what her needs are and meet those needs. If not and she won't let go of the other. Tell her to hit the road. Find someone that is into you

Answer 11

You need to get rid of her. She is just a plain slut. Having said that if you stay with her you will have many problems with her because she cheated on you and you will never trust her again. Of course she has no right to go out and cheat just because she says you don't "meet her needs". Thats crazy, when she married you that meant she was committing herself to you and no other man, in the good and bad. So she has no right to go out and cheat. Crazy ***** she is just a plain whore thats all.