My parents are divorced. Almost every couple that I know in my family, of my friends etc. have contemplated divorce, have been cheated on, or are extremely unhappy. Is marriage worth it? Are we as humans just not programmed for monogomy?
2007-10-03 03:45:41 · 32 answers · asked by Crystal D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think it takes WORK!
and many people don't want to work that hard
The easy way out is divorce
People spend 4+ years in college preparing for their career but only spend a few hours preparing for a life-long marriage. They don't understand what issues my arise in the future and then it becomes too much for them.
Rather than deal, they run.
2007-10-03 03:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by sugar sweet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We humans are "programmed" to be adaptable. We can do monogamy or not as we choose. But being adaptable means making a conscious choice and working at it. It's not a matter of finding the exact right person, it's a matter of being mature enough to be willing to work and not be selfish. The joy of being married is a subtle joy that immature people cannot appreciate. If you like the rush of love, the thrill of newness and love being free to do whatever you want whenever you want, then marriage is not for you just yet. Those things can be found in marriage but it's different and you have to be willing to enjoy the subtleties of married life rather than sit around waiting for a thrill you have to MAKE your thrills. It's work but work always brings a reward. Are you mature enough to really enjoy that reward? Only you can decide that. Be honest with yourself and you'll know the real answer.
2007-10-03 05:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by Cassandra G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend an hour here in this Category and you would probably say no. Look at all the pain and suffering that men and women bring each other. There are some happy things too just to be fair.
Each couple is different and their level of commitment to each other is a measure of happiness. I gave up on romantic relationships a couple of years ago. I kept going from disaster to disaster and finally had to stop and examine my life and motives.
I don't know if I will start dating again. My life is quiet now maybe a little boring but it is a nice break from the turbulence of a relationship.
2007-10-03 04:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by Big Red 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've become an undisciplined society. We want everything and want it now. Marriage is the polar opposite of this idea. It requires discipline in the sense of "stick-to-it-ness," it needs to be molded and then cared for by both partners. Its not all a bed of roses, though. It requires discipline to get through tough times... like rough finances, a sickness in the family, a child with special needs.
It requires a certain level of maturity to be aware of the level of commitment you've made or are going to make.
Marriage is probably one of the most worthwhile things to do in life. You've created a loving bond with another person and together you help each other through life. With love and compassion.
It is most certainly worth it.
regards
2007-10-03 04:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by Green is my Favorite Color 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
With the divorce rate above 50 percent, you must really ask yourself that question before entering a marriage.
Some people are better off being single. While others feel the need to have a family to come home to, so it is a case by case situation.
2007-10-03 04:00:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that Yes marriage is worth it, its also work and commitment .It should not be entered into lightly.Unfortunately divorce rate is very high these days.My husband comes from the same kind of familly bkground, But he went with his heart and we've been married ever since. We have never been happier in our marriage, Our secret to a great marriage is to put God 1st in your lives, spouse 2nd, family 3rd. We have great communication, but most of all we are best friends above all.
hope this helps
God bless
2007-10-03 03:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by debbiedeb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel but I still got married. I found someone I knew I could spend the rest of my life and went with it.
A lot of people marry thinking it'll be the easiest thing, they marry because they want the wedding, they wanna please everyone but themselves and sometimes they're not ready for such a big commitment. They don't realise that you have to WRK at a marriage and thats why they fail.
We can make marriages work but now a days everyone chooses to marry for all the wrong reasons and instead of trying to make things work they divorce.
2007-10-03 03:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Holly Cookie Starr™♥ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When you finally find that one you can't live without you want to marry them and be together forever. But being with each other for so long makes you comfortable in your life. And you forget how to keep the spark alive. The little suprises or remarks. You figure I told them before they should know by now, but the other person doesn't know. Marriage isn't easy you have to work at it.
2007-10-03 03:51:40 · answer #8 · answered by goofy1770 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is. While I have been divorced, would I do it over again? Yes, I got a wonderful child out of it. And, I am about to marry again.
While the divorce rate may seem high, remember back in the old days, it was shunned upon and people stayed in bad marriages and miserable together. If it wasn't frowned upon back then, then more people would have been divorced more often.
2007-10-03 03:49:27 · answer #9 · answered by CC 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
marriage is worth it if you marry the right person. You have tons of couples that get married before they really know someone or because they think it will make things easier. Before you get married you have to know that it is going to be work. It can be hard some times. People can give up to easy. Its work and it can be tough but its rewardign and beautiful at the same time
2007-10-03 03:51:18 · answer #10 · answered by sarah W 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋