I know a couple who have been together since they were 17 (now 21) have lived together for two years and discussing marriage etc. While on one hand I'm kind of awed by the depth of commitment that they show for each other at such a young age, part of me thinks that its mental to get into that sort of relationship at that age and that theyed be better off seeing people, having hearts broken etc for a few years like normal people. At the moment the girl does all the cooking, cleaning etc while her b f goes to work and then sits in front of the tv for the rest of the night. The mind boggles!
Does anyone else think that this sort of thing is best saved for when you have $hagged arround a bit and had a bit of life experience??
P.S No I have no interest in breaking them up for nefarious personal means- just interested to hear others thoughts...
2007-10-03 01:22:53 · 23 answers · asked by lilredhead 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well my wife was 17 and me 19 when we meet and we married at 18 and 20 have been married now 27 years.
so some couple goes the distance and some dont.
whats having a trial at love got to do with anything.
2007-10-03 01:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be bothered by the fact she is waiting on him and being a homemaker. They may like this combination; his outside job is his work and she takes care of the home. Whatever works for them. Some women love to take care of their partner and who are we to judge them.
I know of marriages that have lasted a lifetime when they married young and others that have not. Only time will tell.
I do believe the fact they have lived together for two years and are still in a loving relationship shows they both are committed to each other. You are not a bitter old moo; you are just concerned that they may be rushing things.
2007-10-03 01:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started going out with my ex husband when I was 17 he was 19, married at 23, two kids one when I was 25 and the other when I was 32, were together 21 years and married for 14 of those didn't think it would end but it did because he met someone else, don't think it was anything to do with making up for what he had missed out on, he just fell for someone else. So who knows sometimes it works out sometimes it doesn't.
2007-10-03 02:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by Pitstop!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So the girl isn't working? If not, she's digging her own grave, so to speak. Without some training or experience to fall back on, how would she ever survive if he decided to dump her. Go on public assistance? He seems to have hit the jackpot. From mother's house to being cooked for by the girl-friend. Can't top that.
I think 21 is way to young to be married, but hey ho. Maybe they'll both end up a happy old couple, maybe not. Time will tell.
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2015-01-28 15:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on the people. If you mature together your relationship should work. I married pretty young and its a very good marriage. You have to adjust and get used to your partners living condition and all that. Just sit back and let them love each other if it doesn't work out; Love is a risk. You can never tell what might happen.
2007-10-03 01:32:44 · answer #6 · answered by SiCnGaged 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married at the age of 19 and have been happily married for 27 years (my husband was 21 at the time). However, we both had hard childhoods and were very mature. And my husband does not come home from work and just sit in front of the TV. He treats me like a princess and I treat him just as well. Sounds like they are off to a bad start.
2007-10-03 01:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course its too young but they seem to like each other enough. The problem is when people grow up and change. She will eventually find out that any guy who doesn't do his share of the housework nowadays is called a 'loser' and that she is in the minority by not working. All of this will come out later. If it were my daughter or son I would have wanted them to experience more life before settling down but you can't interfere much when it gets to the serious stage. You just have to be there to mop up the mess!
2007-10-03 10:33:02 · answer #8 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do know one or two couples, and it is no more than that, who have got together when they were really young and are still together 20 years later. However, it is the exception rather than the rule. Personally, I avoided committment and getting serious like the plague and just wanted to go out and enjoy myself - I eventually settled down at the age of 34!
2007-10-03 01:33:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's mental. One just grows so much through their 20s!
The guy I was serious about at 20 is SO different than the man I was serious about when I was 24, and both were WORLDS apart from the wonderful man I married when I was 28!
2007-10-03 04:58:51 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋