Do you think that the marriages that do "last"...?

Question

are actually happy? Or....do you think the small percentage that do stay together....are for other reasons? Such as...comfort...family...security...financial reasons, etc.

Excuse the typo...I meant to put "security reasons".
Thanks

Answer 1

Happy may not be the correct term. Satisfied might be more appropriate. I think marriage is a combination of: comfort, security, children (if any), blah, blah, blah, and happy or happiness is included in it.

There's no such thing as "... and they lived happily ever after..."
Those are for fairy tales. Marriage is a process that costs a lifetime. The more couples invest in it, the more satisfied they will be in marriage, the longer they will last. Wanna get married?

Answer 2

I've seen a lot of long-lasting couples stay together for many reasons. My parents have been together twenty years but are unhappy. They haven't gotten a divorce for "the sake of the kids" and because they don't have the money. On the other hand, I've known couples who are really in love their entire lives. Ultimately, I think there are, unfortunately, a lot of bad marriages. But there are also really great ones out there. Sometimes they are just that much harder to find.

Answer 3

I think that the long lasting marriages that are happy, you have spouses that support each other in endeavors that make them happy as individuals, the ones where the spouses respect and are perfectly OK with each other's "natures". Most of the time, however, many marriages fit in your second observation - they stay together because they either are afraid to leave, have too many anchors tying them down - kids, financials, etc. I think as we grow more individualistic and preoccupied with instant gratifications, long term marriages will be extinct - rare at best.

Answer 4

25 years here. We're both still happy campers except when one of us hogs the covers er something. I think we've been successful simply because we are comfortable with each other. And, for us, that's meant on every level. We know where each little tiny scar came from on the others' body, we know each others' sexual fantasies, we both know how Uncle Bob is. You know, stuff like that. But we also believe it's important to take care of each other in every way, including healthwise. We've suffered together through hard times and high-fived the Biggies. Life is like, groovy ;-)

Answer 5

The so called other things you mention are important parts of life. I cannot imagine any relationship, especially a marriage that did not base their happiness on the sharing of core values.Happiness includes many things and is different to everyone. As long as it works what difference does it make? Unless of course there is pain and suffering involved, that is just wrong.

Answer 6

Marriage does have it's ups and downs just as
nothing else is perfect in this world, however when
two people that are in love, and committed to their
love, marriage can be a happy one, how do I know
I'm glad you asked, because I and my wife are
happily married over 20yrs now.

Answer 7

lasting marriages do not mean that the couples are happy... yes its true that there are those that stay together for comfort and security.

Answer 8

I haven't met a truly happy couple thats been together for more than a few decades but I'm sure they do exist

Answer 9

I think there is a big difference between a successful marriage and a lasting marriage. However, a successful marriage will last.

Answer 10

I think about 90% stay for a reason.