I have a great job, am financially and emotionally secure, have a girlfriend but find that when it comes to spare time, I am not motivated to want to spend time with anyone, rather, I just end up staying in my place alone (I do live alone).
2007-10-03 17:33:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you to all the responses which I read and took on board thoughtfully. Many of them do make sense. I have just come out of a winter sport season where I was committed 3 nights a week and all weekend. I never used to have spare time and now I have it, I just don't seem to be motivated to do anything with it! As for the girlfriend and job, everything is fine there - we see enough of each other and it's not overly serious - a lot of fun actually and happy to leave it like that. From what I have read, I think the next step for me is to perhaps take up a summer sport, but not a serious one like in winter that consumed so much of my time.
Thanks again to all of your responses.
2007-10-03 18:55:17 · update #1
Do you feel lonely? Depressed? Those feelings can give a person a feeling as if they are holding themself back from doing what they want to do.
2007-10-03 17:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
People have different and varied personalities. You may be more introverted and intuitive. You said you don't know how to "kick it". Are you shy? Do you decline offers to socialize because the people you know are not doing the things you enjoy? You may be a mature adult.
Create/convene a group or network of people you are comfortable around and enjoy. Invite other adults over for a football game; a cookout.Volunteer with Big Buddy program or mentor a youth who is interested in your line of work.
More people should enjoy their homes, securities, and time alone. Still, there are others who wish for uninterrupted "down" time. You find satisfaction in your job and seem to be enjoying the fruits of your labor. Maybe you just want to chill out and that's a healthy thing to do.
2007-10-04 01:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by Tonya R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things come to mind. First, get a good physical examination to make sure you don't have anything physical wrong with you that makes you tired enough that you want that time alone. If it is not physical, try to discover things that arouse your interest outside of your place. Thank about and ask yourself if you are spending time alone because this is not the right girl for you if she can't motivate you to do things outside the home with her. Get some good daily vitamins and take them everyday and they might help also. Good Luck!!
2007-10-04 01:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be suffering from depression and not even realize it. The other thing is that you need to be around people who share the same passion or love for the same things as you do. You could also be suffering from just flat out fatigue. You should see a doctor about this though. It can turn worse if you don't diagnose it properly. You don't want to treat a broken foot by massaging your neck...Good luck!
2007-10-04 00:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by SventhHeaven 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't sound unmotivated! You sound unsettled-inbetween emotions-you may have a girlfriend, but it doesn't sound emotionally attached, and with any expectations, or exciting! Where is your interests? Try doing something you liked when you were younger! Don't be so old, that you wouldn't do something Crazy! Dance before you die! You can't live after your gone! You get one chance, and thats now! My best to YOU and YOURS!
2007-10-04 00:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by sandra_guenette13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are fine being being alone with their spare time and your not a total bum since you have a gf and all. but sooner or later she might become board with your life style and leave you for something better. can you cope with that? i suggest you give our society a chance and interact with us. go to the park and kick a soccer ball around with your gf, its calm, relaxing and healthy. but whatever you do, just pick up a hobby. that would be a start to something productive in your life.
2007-10-04 00:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by skeezbucket 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are bore and I can analyze your situation. You have every things and you do not need anything else. Your life is struck and you need an excitement to your boring life. Try to travel and visit friends. Learn how to social with people at work and the more you talk to people then you will realize how lucky you are in this life. Good luck.
2007-10-04 00:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by ryladie99 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sound like you are very comfortable with you.
Many people spend their whole life getting to that point. In that case they have to have others around or they feel "lonely".
I think it is great for you to have the option, of when, you want to be social.
Enjoy your life, it not a problem unless you make it one.
2007-10-04 00:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by All-One 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're introverted. If you wanted to, you would find ways to be more social and outgoing, but you're not motivated right now. You have no need to be, nothing is challenging you. I think once an obstacle arises in your life, you might re-consider being social.
2007-10-04 00:39:29 · answer #9 · answered by bloodsanctum 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's possible that you are spreading yourself thin with commitments, and that could be why you want to have alone time. There's nothing wrong with that. Are you happy with your life? If so, why try to fix something that's not broken?
2007-10-04 00:46:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋