can you help with useful information
2007-10-05 06:58:41 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
P.S. I have two kids. Do you think it's going to mess them up at all?
2007-10-05 07:23:25 · update #1
Hey, what's your wife's name and number so I can call her and tell her what a POS you really are!
I'm sure she'd appreciate it.
2007-10-05 07:01:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Been there.
Unfortunately your relationship has started to stagnate, and I guess you are in your late twenties / early thirties, male ( You never know these days ), and have a high sex drive that is un catered for.
There's a thing called "The seven year itch" and you will have it if you maintain those thoughts, or don't talk with your wife.
A girlfriend on the side is a great idea, sexually.
Unfortunately life isn't like that, and your wife will not like it either, as and when her suspicions are confirmed.
Like it or not, your wife knows you better than you know yourself, and will take every penny you have, indeed your livelihood, if she found you were cheating.
Try to maintain it as a sexual fantasy if you can, but trust me, it isn't just sex you will inherit; it would be a torn between two women type scenario, which when they have their teeth out, really isn't much fun.
My divorce almost killed me. No joke.
A straight forward one would have been ok.
With another woman involved, it is a totally different matter.
Talk to your wife about improvement within your relationship.
If you can't, quit while the goings good and start again.
P.S. Masturbation is far far cheaper than a divorce.
2007-10-05 07:16:47 · answer #2 · answered by Mike D 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do not go and get a girlfriend because you do not know what you really want. Just like you are ready to go and cheat on your wife, you'll end up doing the same thing to whatever girlfriend you are trying to find. You need to take some time with yourself and figure out why you feel you need a girlfriend. You may find that there is just a problem in your marriage that can be easily fixed by talking and working it out. Remember your vows you took before God 5 years ago even before you do that.
2007-10-05 07:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Then you shouldn't have gotten married. Talk to your wife about this conversation. I'm sure she'll be thrilled to talk about it.
Seriously man, if you think your life is over or you made a mistake, suck it up and act like man, talk to her about your feelings because she may be feeling some things of her own. That's what marriage is about dude, communication. If you are having needs not being met, talk about it, you'll be surprised.
If you're just some schmuck that wants to have his cake and eat it too, then go for it, hope she takes half your crap and makes you pay alimony for the next 20 years.
If you married the wrong person and she's a beyotch all the time non stop, then throw her out. It may cost you half your crap but it's worth it in the long run if no alimony is involved.
2007-10-05 07:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by Dude 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sweetie, no, no, no!!
First of all, you haven't given enough information. Marriage is not a game. I thought the marriage vow said, "For better or for worse, for rich or for poor, in sickness and in health, til death do us part."
NOT "Till I get bored" or "til I find someone I like better."
Be faithful to your wife. Cheating is a horrible, horrible thing to do to your wife! And to your marriage! I hope you don't have kids!
Run to the library and pick up the book, "The Five Love Languages." It's a relationship guide that has saved many marriages. It is a quick, precise, and easy read that offers insight to so many problems and gives simple solutions.
It teaches you how to effectively show love to your spouse and how she can do the same for you. It's much easier than you think, I promise. Read it, and then give it to her.
DON'T CHEAT! Fix the problem. It CAN be fixed if you work at it. Cheating is the cowardly way out!
If a marriage can be saved, it truly should be! And they all honestly can, as long as both people are willing to work things out.
2007-10-05 07:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by ellenoid 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should have thought of this before you got married. A married man having a girl friend on the side is hurting the women he swore to love and cherish, the girlfriend because he is not giving either woman full attention. He is hurting himself because his wife is going to clean him out in the divorce which will hurt the children.
If you are lucky you will not get an STD. I have known many a wife who caught STD's from their cheating husbands. No one respects a man who cheats. Not even his children.
Get a divorce while you are still on good terms with your wife then have all the girl friends you want and your wife can move on with her life.
2007-10-05 07:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
look your an adult and you need to think like one...you made vows to this woman...do u not care what ur word means to ppl??? you have children too is this what you want them to think that a marriage should be like this??? would you want this for your little girl??? what if the man she married ended up like you? would you want that for her? why would want to ruin 3 lives? is this just a game for you? be more responsible than that...u can mess with their lives better just leave and let them be....wow some ppl
2007-10-08 08:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by tinker143 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a helpful tip....DON'T DO IT!
If you have only been married for 5 years and you are already thinking of cheating, then the marriage wasn't right to begin with. You should tell your wife that it isn't working, and you should get a divorce. It will hurt her, but less than if she should ever find out you were cheating on her. Let her get on with her life, or work on the life you have together......
2007-10-05 07:02:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
What is wrong with you? Why do you want a girlfriends? I think that your wife deserves better than that. If you don't want to stay married be a man and admit to that. I hope that she has a boyfriend on the side.
2007-10-05 07:03:15 · answer #9 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yeah, get a divorce!!! Or ask yourself if it would be fair for her to have a boyfriend on the side at the same time? If she is ok with that then u both can appear on The Jerry Springer Show, swingers on Springer!!
2007-10-05 07:06:44 · answer #10 · answered by jack_black_91 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you ever thought maybe ur wife would also like some one on the side why not be honest with her if she dont then at least she know ur plan and hopefully she will divorce you have half of everything ur sorry cheating *** has an u can go have all the pussy ur heart wants with out having to lie about it b
2007-10-05 07:06:41 · answer #11 · answered by dont worrie about tomorrow 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋