The father of the baby and I wanted this baby so much and we planned it. Now, things have gotten bad and I've discovered his attitude is horrible plus he has a really bad temper. I am scared he will do something when he gets in his rage. My question is... When can I start asking for child support? Iam 1 month pregnant now. Thanks in advance
2007-10-05 06:40:03 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't get child support for a child that is not even born.
2007-10-05 06:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by Alissa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can not ask for child support until after the baby is born and paternity has been established.
Paternity can established in several different ways.
1. The father signing the birth certificate
2. A DNA test is done
3. Once you contact the child support dept he admits to being the father.
Once this is done then you will go to a hearing and child support will be established.
As for the father, do not let him stress you, it may be better for you to avoid him and make minimum contact while you are pregnant. I know this baby was planned but some men change for the wrong once the baby is conceived because you are emotional and they don't know how to deal with it.
Love yourself and don't worry about him cause if he is treating you bad he is not a real man and needs to grow up.
2007-10-05 06:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by Lady E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the things I don't understand.You said you were both planing on a baby?Where in the plans was marriage?If you were married and left him you could ask for spousal support until the baby was born and child support after.The other people are correct though if he has a temper you should hide.Remember O.J. Good luck.
2007-10-05 06:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant get child support until the baby is born but if you go on the system you can get help. right now they will give you vouchers for milk and stuff you need to keep healthy, when your about 6 months old they will start giving you money to get things for the baby. When the baby is born you can go after the father for money.
Sweetie- you dont need him to raise this baby, if you decide to keep it. There are so many women out there that are raising kids alone, it's tough believe me there are soo many nights I cried myself to sleep but you can do it, be strong for yourself and that baby. If he doesnt want the baby fine. Take care of it and move on.
Good Luck to you
2007-10-05 06:44:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I assume you will have to wait until the baby is born. You should prepare to get an attorney and have him in court ASAP. Contact some now, and ask some questions.However, depending on which state you are in, you will most likely have to allow him visitation as well unless you can prove, and it can be very difficult to do so or about impossible to prove that he is a threat to the baby. There are also legal services, but they take longer to get your case in court, than a regular attorney. Good Luck.
2007-10-05 06:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by starchild4485 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When the child is born. There is many a slip twixt the cup and the lip, in other words, it takes nine months for the child to develop and be born, anything can happen in those months. The best you can do now is apply for welfare. Besides, if you and he wanted this child so badly, why didn't you wait until you got married?
2007-10-05 06:46:10 · answer #6 · answered by darkdiva 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this might sound bad, but don't have the baby. He's a nut case and not someone you want around a child. Remember it will also be his child too, so he may want to take the child with him, and you can't stop him because he's the father. Don't do it, or you could be putting yourself and your child in danger.
2007-10-05 06:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start looking into it now! But I don't think you can get any money till the baby actually comes. But like I said, find out what you'll have to do now so you don't have to run around in confused circles at the same time as the baby comes.
2007-10-05 06:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by Missy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get with a social worker and see what your options are untill the baby is born. Im not sure if you can collect support for a baby that isnt here yet?
2007-10-05 07:01:01 · answer #9 · answered by jack_black_91 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there has to be a baby to support. your states laws will define what determines when he is responsible for support.
are you sure you want to raise a child of his. He will always have ties to you and your life from now until the child is 18 and out of school.
that and what are the odds of him actually paying anything at all. he will resent you for having this child (if he doesn't already).
hope you are older than I think you are.
2007-10-05 06:50:57 · answer #10 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a ******* mess. Before you start thinking about child support, how about thinking about getting you and your kid away from this guy? You need to talk to a lawyer about the child support issue, but you're not going to get it until after the child is born.
2007-10-05 06:43:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋