My husband and I have been married for over 7 years and met in the state we are currently living in, my hometown. He hates it! I have to hear about 2 hours straight everyday on why he hates the state, the "minorities", the jobs, and why a meteor should completely wipe it and everyone who lives here off the face of the earth. Which I don't understand, here its not bad, I've seen bad! He is desperate to move to his birthplace (never lived there) in FL. He says everyone there is nice, courteous, waves, starts conversations. No allergies, no traffic, better paying jobs. I myself am a minority so he is looking forward to where there is more white people like him. Pretty much its Mayberry to him. We have a very troubled relationship and he is willing to go no matter what. I love being near my family, truly my only friends. I absolutely don't fly, so I'm scared I will never see them again. And if we do separate where will I live there? Anyone had these problems?
2007-10-05 07:01:38 · 9 answers · asked by A A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are missing the problem. The problem is not where you live, the problem is your husbands negative attitude.
Try dealing with that problem first.
Good luck.
2007-10-05 07:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know when the last time he has been to Florida, but when i lived there last year, that state is nice in the Scenery department, people in Florida are rude, quiet, and Lazy. everything is so slow there. i am not sure where you live but you need to rethink it. The living is higher there as well. but it depends on how much you love him and how much he loves you. Don't stay because of your Family, he married you not your Family, So sit down and draw up the bros and cons of both places. I hope the best for ya
2007-10-05 14:09:26 · answer #2 · answered by Randy W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you seem like a fairly insecure person. One way to feel good about moving is to have temporary arrangements in place so that if you don't like it you can come back, have a bus ticket in your pocket, a bedroom waiting, whatever it takes.
I live in Florida with my wife and she's decided she hates it here and wants to move. I said go ahead and offered to help her pack. This has been going on almost daily for over 3 years. She's still here. I wish that she will finally go.
2007-10-05 14:22:59 · answer #3 · answered by De-Activated Bad Profile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No allergies? In Florida? Is he on dope? That state is a virtual HAVEN for molds, funky spores, and pollens!
If he's that miserable then tell him not to let the door hit him in the *** on way out. I personally wouldn't move back to Florida, but that's just me.
If he is unwilling to compromise and you are that unhappy - something's gotta give.
2007-10-05 14:10:53 · answer #4 · answered by Susie D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't fly? Did you know crossing the street is more dangerous than flying? Where's your sense of adventure? You haven't even tried it and you're knocking it already. Make the move and see how you go, women tend to adjust to life alot quicker than men.
2007-10-05 14:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please take my answer to heart
You can not survive on love.. with this marriage..
If you are in doubt.. then don't do it.
.especially if you relationship is in trouble..
it will only get worse..
and he will not be kind to your feelings..
it is better you stay where you are comfortable with family and friends.
rather than be isolated on a island alone with him..
good luck..
2007-10-05 14:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't fly? But you get into a car when you know that is hugely more dangerous?
You have more problems than you are letting on.
2007-10-05 14:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go, no one here is holding a gun to his head and forcing him to stay.
2007-10-05 14:06:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make the move if he really wants to. You know us women always seem to adjust ok.
2007-10-05 14:06:49 · answer #9 · answered by baylees 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋