Marriage & Divorce - 5 October 2007

I have been married 8 years been with him 15 years we have 2 children together. I have had enough and want out he just doesn't seem to understand and thinks that if he apologises again or gives me enough time all will be good. I am sick of his laziness, the way he talks to me, and that his mood is always down. I want to be happy in life and be around happy people. I am also finding it harder to not think about other people and what a relationship with them would be like. How do I get him to understand? We have tried counselling but that ended up very one sided

2007-10-05 20:10:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous 3

To quote my favorite author Orsen Scott Card...

"Doesn't love show it's face when it satifies the needs of a loved one, for that loved ones sake alone?"

Now, I know how I appreciate my wife, so this isn't an "I'm looking for ideas." kind of question. I'm just curious what other people do.

None of this "I clean, I wash dishes, I take out the garbage." crap. What is it you do for your spouse that's 'special', that you have nothing to gain from other than knowing you did it for them.

2007-10-05 20:10:12 · 7 answers · asked by 2012, Change it back!! 4

I just don't care anymore. Not about my wife. She cheated on me with my worst, most hated enemy. Well, not my enemy, but just someone I found most repulsive. More-so than any other person I've ever met, except myself.

The point is, my wife cheated on me with me. And since I don't like myself at all, it made me sick when she had sex with someone who reminds me of myself. It makes me sick, and it was 10 years ago. Of course I didn't know about it for about five years or I would have never come home....we were apart at the time because I left her. It was my fault in a manner of speaking.

I think the basic question I seek the answer to is "How do I care about myself?" I have come to the realization that if you cannot love yourself you cannot truly love anyone else. And that is a real problem for me, because there are people in my life (kids) that deserve better than I am giving them.

And no, I am not bad to them, but I could be a heck of a lot better if I didn't hate myself so.

2007-10-05 20:09:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-05 20:02:11 · 3 answers · asked by jat 1

need to forget the painful past and try to live again

2007-10-05 19:55:03 · 11 answers · asked by lonelygirl 1

we've been dating 2 years, been married almost 6 months...
i dont feel appreciated??
i clean the whole house, come home from work its a mess
i make dinner, the time its eaten his is cold and im in bed
i always fall asleep without him
not as sweet anymore...
what can i do??
no rude comments please<3

2007-10-05 19:32:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

he's so selfish. last year he forgot the anniversary of our first kiss...ok, i kinda let that go. this year he forgot the anniversary of our first date! i'm starting to lose hope here...when i threw a fit and reminded him, he went out and bought me some gaudy gold necklace. if he was paying more attention to me, he would have know i wanted another diamond for my charm bracelett. just by me remembering all these special dates, it show's how much i value and treasure our relationship. i don't know what to do. should i prepare for a divorce??

2007-10-05 18:58:55 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous

After a long four years keeping to email/text my ex. He finally came back to me, but the reason was his current GF asked him to leave after she found out my emails. I know I should move on, but I can not help but to contact my ex. Last year, he came back to me one time, then, he left again. Should I take him back?

2007-10-05 18:13:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Been married for 3 years, husband has cheated on me via online. He keeps saying he wants out, but at the same time he tries to work things out with me.(not so much ) because he hasn't said 'i love you' in months. Plus he doesn't hug, kiss or touch me in anyway unless he feels he needs 'some lovin' for the night.

I love him, but I feel like we are more like roomates than anything else. I have been to myself, hardly talk to him for the same reason.

is this worth trying to work out? help.. thank you.

2007-10-05 17:53:33 · 13 answers · asked by aeiou 2

My girlfriend and I want to marry so bad, even though we both have no money. We don't care if won't have an apt or will be starving to death, we want to marry now. She will loose all her health care insurance if we marry because my work doesn't give me health insurance at all.

I make about $7/hour without benefits and she lives off of Social Security Disability. We fiqure we will find a way somehow and don't care we just want to marry and be married for the rest of our lives.

Anyone ever been in a similar situation?

2007-10-05 17:52:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

But you love your husband. Do you think it can work?

2007-10-05 17:52:00 · 17 answers · asked by ♥ ~Sigy the Arctic Kitty~♥ 7

2007-10-05 17:32:21 · 25 answers · asked by wanderjogi 2

2007-10-05 17:27:42 · 24 answers · asked by love 1

Does anyone read some of this stuff and just crindge? Makes me afraid for the future of the holy union that is marriage. Does anyone have anything positive to say about being married, or is anyone proud to be faithful? I know I am.

2007-10-05 17:16:24 · 13 answers · asked by Jennifer M 2

2007-10-05 17:10:44 · 6 answers · asked by hamid 1

My husband has this extremely frustrating new habit,when he says he is coming over at maybe 3 he would call back at 3 instead of coming and then say he would be their at 4 and he does this consistently for maybe 5 hours.no matter how bad i need him home or no matter whats wrong with me he still does it i end up frustrated and crying my eyes out he says he is sorry and maybe the next week he does it again why does he play this game with me and how can i get him to stop he also does it to the kids but not as much.

2007-10-05 16:56:42 · 16 answers · asked by cocoa 4 3

started tis relationship with this guy (38yr,newlw divorced, no kids) i am 24 yr, well, we had quite good relationship for 10 months apart from some arguments round last relationship that he is goig through financial settlement dispute..and i told lies about my nationality and job (i am actually a student who dont work, parents support money). and he didnt know until one night he find out frm email.. he is very angry, we are practically live together few weeks before this, and met his parents four months ago. and he wants to have break think about and see if we will have a future..i am very hurt as i didnt get move out due to usy with exam(has been four weeks now). and his parents pass opinion that i am using him for money, comfort, which i am not, i aways try to pay (perhaps 40% ) and he treats me quite badly sometimes, he still say he love me but i dont see he desire/want me as much as before..i am moving to motel tmrw, and feeling sad as dont know if this is the end of us...help

2007-10-05 16:49:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-05 16:41:47 · 33 answers · asked by Jordan M 2

My 9 yr old stepdaughter was sickly every time she came back from her birth mothers, starting in Dec. Each weekend she would come home & be sick and I would take off work to take her to dr. We would get her well and her 'mother' would take her for the weekend & she came home sick every time.
In March I took her to the emergency room bc she had slept all day. She would not eat or anything. Her pulse ox was at 82%. They airlifted her to a childrens hospital 3 hrs away. She was in Pediatric icu for 4 days and on the floor for 3 days. My husband & I have custody (the 'mother' dropped the girls off at our house when our son was 1 1/2 weeks old.) She doesn't work, recently married and does not pay her court ordered monthly support of 150.00. What can I do?

2007-10-05 16:41:44 · 12 answers · asked by dmoon 2

even in public.........we used to make out in the car, we don't do that. He'll only peck me and hold my hand, because he doesn't want me to look like a whore in public. IS that boring or what? Why did it have to change just because we've been together forever??

2007-10-05 16:40:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my husband are constantly separating and getting back together, its always because i keep giving him a chance and as soon as he is back in he does something devastating again. He treats me very poorly never hits me but poor in other areas i constantly run back because we have 4 kids together and i become so lonely without him,yet when im with him im miserable how do i finally let go and move on with my life ?

2007-10-05 16:39:22 · 10 answers · asked by cocoa 4 3

one of my best friends is 31(im 14) and she has a 60yo hubby. they have been married 4 n3/4yrs now. she has one step-daughter who is older thasn her by 2 yrs(actaully her hubby's stepdaughter from 1st marriage who's mum is dead) and 2 stepsosn age 17 n 15. her stepsosn love her like their mom(there mom is currently in jail for lesbian child sex abuse and the kids have disowned her) the older stepdaughter alos gets on fine iwth her mom but lives in egypt wiv her 2 sons so she hardly eva meerts. about 2 years ago my friend was attacked cos of the age gap in her marriage.why? why dont ppl like age gaps in relationship?
btw my friend claims the love in her relationship has died out but her hubby stiil loves her(she dusnt love him) but she stays cos of the "gr8 sex she gets" and the love for her stepkids/pets/house/in-laws dat live with her

so what are your veiws? plz dont post mean things. WHY DO YOU NOT LIKE AGE GAPS IN MARRIAGE?

2007-10-05 16:34:36 · 13 answers · asked by possessed by insanity 3

me and a distant family member of mine both experienced a relationship with someone that was involved and even married with kids to someone else (we both didnt know about it, please read on), these men lived two lives, with me he was having two families, mine with my kids and parents and his, in two countries thats why i didnt know there was someone else. either way, both men had pretty much the same pattern, one claimed to have cancer, the other a heart attack, of course it was a lie. i dont consider myself naive, neither is my cousin, but somehow we got trapped in something crazy. i read this is a pattern and a disorder these people have, anyone else ever experienced something like it?

2007-10-05 16:30:51 · 7 answers · asked by not this way 5

She says that we are over, and i keep persisting emailing her. I'm not meaning to. I love her, and i just don't know. Help me. Please.

2007-10-05 16:18:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love my wife of 7 years, and my 2 children, and the one coming soon. But over my last deployment, I met a girl. I feel the same way for her as I do for my wife. She and my wife get along really well, but I can tell that the whole situation is hurting my wife. She is trying to be accepting of the situation for my sake, but I don't know if she is going to be able to handle it. I can not stand to lose any of them, what do I do?

2007-10-05 15:54:54 · 23 answers · asked by pittiesrock 2

Is it a women's desire to "femitize" her "man" or is a "man" really that whimpy that if he doesn't go along he won't "get any" or face other humiliations. This is troubling in this Country. In other Countries you NEVER insult a "man" with such an FABRICATED insinuation

2007-10-05 15:51:12 · 20 answers · asked by nick 1

My wife has told everyone that I am a cheater, I wanted a divorce and have my life back because Ifelt it was such a pain for me to be with her. I have tried all I can to improve our relationship, but it does not work. What should I do?

2007-10-05 15:50:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Last night I dreamed that I came home to find my husband in bed with another woman. I woke up crying. When I told my husband about that dream, he asked what the woman was doing, what she looked like. Was I wrong to think his response was strange? Should I be worried aboout this?

2007-10-05 15:50:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

How do I get my husband to see that I want to be treated like the most important person in his life. Get him to treat me like a princess. Could I be wrong for asking this. Am I being high maintanence ?

2007-10-05 15:50:02 · 11 answers · asked by SHAY RN 2

I believe a strong wife and husband relationship starts with a mutual understanding.This is coupled with love,security,trust and a good communication with its other.This is also true to live without pretentions.I tried to be a good wife,a friend whom he can confide in anytime he needs me.I told him things that annoys me nevertheless this was in vain.How can i show him that i want him to realized i existed and i was there for him.Why he tend to find somebody else when he can tell me what he wanted to do in his life?I will give him his freedom anytime he want to though it hurts coz i'm expecting now but he kept on telling me I was important in his life nothing else!How can i convince myself i was indeed the love of his life?

2007-10-05 15:46:11 · 9 answers · asked by Scorpions L 1