I believe a strong wife and husband relationship starts with a mutual understanding.This is coupled with love,security,trust and a good communication with its other.This is also true to live without pretentions.I tried to be a good wife,a friend whom he can confide in anytime he needs me.I told him things that annoys me nevertheless this was in vain.How can i show him that i want him to realized i existed and i was there for him.Why he tend to find somebody else when he can tell me what he wanted to do in his life?I will give him his freedom anytime he want to though it hurts coz i'm expecting now but he kept on telling me I was important in his life nothing else!How can i convince myself i was indeed the love of his life?
2007-10-05 15:46:11 · 9 answers · asked by Scorpions L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to understand one thing about men, they dont like to sit and have chats and talk about whats going on in their heads, and how they feel in the moment. These are guys for gods sake, they have been this way for hundreds of years! It sounds to me like you may be adding to much pressure on this guy to comunicate and open up and whats gonna end up happening is that eventually you will push him into the arms of another woman. Back off of him, give the guy a little room to breathe, I know how you expect and think that relationships begin with understanding and love but they also require giving a man his space, he may just simply be one of those types of guys who doesnt want to girl talk, dont try to force words down the guys throat either, like I said before you dont want to scare him away, just lay low, and keep in mind, sometimes the best kinda way to show your love is not by words, its by actions, so next time try giving him a back rub or run him a hot bath, or even treat him to dinner, without a bunch of chit chat. Good Luck
2007-10-05 16:37:04 · answer #1 · answered by penelope 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a 2-way street...you both have to talk. If you aren't getting all the talking you want, you need to instigate it. You can't just sit back and hope it happens. Be assertive & proactive.
Why are you so wrapped up in convincing yourself of something? This will only cause you grief. There is no tangible way to prove a "feeling."
Get the help you need from a therapist and learn to be fulfilled from within. A man should not be the one to fill your emptiness. You should be a whole person, all on your own. The relationship is just an add-on, to really make things even better. But you are the one that controls you, your feelings and your well-being. Become a whole person by beleiving in yourself. You need to build your self-confidence and self-esteem.
2007-10-05 16:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by Susan N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you do a bit of research on how men tend to deal and handle situations. Typically men don't talk much. It doesn't mean they don't care, or they don't have an opinion about something.
I used to throw HUGE fits because I wanted my husband to "talk" and "communicate" and well basically be a girl-friend. But he's not a girl-friend and I found that simple conversation is best and creates even more of a bond. You don't have to have a 3 hour discussion for him to know you are there for him. You just have to tell him you are there...be direct.
2007-10-05 16:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you need to get to a point in wich he admires you, you need to became someone who he would feel the need to be with... what i see is that you are chasing him , begging him, and because of this your just throwing him out of your life. you Need to care for the number one...just you., and on time you'll see the changes, if you want him to change, you must change first, for good.
2007-10-05 16:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by edwinjoel22 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your comments are correct in theory, but in practice, men are like that. Are the items he is telling others so important in objective terms. If so, you have problems, and a trip to a social worker could be useful. If not, just work at it little by little.
2007-10-05 15:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by cattbarf 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it is called pride in some of male species. they can't seem to open up because they do not want to seem sensitive. i tell my husband if you need that shoulder i am here. we were talking about our parents. his mom has cancer and he is having a somewhat hard time getting use to her being so sickly. my father died of cancer and i was telling him that i watched my father disappear and you know what that was the first time we actually cried together, it wasn't like we were leaning on each other but we shared some tears. that was bitter sweet but i hope you get my message. know that he loves you and one day he'll talk to you.
2007-10-05 15:57:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Men will play with your head..
men love other women for their traits.. some for boobs.. some brains. some for kindness..
sounds like u have low self esteem.. u need to get a back bone.. ur hormones are out of whack right now..
but never love him.. (u man) more than u love ur self.. u are setting ur self up too be hurt.....
2007-10-05 15:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why can't wives talk to their husbands about what they really want?
Yeah, it happens to us too.
Ain't marriage a bytch sometimes?
2007-10-05 15:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
because they are afraid. afraid to be rejected and hurt the one they love.
2007-10-05 15:56:21 · answer #9 · answered by jose16 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋