My girlfriend and I want to marry so bad, even though we both have no money. We don't care if won't have an apt or will be starving to death, we want to marry now. She will loose all her health care insurance if we marry because my work doesn't give me health insurance at all.
I make about $7/hour without benefits and she lives off of Social Security Disability. We fiqure we will find a way somehow and don't care we just want to marry and be married for the rest of our lives.
Anyone ever been in a similar situation?
2007-10-05 17:52:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my girlfriend is pregnant, we do want kids.
2007-10-05 18:01:43 · update #1
Things always have a way of working things out. Maybe get on some housing that you pay by your income. That will take care of some of the stress of money for rent. They have plenty of agencies that can get you help. You have to search around and do the footwork. I would keep searching thru the temp services for a better job where you can get hired in full time. She should still be egible for benefits. A lot of people are married that are on Social Security. I don't think that's going to be a problem. People get married that have a lot of money and they still get divorced. More money more problems. Believe me that it's true. Good Luck and I would do it.
2007-10-05 18:10:48 · answer #1 · answered by Luv2no is in the house 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice to be married but that is only a piece of paper and your commitment to each other is what is important. Move in together and try to get some education and perhaps a better job where you can have insurance and make better money so that she keeps her medical care - especially with the baby on the way - and you can get married when you are more financially secure. You love is the most important thing and thus it is better to make life easier on each other by holding off on the marriage until you aren't as poor and dont have to endure the results of that.
2007-10-06 01:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you need to look at this from different angles. My fiance and I have been together for 8+ years and enaged for almost 4. We want to get married one day but we want it to be at the happiest time of our lives. We are currently working REALLY hard to build our own business so we work from the time we wake up until we go to bed and of course dont have much fun time. We've decided that once the business takes off, we will get married. I've been nagging for years.
Really there is no rush. If you KNOW you want to be with eachother, just be with eachother. Consider her losing her benefits. What if something happened to her? If she cant get a job to save some money, maybe you can put in some overtime, or find a better paying job. Consider your future. Getting married really wont change anything or make it different from what you have now. Really think about it. There's no rush!
2007-10-06 01:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Money should not be a factor in deciding to get married. A marriage license isn't that expensive. If the two of you don't go to church you should start. A church would help you because they believe in the institution of marriage.
2007-10-06 01:01:42 · answer #4 · answered by scarletxvi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well dont waste time and get married. Marriage is what God wants us to do to keep ourselves away from sins. So do it God will help you. And as you guys love each other then do it as soon as possible. I admit that money is important but not more than ture love once you miss the job you could find another easily but if you lost your true love it will be impossibly tough to find other. So go for it
Good luck
2007-10-06 00:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by chem-mystry 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't you know that marriages have broken up over finances?? Its part of the decision, and makes a crucial impact if not taken seriously.
If you do decide to marry, then DON'T have children until your capable of financially caring for one. Sheesh.
2007-10-06 00:59:21 · answer #6 · answered by ellen 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Join the military...for real. They will take care of you guys. They are all about family and benefits. me and my husband were dirt poor, and he is now army and we are living a very comfortable lifestyle :) Seriously...think about it. Dont you want to be able to provide for your children?? www.goarmy.com
2007-10-06 01:54:04 · answer #7 · answered by Paralegal1982 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where is the rush? Get some schooling under your belts. Stay in love. Once you both have some decent money coming in, then it won't be such a struggle.
2007-10-06 01:01:24 · answer #8 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I saw this before in my college.. Go to school together for the same degree (like nursing) and get all your classes together, so you can help each other study, and the BIG bonus is that you both get financial aid, which means you'll be getting paid to go to school. If you have kids, then you get way more, so go for it, but GO TO SCHOOL!
2007-10-06 00:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by savagegrace 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Why you have to hurry getting married? Are you 80 years old?
2007-10-06 00:58:41 · answer #10 · answered by Seph2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋