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even in public.........we used to make out in the car, we don't do that. He'll only peck me and hold my hand, because he doesn't want me to look like a whore in public. IS that boring or what? Why did it have to change just because we've been together forever??

2007-10-05 16:40:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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i think there is a time for everything.
the relationships evolve, change, modify etc..
so the sexual drive of people changes too.
the wildness and craziness of the first years moves on for a more "quality" sex, coziness, tenderness etc.. and that is not bad either.
if that new attitude bores you, try to let your spouse know you want to spice up a bit. you can look for other ways that do not involve sex in public, maybe he is afraid of submitting you to some unnecessary risks.
plan some short getaways, that might give you the illusion of the unknown... of places to conquer that don't belong in everyday life.
and if that does not help, well look for some therapist you can both talk to and find common ground that is comfortable for both of you.
good luck and have fun

2007-10-05 16:49:03 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyes 7 · 2 0

Heck yes we still make out......after 42 years of marriage too. It is better than ever too. The first 41-1/2 years were pretty touchy but something has sparked in my wife and she is HOT!!! 71 years old and HOT!! Tonight we are going to go out to a secluded piece of property that we own and have a fire by the creek and park ourselves there and God only knows what will happen. She just came home from the grocery and suggested we go tonight. Eat your hearts out............

2014-10-26 09:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by Vince Foster 2 · 0 0

i understand the form you sense!!! My important different isn't that into kissing, cuddling, or perhaps intercourse. It tears you up interior. i replaced into easily laying in mattress a pair of hours in the past, crying for the same reason you're. it isn't any longer you. do no longer think of that. and don't substitute who you're. i are conscious of it is so difficult to no longer take it in my view, in spite of the undeniable fact that this is him with the priority, no longer you. the perfect concern you're able to do is confer with him. Ask him why. tell him you sense like he pulled out all of the strikes to get you interior the 1st place, and now that he has you, for some reason he feels it is okay to end making the attempt. it isn't any longer ok! You, as his spouse, deserve a proof. He can not withdraw the intimacy you the two shared without telling you why. If he's having some form of concern, he desires to be honest approximately it. you could desire to communicate to him, and as quickly as attainable because of fact the resentment, frustration and anger you sense will explode. and you ought to use it in a unfavourable way - by ability of cheating (which i will nicely understand, you're searching for that affection. you sense so low which you're feeling such as you want that validation from somebody who delivers that to you - yet this comes at a cost, probable your marriage). tell your husband that issues would desire to alter. Have a final date on your concepts, if by ability of that factor he hasn't made any attempt to be affectionate, then bypass away. you do no longer would desire to stay like this for the the remainder of your existence. only undergo in concepts - it isn't any longer you with the priority.

2016-12-17 18:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by hillhouse 4 · 0 0

My husband and I make out from time to time, but neither of us are in it for the attention, so doing it in public is out. We've kind of found a place, physically speaking, that we're both happy with. I had to speak up though a few years back and likewise my husband has had to talk with me about his needs. Telling him what you want is a good place to start.

2007-10-05 16:47:57 · answer #4 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 1 0

you did it in the car because you didn't have the money to paid a room. once you could afford a room or have your own place, the hotel on wheel is a thing in your past. when you have your own room/place you can walk around nakie after the first 4 rounds.

2007-10-05 18:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas 6 · 1 0

I feel that this is a phase in some long term relationships that can become an unfortunate permanent thing if not put into check as soon as it becomes a problem. let him know how you feel and be very open about it.

2007-10-05 16:52:48 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 1 0

appreciate him

because some people don't even hold hands or peck

2007-10-05 17:44:39 · answer #7 · answered by Thank God! Praise God! 3 · 1 0

gee, you're lucky that he even holds your hand and gives you a peck..

I get nothing. not even a hug.

2007-10-05 16:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by aeiou 2 · 1 0

My wife and I used to, until I screwed up.

2007-10-05 16:50:50 · answer #9 · answered by pittiesrock 2 · 1 0

Nancy and I make out at red lights.

And we're old people.

She's just HOT

2007-10-05 16:43:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

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