started tis relationship with this guy (38yr,newlw divorced, no kids) i am 24 yr, well, we had quite good relationship for 10 months apart from some arguments round last relationship that he is goig through financial settlement dispute..and i told lies about my nationality and job (i am actually a student who dont work, parents support money). and he didnt know until one night he find out frm email.. he is very angry, we are practically live together few weeks before this, and met his parents four months ago. and he wants to have break think about and see if we will have a future..i am very hurt as i didnt get move out due to usy with exam(has been four weeks now). and his parents pass opinion that i am using him for money, comfort, which i am not, i aways try to pay (perhaps 40% ) and he treats me quite badly sometimes, he still say he love me but i dont see he desire/want me as much as before..i am moving to motel tmrw, and feeling sad as dont know if this is the end of us...help
2007-10-05 16:49:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is to old for you, forget him go find someone your own age. He isn't ready for you or any other girl yet and the reason you can't see it is your to young and to ensconce for a boyfriend. Enjoy your youth while you still can don't give it to someone almost old enough to be your father.
2007-10-05 17:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what was you thinking!!!!! you knew he is a newly divorcee and trust issues is sensitives with him. if you only can help out 40% with the expense, how long do you think you can last living in a motel? now, what do you except if it was the other way around (you trade place with him). You found out that he lied about his nationality and finance. Your parents already got you seeing that he is using you. Which now your parents is the only one you can trust. It might be over, that is really left up to him. And if he does give you a second chance, it will not be as smooth as you think. There will be time he will treat you badly when he get angry. so, that is something that you should take into an account. remember this is what your lying got you into...
2007-10-06 00:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youare only 24 and he is 38 and he found out from email that your parents support you and you go to school. Okay maybe you shold have told nim but seriously after 10 months he had no idea that you didnt have a job so I see this now as an excuse to back out. Now all of a sudden he and his parents say you are using him? What about before when they thought you had a job? Did they think you were using him then? They just have newfound information and ar using it to their advantage. Finish school, find somene in your age range and be the best at your field after you graduate and make him eat his heart out!
2007-10-06 00:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by Vicky Lovers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with out trust there is no hope of making it work and as you didnt tell him the truth you not only broke his trust but made him look foolish to his parents and friends im sure. newly divorced not sure how long you ment but remember after divorce there is a rebound relationship so if you are that most times it wont last. move on and let him move on to.
2007-10-06 00:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by tweettreat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were the one to lie in the first place.
so now you have to carry the consequences. I am sorry it turned out this way, but maybe in the next relationship, you start telling the truth upfront and not feel bad about who you are.
as long as you don't respect yourself you won't be able to consolidate a serious relationship with anyone.
move on and grow up.
good luck
2007-10-06 00:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by GreenEyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk to him and tell him you are sorry for not telling him you were in school and tell him you are trying to better your future to help you help you all. and if he still treats you badly if you get back together move on someone will love you for who you are. dont be sad your not doing nothing wrong you are betting your life for yourself and once you have a degree that is something no one can take away from you. i know from past experiences.
2007-10-05 23:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel you broke his trust by not telling the truth so maybe he doesn't love you anymore because you never gave him the chance to know the real you. You messed up girl.
2007-10-05 23:54:24 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very hard to understand
I'd cut my losses after Lying!
2007-10-06 00:07:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he still loves you.. i think.. but he has a doubt if you still love him.. well i think he doubted your love because you lie to him once.. Honey! telling lies will do no good in your relationship you dont have to lie just for him to love you.. just be true to your self and everything will be alright.. AGAIN...
2007-10-05 23:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by minx 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You lied to him about your nationality and and what you do for a living.....and you are hurt??? Geeeee.......
2007-10-05 23:59:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋