How do I get my husband to see that I want to be treated like the most important person in his life. Get him to treat me like a princess. Could I be wrong for asking this. Am I being high maintanence ?
2007-10-05 15:50:02 · 11 answers · asked by SHAY RN 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Easy - treat him like he's the most important person in the world to you and in your life; treat him like a prince/king. Once you start, keep going before you decide this does not work... you'll get a lot more back from him this way than by trying to demand his attention and admiration. Make it a game for yourself until it becomes second nature - this, more than anything, will change the quality of your relationship
Cherish him and you'll get it back 10 fold!
Try it for a week - without announcing it to him... see what happens...
Good luck!
2007-10-05 15:59:51 · answer #1 · answered by Gatubella 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, your not being unreasonable or high maintanence, and as someone else said, if you treat him like a prince/king, he may do the same in return. I don' think it's unreasonable for you to want to be the most important person in his life, because you should be.
He should look and think of you as the most important person and put you, and your feelings and needs before his own.
2007-10-06 00:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he do this before you were married? If not, then you are expecting him to be something he never was.
Maybe you should set up date nites, where you each focus on planning a special nite to make the other one happy. For instance, Week 1, you plan every detail to make him happy. Week 2, he plans every detail of the date, to be focused on your happiness. Maybe you just miss "dating." Marriage isn't the same.
Get over the princess thing...that's a fantasy. Princess is something created in Hollywood and Disneyworld. It's not reality for 99% of married couples.
Be proactive and make special times happen. Appreciate the little things and recognize them. Compliment him when he does something you like, so he knows to keep doing it. Maybe he will start doing these little things more often.
2007-10-05 23:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by Susan N 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong in wanting to be treated like a princess or at least be an obvious priorty to him. Talk to him about what that entails at a time he is open and receptive to you. Use I messages. Give him positive feedback if he makes some changes. Hang in there. All the best.
2007-10-09 22:40:07 · answer #4 · answered by Mim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think treating you like the most important person in his life is reasonable ... because you are or you ought to be. I would rather be treated as an equal, a partner in the best sense of the word, and have him respect me for my talents. I like the traditions that men do for women ... opening doors, holding their coat, etc., but I would feel uncomfortable if they treated me like an airheaded princess. THAT would be high maintenance, IMO.
2007-10-05 23:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by Meg 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be treated well you must treat him well. You are not a princess you are a flawed human like the rest of us. Once your married reality sets in, or it should. Just be good to him no matter how he treats you. Be kind, giving, caring, sharing, understanding, patient, tolerant, selfless, have unconditional love for him, be quick to forgive and slow to anger. You should treat all people this way then you will have happy trails.
2007-10-05 23:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men really have no clue how women want to be treated. Talk to him. You're not expecting too much to want him to treat you like you're important, but make sure you appreciate his efforts when he makes them or he will stop.
2007-10-05 23:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm also having that problem, I want to be held in the morning that's all I ask,. I don't know what to do. I just go on with my day but at night it does hurt to feel left out.
Good Luck..
2007-10-05 23:03:35 · answer #8 · answered by aeiou 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope. the worse men treat women, or the less attention men give women ,the more we tend to expect/want.
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2007-10-05 22:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey... he either thinks of u that way..... or he doesn't ..
and if he doesn't ... there is NOTHING.. u or anyone else can do to make him do it..
he has to love, and respect for u.. and if he doesn't that is that.
You are the one who needs to face the fact he is the way he is.. and NOW you want to change him...
marriage is not about change....
except him for who and what he is..
2007-10-05 23:03:20 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋