one of my best friends is 31(im 14) and she has a 60yo hubby. they have been married 4 n3/4yrs now. she has one step-daughter who is older thasn her by 2 yrs(actaully her hubby's stepdaughter from 1st marriage who's mum is dead) and 2 stepsosn age 17 n 15. her stepsosn love her like their mom(there mom is currently in jail for lesbian child sex abuse and the kids have disowned her) the older stepdaughter alos gets on fine iwth her mom but lives in egypt wiv her 2 sons so she hardly eva meerts. about 2 years ago my friend was attacked cos of the age gap in her marriage.why? why dont ppl like age gaps in relationship?
btw my friend claims the love in her relationship has died out but her hubby stiil loves her(she dusnt love him) but she stays cos of the "gr8 sex she gets" and the love for her stepkids/pets/house/in-laws dat live with her
so what are your veiws? plz dont post mean things. WHY DO YOU NOT LIKE AGE GAPS IN MARRIAGE?
2007-10-05 16:34:36 · 13 answers · asked by possessed by insanity 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are several reasons why people frown on age gaps. Most often it is an older man marrying a much younger woman, ususally young enough to be his daughter. Most people look at the man like he could have been a child molester because he is an older man liking younger women. Second, most people feel that people with great age differences have nothing in common because one person is very youthful and the other person is most likely a senior citizen.
When you have a younger woman who is very attractive and vitle, the family usually thinks the woman is after the man's money. The thought is he is so old that he won't live much longer after the nuptuals. Then you have family battles.
If these two people genuinely love one another, the kids love the woman, who cares what other people think. As long as both parties are in the marriage for the right reasons.
2007-10-05 16:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by cinnamon35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a couple marries with a big age gap, they do not grow at the same rates. The older one always slows down quicker and gets dull and boring, falling asleep on the couch with their mouth open, they get dentures quicker, wrinkles, hair loss, etc while the younger is still interested in doing exciting things and is bored to death because the older has already gone past this stage. Sex drives change with age and they will be mismatched also. One becomes a widow or widower too soon. Also people assume they are with a parent not a partner and often embarrass the couple. If you marry with in 4 to 5 years of each other you will have a much better relationship, just being closer to the same stage of life.
2007-10-05 16:48:34 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 13 years older than my husband and unfortunately have been having some problems lately. They may be because of my own insecurities about getting older. We got married because I was pregnant and so maybe it's just the same problems that any marriage starting off in that way would encounter. I think that he felt cheated out of a lot. I believe that he was wondering if he could have done better. i.e. younger, more fun, and more attractive. I am attractive and young looking for my age but still things are starting to sag and wrinkle. I also had children from a previous marriage. More responsibilities for both of us and less time to concentrate on each other. So maybe it is not about age but his lack of having more freedom to choose someone else in general.
2016-04-07 06:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age gaps in friendships are no big deal. In marriages I think it all comes down to the person. Usually any 30 year old isn't going to want to be married to a 60 yr old anyway, but when they do, you just have to vette it out like you would two closer aged people. It's just hard for some to imagine that two such people could be on the same page, largely because they usually aren't even in that situation. If they can make it work as a fulfilling marriage though, goody for them.
2007-10-05 22:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best friend is 31 and you are 14. Its always safe to stick with your own age group. And 31 marrys 60yr old. Thats insane. Old grandpa is a pervert wants to play with young womans body. This is so sick. The world is so full of evil perverts using and abusing anyone at any cost.
2007-10-05 16:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are suspicious of these relationships because generally people who are so different in age do not have much in common, so it makes one question what the real motive is. Obviously the man will keep getting older and have to deal with declining health and will not be a partner she can grow old with. It already sounds like he has little to offer besides "gr8 sex."
2007-10-05 16:40:34 · answer #6 · answered by Toomanyquestions 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is nothing wrong w/age gaps in marriage as long as there are true feelings for each other. Why should people care about the age differnce-people are to busy being in everybody elses business instead of there own.
2007-10-05 16:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by Daisy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont see why anything should be wrong with it.u cant help how u feel about someone.altho i dont think she should stay with him if she doesnt love him anymore.maybe she should try to get the spark back.maybe they should go and do something for a day or two and see if anything comes back.but other then that i dont see one thing wrong with it.tell ur friend and see if they cant find a way to bring it back...good luck n hope it works out for everyone
2007-10-05 16:39:53 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl_12589 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hard part about that is procreation. If they had kids it would be harder on the kids not having a parent that could keep up with them.
2007-10-05 16:45:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not!...my parents are 12 years apart...my close friend's parents are like more than 16 years apart...they're still married!!
2007-10-06 07:18:08 · answer #10 · answered by Authentic Believer (SOA) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋