My wife has told everyone that I am a cheater, I wanted a divorce and have my life back because Ifelt it was such a pain for me to be with her. I have tried all I can to improve our relationship, but it does not work. What should I do?
2007-10-05 15:50:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
are you impersonating a woman and are a guy?
I don't understand what you want.... your questions are all gender confused or are you two people logging in with the same avatar and nickname??
I can't take you seriously unless you behave clear with all of us.
2007-10-05 16:20:07 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Three possible scenarios, only you know the truth:
1) A cheater deserves for the entire process to be difficult, annoying and nightmarish! Cheating can be both or one of the following: mental / physical. You cheated, you must pay the consequences of breaking the marriage contract.
2) If you didn't cheat, then you should seek counseling to understand why she thinks you are cheater. If you believe in the commitment you made, then you would be fighting for your marriage, not looking for an easy way out. Divorce isn't an option...work on it, that's what it's all about.
3) If she is psycho, abusive and making this up, then get a good attorney. Although divorce is expensive, it's well worth every dime.
2007-10-05 23:21:05 · answer #2 · answered by Susan N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce, tell your wife you just can't do this anymore, because you are tired. Dont make her feel less of a woman, because you feel like your stuck. Marriage took two to say yes. SO if your not happy then just move out. The more you think about it the more frighten you become. Your wife will be ok, and although she may not think so now, there is someone out there waiting for her to become available that she has never met. And soon her happiness will be there. Good luck in your new life.
2007-10-05 22:56:28 · answer #3 · answered by jas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be a cheater if she called you one. She knows best that you are no good. But dont imagine that you can use and abuse her and dump her by taking a divorce. You have taken the best years of her mental and physical life and now you want to divorce her at your will and fancy. What a hope. Now you pay for your sins. You cheat.
2007-10-05 22:55:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly dude the woman is still there and so she must love you still in some regard. Stop being soo selfish with this "get my life back" crap, and think about why you entered that union in the first place, which I believe was probably to share your life, and not horde it to yourself. Think about what the hell you are doing. Growing old with someone who wants to be there to care for you is a beautiful thing. Even if she aggravates you from time to time.
2007-10-06 00:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by pbell85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Love overcomes all,or so the romancers say.
*I am not too clear about the CHEATER thing:
1.Did you cheat in love?
2.Do you go around conning people?
3.What proof does she have ?
*You say YOU WANTED A DIVORCE! So what technical difficulty is there in you getting the decree?
Well gotta go now. we'll visit some other time, otherwise hanging around you too long, i might catch the cheater bug and be in trouble with my spouse.
2007-10-05 23:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Source 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to try counseling before you just do this. It makes me mad when people just say oh I don't want to be married anymore and we don't get along. Why did you get married in the first place, there must have been something good. Don't just give up. Go to counseling. Try before you just throw it all out the window.
2007-10-05 23:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by DuransMommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it. Its obvious that she doesn't want to work things out. These people she is telling probably know the truth...it all comes out in the end.
I have a friend who did the same thing. It sounds horrid, but we all know how bad she was to her husband, we (other friends and I) would never confront her about it because we are not friends with him. But we talk about it when she is not with us.
People know the truth...don't underestimate them.
2007-10-05 23:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your wife doesn't want a divorce but she's so hurt and angry that you cheated ( i assume) and she's having a really hard time dealing with it. why don't you tell her to just get it all off her chest with you - yell at you, get mad, cry, hate you, and tell her to do that whenver she feels bad so she can start getting it out of her system. do that for her. if you didn't cheat and she's just being a psycho, then you can just sue her for divorce. she doesn't have to agree to it when you sue. good luck.
2007-10-05 23:08:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur wife wont get a divorce???
she doesn't have a choice is u file!!!!
If u are unhappy.... then life is tooooo short.. go for it..
life was not meant to be miserable..
u only go around once..
2007-10-05 22:58:52 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋