marriage issues?

Question

we've been dating 2 years, been married almost 6 months...
i dont feel appreciated??
i clean the whole house, come home from work its a mess
i make dinner, the time its eaten his is cold and im in bed
i always fall asleep without him
not as sweet anymore...
what can i do??
no rude comments please<3

Answer 1

Talk to him and tell him what is going on. He might not notice it yet.

Answer 2

Oh Married Life!!! It Hasnt Happend To Me. But Its Happend To A Friend Of Mine And What She Did Was She Sat Her Hubby Down And They Picked 2 Days Outta The Week To Spend Time Together Like Go To The Movies Or Order In And Watch Movies, No Cell Phones, Nothing Just Them Two. Try Doing Something Like That. It Worked For Them And They Are As Happy As Ever... Good Luck =]

Answer 3

I've been married for 22 years now. I remember in the early years, I waited for my husband before coming to bed. Now, believe it or not, I prefer to go to bed first (so I can fall asleep before he comes to bed and starts tossing and turning!) I remember mentioning to my husband that I didn't feel appreciated -- he said he didn't feel appreciated either! I think we have a tendency to take each other for granted when we're married. But once in a while, he does say thank you for something I've done, and I try to do the same to him. You must remember, too, that men don't care as much about a clean house as women do. (We're the "nesters".) So they don't appreciate it that much. Some things you get used to, over time. But it is aggravating if you're working, and you're also doing the bulk of the housework and cooking. Perhaps you could scale down your hours (work part-time?) so you won't feel so resentful. Or hire a housekeeper if he refuses to pitch in. (And get him to pay if you have separate bank accounts.) Perhaps ask him what chores he would like to do (there might even be some that he prefers to do, and that he's good at). Re: dinner: What I do is I start calling my kids and husband BEFORE I actually put it out. It always takes them so long to get to the table. While they're coming, I'll wash some of the pots I've used, so I don't get aggravated by waiting. These are just some tips for you. Part of the problem is that men are men, and women and women. We're just different. And no one is perfect. But once in a while, every couple has their problems. It might help to express some of your concerns with your husband. Choose the most important ones. Maybe he doesn't even know how you feel! Men aren't that good at reading minds. Communication is key, but you don't want to be a nag. A lot of problems, such as you describe, end up working themselves out over the years. Some things you learn to live with and they stop annoying you, other things actually change over time (for the better) as people generally become nicer and more considerate as they get older. So don't feel too discouraged. It will all work out. Take care!

Answer 4

Tell him you do not feel appreciated & are concerned about marriage regarding communication (open honest, not catty, or hostile) and see how he responds. He should listen and not be defensive or tell you are over reacting.

Answere olike sorry X did not know you felt this way, work is so busy I guess getting home so late does make you lonely.

I felt a little lonely during the first adjustments of marriage. We were 2 independent people used to being on their own living together. Sometimes you do your regular old "single" routine. until the blurred lines of seperate but companion/married fall into place.

As for dinner and picking up if you lived apart before he did this himself. You don't know what that place looked like on non date nights. Just stop picking up daily and sometimes leave a note (sandwhich night MYO turkey & cheese in deli drawer fridge-Goodnight Love you)

Trust me he will let you know how much he loved that left over home madenuked Veggie Lasagna after his late night work project.

It is just a transition of 2 becoming 1 in one new household. It will fall into place. Good luck

Answer 5

By the sounds of it you have a few problems.
1st. If you are both working, why are you the only one doing the housework? If you're both working then there is no reason why the housework shouldn't be shared. Housework is not the job of only one partner in this case.
2nd. It sounds like you work different shifts, with him coming home much after you. This makes it very hard to have together time, especially if your not even in bed at the same time. Please make time, even if its on just on weekends, to spend some quality time together. Passing like ships in the night is not very conductive of a loving relationship.
3rd. Tell him if something bugs you - if you feel you're doing more of the work, if you're feeling unappreciated, if you are lonely. Talking is the only way he will KNOW what goes on in your mind. There are only a very few mind-readers, and I'm guessing he's not one of them.

Answer 6

All of us face this problem. Even i married a person whom i loved 4 years but i too faced all these problems after marriage iam also too upset with my marriage talk to Ur husband about this see what he has to say see what is in his mind. Its better u too go 4 a counseling it may help to make situations better.

Answer 7

He's probably not doing it on purpose, but unfortunately many guys mistake their wives for their mothers! You just need to be open about it and tell him how you feel. He probably doesn't realize.