he's so selfish. last year he forgot the anniversary of our first kiss...ok, i kinda let that go. this year he forgot the anniversary of our first date! i'm starting to lose hope here...when i threw a fit and reminded him, he went out and bought me some gaudy gold necklace. if he was paying more attention to me, he would have know i wanted another diamond for my charm bracelett. just by me remembering all these special dates, it show's how much i value and treasure our relationship. i don't know what to do. should i prepare for a divorce??
2007-10-05 18:58:55 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NEVER. Males are genetically programmed to forget things like the anniversary of your first kiss. you need not make a fuss about it.
It may well be the case that he was pretending forgetting to verify whether you have remembered it or not.
It is YOUR husband. Do whatever you like to do with him. Beat him, kick him, deny him food, but never think of leaving him. Firstly, it is not sure that you can get yourself a better husband than him, and secondly, God has not created you a woman and gifted you reproductive organs for the propagation of the species on the face of the Earth to lose your man. What type of girl are you if you cannot woo and make a sex-slave out of a man?
2007-10-05 19:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by sexy grandmother 4 · 1⤊ 7⤋
Wow . . . just . . . wow. I should do to you what I did to Aeris.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Pxq_pY5LAY&mode=related&search=
I've never remembered the anniversary of first kisses or first dates. I may remember where they happened, but I would never expect someone to remember or even celebrate such a thing.
"just by me remembering all these special dates, it show's how much i value and treasure our relationship."
No it doesn't. It shows that you're either really picky about small details, you have a better memory, or you remember so you can guilt trip the poor guy when he doesn't remember. In fact . . .
"when i threw a fit and reminded him, he went out and bought me some gaudy gold necklace."
Ungrateful, materialistic whore!
"if he was paying more attention to me, he would have know i wanted another diamond for my charm bracelett."
If you had been paying more attention in English class, you wouldn't be making so many grammatical and spelling errors. Grow up and get a grip or divorce the guy and kill yourself. Either way, you'll be doing men all over the world a favor.
2007-10-05 19:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by Sephiroth 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Coming from a guy here....once he married ya, the 1st date/kiss thing is long gone. The marriage date is/should be the date he remembers. If you have been married for under 10 years, yes 10 years, you have a lot ahead of ya. If you are concerned about the 1st kiss/date thing, you're being selfish. Give him a break. If he is forgetting important dates like b-days, the date you were married, and such...then sit and have a talk. A nice calendar on the wall with those days marked so everybody can see them is a nice trick to help out too.
2007-10-05 19:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by Rich 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
wow.
First, you need to understand that guys minds are different than a girls mind.
I didn't know people even celebrated 'first date' and 'first kiss' anniversary's. How many dates should he remember?
First date
First hand hold
First kiss
First time having sex
Day he proposed
Wedding Day
Birthday
Mother's Day
Valentines Day
And do you realize how selfish it sounds when you say
"and when I threw a fit and yelled all he did was buy me a gold necklace! Doesn't he know I wanted a diamond?"
It reminds me of the sweet 16 show on MTV...
A RED TRUCK?!?! I WANTED A LEXUS!!! YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW ME!
2007-10-05 19:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by Ig88250 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Are you serious? He doesn't sound like the one with the problem. It's you. Stop nitpicking and just be glad you're together. Does he love you? Do you love him? If the answer to both is yes then stop whining and be appreciative of the fact that you have what thousands of women are looking for daily. I mean I'd have to really set down and think it out to try to remember the week that my hubby and I first kissed or dated. The most important anniversary is the one were you two became one in holy matrimony. Just remember and honor that date and be happy.
P.S.
What did you get him for y'all's first kiss anniversary or your first date anniversary?
2007-10-05 19:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by Strong w/ Jesus 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sweety, From what I have read here it seems you need to ask yourself a few questions. What was it that made you want to marry him? What was it about him that gave you those tingles in the first place? Is it still there?Men are wired differently, where you remember the first kiss as sweetly romantic, it probably blew his mind so anything after that was a done deal. Do you love him? If you do, then you have to take his faulty memory and learn to tweak it. Whatever you did on that first date,do it again. Sit down and talk to him,not at him and feel where that takes you. You are the only one who can decide what is right for you
2007-10-05 19:49:32 · answer #6 · answered by Petey 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Are you serious? Men forget things all the time, your first kiss? I don't even know the anniversary of my first kiss. I would say try to stick out this marriage. You may get someone much worse than this. And try to start thinking of other people besides yourself. Maybe you could purchase gifts for some old shut-in relative or help with a charity, count your blessings!
2007-10-05 19:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by jag 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Either this is a completely bogus question or you're the most selfish, high-maintenance ho I've ever heard of. You threw a fit because he didn't buy you a diamond for the anniversary of your first kiss? Did you buy him anything for the first time he felt comfortable enough to fart in your presence? Either get some perspective, or get a life.
2007-10-05 19:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by rtanys 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Divorce. Not over such a silly matter. Men dont remember all these date things. Dont go overboard because of these minor issues. And whats with the diamonds etc >Dont measure ones love by the number of diamonds he buys you. Thats so shallow. Why bother with these overpriced pieces of rock . There is more to a relationship than just diamonds.Love and respect each other and be tolerant and caring.
2007-10-05 19:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I don't think you should leave him...to some man, those things are just not important. Look at the good that he does, maybe he does house chores, maybe he is really trust worthy but just got a bad memory!
The best way to do that is to post a lovely schedule calender in your house somewhere, where you can both put down important dates that matters to you. Life is too busy to remember all the things, but little love notes here and there can make things easier.
2007-10-05 20:11:51 · answer #10 · answered by loselose 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ok, you have to cut the dude some slack. The frist kiss anniversay? Nawww let that slide. guys are really not into all that. and the first day? i mean...ya some guys remember but after years its like.. why... ha. mean... but if he forgot when you got together then you need too kick him out. NO ONE should forget that. I think your the problem (no offence) im not sticking up for the guy. but he took the time to get you something after he messed up. Shouldn't that be good enough? i mean just cuz you didn't get what you wanted doesn't mean you have to divorce him.
2007-10-05 19:03:30 · answer #11 · answered by Blake P 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋