how do two people from different religions get married? my boyfriend and I have been together for a long time and we're planning on getting married, but we have different religions. In my family it's tradition to get married in a church (i'm catholic). That's what i want to do, but since he's a Jahoba's Witnes, he can't listen to a catholic sermon. How would we make that work? Anyone please help. Thank You!
2007-10-05 09:15:25 · 21 answers · asked by Liz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband and I both have different religious beliefs and from the beginning we agreed that I wouldn't make him give up his and he wouldn't make me give up mine... but there are still areas where we can compromise. That's the key to the differences you will face in marriage and trust me - this may be a big one, but it won't be the last.
Talk to your BF and see where he is willing to compromise and decide where you are. If you can't reach compromises now, then you need to think long and hard about whether or not a marriage is a good idea.
Are you willing to convert to his beliefs? Is he wiling to convert to yours? How will your children be raised? Not only are you talking about 2 religions, you are talking about 2 religions VERY steeped in tradition. How will you handle holidays?
Love is not enough if you can't compromise. Think long and hard about how you will feel when constantly defending your religion to someone who doesn't understand it and how he will feel doing the same...
We got married in my parents back yard with a family friend officiating - it worked for us, but you two need to decide what you can and can't live without.
2007-10-05 09:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Religion is more important in a marriage than either of you seems to realize. It will come up as a serious issue when you have children. The two of you need to discuss what religion you will raise your children. Think seriously about whether you want to give up your religion, or if it is important to you, and how you want to raise your children. That is more important than the details of the wedding. I am concerned about your fiance's attitude. He "doesn't want to deal with his ex to get an annulment." Maybe he's decided not to be a Catholic anymore, but if he does want to be a Catholic, he should deal with this. If he wants to join a Protestant church, the divorce will not be an issue. A Christian is allowed to marry a non-Christian in the church. It can be done. And it isn't right to "become a Christian" just because you want to marry a Christian, if you are not a believer. You would be lying to God.
2016-05-17 05:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do the wedding at some other place, and by a pastor or anyone who has a lawful right to do the ceremony. I myself am a catholic, my husband is a lutheran. and although my husband and i wanted a church wedding, it didn't happen. Not only did the catholic church say they won't allow that, but also because he is a divorcee and they don't recognize that. they said that in god's eyes he's still married. whatever. they even said that if i want to remain catholic i have to attend mass for like 3 months with no absence. geez! What happened? Well, we went ahead and got married at a bed and breakfast. hey, we still got married! it wasn't the way i want it, but i married the man i love, that's what matters anyway, aight?! =)
2007-10-05 09:22:17 · answer #3 · answered by ♥angelfire♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had exactly the same problem my husband was christian and his family was totally against catholic people and the same thing happened with my family... So we decided to not pay attention to the families so we plan a really nice wedding with no religions involved just a judge!! we obviously talked to our families and they came out pretty good about it, they should respect your decision and that way everybody is happy..
I know how hard it is dealing with religion but at the end you guys have the last word, you guys are the ones getting married so you shouldn't listen to anybody else...
2007-10-05 09:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to like this but be careful. This will be very difficult and one of you will change to the other religion. The Jehovah church has very, very specific beliefs on whats expected from a member, and their elders watch everything. If you think their going to bless yall being different religions get over it. You need to do some serious investigating on Jehovahs Witness church before making this decision
2007-10-05 09:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
And they let him date you? I once new a very nice girl good person..She was a JW. She met a guy she feel in love with. He wasn't a JW. Her parents and all the church members. Set her a side as if she was contagious. No one was allowed contact with her. No one I mean other JW's. I am married to a guy who turned evangelist. And it causes many problems. Because we disagree in many things. Do to our different beliefs. There is not just the getting married you must worry about but what comes after. Once you have children are they going to be JW or catholic? Did you have that talk with him?
2007-10-05 09:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by Red Rose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about compromising and get married by a minister from a non denominational church in an out door or neutral setting? or bya Justice of the Peace?
2007-10-05 09:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about getting married in neither a Catholic or Jahova's Witness tradition? If you got married in a secular way, then no one would be hurt.
2007-10-05 09:20:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My man is catholic, I am a pagan. Lucky for me, he listens, so he has allowed me to show him many teachings on how pagans are evil are completely wrong. So now he doesn't mind marrying a pagan, as long as he gets his catholic ceremony and I get my pagan ceremony. Taking into account the civil ceremony, we'll have 3 weddings :D
2007-10-05 09:34:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is one great big compromise. If you can't solve the problem of where and how to have a ceremony that both are pleased with, how will you be able to deal with the other problems that are sure to follow? Go to the courthouse and settle it all!
2007-10-05 09:19:58 · answer #10 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋