What exactly are your regrets? Do you honestly believe that you gave up too quickly? Why did you give up then?
Talk, I can listen. Please be descriptive. Thank You.
2007-10-05 10:03:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To be quite honest, I'm not too sure.
One the one hand, at the time I made that decision, I don't think anybody could have stopped me. I was just dying inside!
So, it did make me feel good, and in fact, it just totally changed me.
I look better; I am definitely more attractive, more confident, have now a good job, even though currently unemployed, but well, I'm a totally different person.
On the other hand, it was tough.
I hate to think that I caused so much pain to my children.
I am feeling lonely because I still haven't found the man for me after nearly 5 years of being on my own, and it's very hard.
Nobody to talk to, to trust, laugh genuinely with..
So, if I could reconcile the new me and still be married, I guess I would probably like it.
But, i am not too sure either.
it's just the loneliness that is depressing and seeing the time pass.
Well, I lost the company, the safety of being in a marriage, but on the other hand, I gained the new me I always wanted to be, I exist, I feel valued, even if not as much as i wanted, but certainly more than I ever was.
So, it's difficult to say.
Anyway, it's done, and life goes on, whatever comes with it.
2007-10-05 10:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 12 years and have been divorced for 6. We have two sons, who were 10 and 8 at the time of our separation. My only regret is that I stayed as long as I did "for the sake of the children." My ex wasn't a good father and over time I lost all respect and love for him because of that. I don't know any women who regret their decisions, but plenty of men that do. I have since met a great guy and we have been together over 4 years. We are very well-suited and when I compare the two relationships I am still astonished that I could be married so long to such a selfish man. If you are even contemplating a divorce it means that you are very unhappy. Try counseling and if things don't improve fine yourself a better life. good luck.
2007-10-05 19:19:14 · answer #2 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don;t brood over it, but I was divorced over twenty years ago and then stayed single for many years before getting remarried. When my ex and I split we did so under the delusion things would be better apart. The truth is our heads were all screwed up with popular culturre. We could have made it had we been paient and really acted on the love we felt. That said, we are both happy now and still enjoy friendship
2007-10-05 19:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by chris s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm on my way to divorce and i really wish it wasn't so, but I also know it's for the best. I don't think I'm the one who gave up too quickly - I am the one who left though. My husband's idea of making things better was to threaten me with other women. He followed through on his threat and now he's with my best friend. One thing about leaving is that you will find out how much they truly love you.
2007-10-05 17:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back then i did wish i hadnt gotten divorced, yet the decision wasnt up to me since he's the one that left and he's the one that wanted the divorce (he was messing around with another woman) .. but once the pain went away, and knowing what i know now.. im glad he left when he did, because he has not changed and cheats on his current wife, so i know it wasnt me or anything i did or didnt do, he just doesnt have it in him to be faithful..
2007-10-05 17:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been divorced for almost 3 years now. I can't honestly say I regret it althought I did make some bad decisions in my marriage. I was married to a meth user, now he is involved in drug court and has totally cleaned up his act. He was a horrible husband and a horrible father to our two kids. Now of course, three years later he is remarried and has a 1 year old with his new wife. Now he works and is a good father to his new kid and even to our kids. I do sometimes with he could have made those changes for us but he didn't. I tell myself it just wasn't meant to be. We were high school sweethearts and he got involved with drugs by time he was 25. His family was involved in drugs too, in fact he got his drugs from his mother who is now in prison for drugs. So my main regret was giving up instead of trying to help him but he did get the help he needed. We get along fine now and my children adore their dad.
2007-10-05 17:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by Mistymay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there is, but I'm not one of them! I regret that I didn't do it sooner though and I don't think 22 yrs. is giving up too quickly. I bet he could answer your ? tho.
2007-10-05 17:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by bonnieboobabe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their is a reason divorce is so expensive....because it is so worth it...I'm glad I am out of my nightmare of a marriage. I feel better, less stressed, and have a better relationship with my son .
2007-10-05 17:11:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexy browned eyed girl is good looking
2007-10-05 17:41:02 · answer #9 · answered by bill at msn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way-- It was the BEST decision I ever made!
2007-10-05 17:08:00 · answer #10 · answered by contessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋