2007-10-05 10:54:50 · 17 answers · asked by anna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would leave. That's not a healthy relationship at all and it's not good for the kids either. Life is too short to waste any time on someone that you don't truly want to be with.
2007-10-05 10:59:11 · answer #1 · answered by Princess Lyndsey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the man is a good father, I would stay and work on the relationship. Too many people give up on the relationship before they've given it a fair chance or tried everything to make it work. Too many people rush into relationships and have children without knowing what they are getting into. Think of the kids first as you and he brought them into this world with the unspoken promise to love and take care of them and be a FAMILY!!! Try not to be another statistic in the paperwork of broken families. Try to be a couple who worked hard and proved it can be done. Because, I know, it's not always what you thought it would be, but it's worth the work.
2007-10-05 18:04:57 · answer #2 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stayed in a marriage for 12 years (half of which were unhappy) for "the sake of the kids." It was a mistake. The children are fine and their dad and I are much happier now that we are divorced. I only wish I would have done it sooner. Of course, most of the reason I was unhappy was because he wasn't a good father... too self-involved. If he was a wonderful father and the children were crazy about him, I probably would have stayed until they were grown. I'm glad that I didn't have to make THAT decision.
2007-10-05 19:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 20+ years a couple I know recently were divorced. The adult children were very hurt and upset. The couple stayed together for a number of years for the children, Although it was difficult for the couple to remain together as long as they did it , I feel the family benefited. However, each relationship is unique. Good luck
2007-10-05 18:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by Richard B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship iswith someone whois invested and does right by the kids you should stick it out and make the best of the situation. Parenting and offering kdis a stable loving home is far more important than romance and all that garbage.
2007-10-05 19:41:03 · answer #5 · answered by chris s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never ever ever stay just for the kids. Thats the worse mistake a person can make. If your in it it's because you WANT to be and it's the BEST thing for you. If all you do is fight then it's not doing anybody any good, you, him OR the kids.
2007-10-05 18:55:48 · answer #6 · answered by Sexy Anna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You divorce wives, not children. You can be there for your kids without staying in the relationship.
You have the legal right to a relationship with your children. Consult a lawyer who specializes in child custody issues so that your soon-to-be ex-partner can't interfere with you and the kids.
2007-10-05 18:01:59 · answer #7 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think kids come first, but if the relationship is so bad that you are teaching the kids that relationships suck then you have to go. Each relationship is different, I say use your head and make up your own mind.
2007-10-05 18:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let go- if you are miserable together, eventually your kids will be in the middle of a very negative environment, which is extremely harmful. If you break up it may be really hard at first, but then you are giving yourselves the chance to truly be happy- and your kids should know what happiness looks like.
2007-10-05 18:00:20 · answer #9 · answered by Sansa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's never healthy to stay in a relationship just for the kids. if the kids aren't old enough to realize it now, they will be, and when they do, you're going to cause them to feel guilty about the whole situation. not only that you don't want them to grow up and be in a loveless relationship themselves. remember, they learn everything from what they see from you.
2007-10-05 18:04:11 · answer #10 · answered by theloverofwords 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋