my child's father with whom i just recently broke up with for being a spineless coward declared that he is not sure if the child i claim his is really his. The nerve, right? You see, he turned out to be committed with another girl and decided she's a better choice... I am working with my hurt feelings but when I started to demand support for my kid, he just simply said "are you sure she's mine?". Now, I wish he wasn't the father, for I feel the reason he's saying that is because he just wanted to be off the hook. I don't need him to recognize my child as his own, and perhaps, even if DNA testimg will be available to prove fraternity, I wouldnt do that just so he would ace\cept her but rather to prove him wrong and slap his face. But right now, they are just dreams...
2007-10-05 20:19:52 · 12 answers · asked by eluded one 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Based on what you're saying it sounds like you are the only one with any emotional attachment in this situation.
I think, dear, you have this man pegged and that you have the character prevail.
A man who cannot take on his responsibilites willingly and with respect to all parties, is not a man.
Just get your child support. He just wants out. Sometimes, being immature and a bit stupid, young men only know how to run out the back door into someone else's support. I guarantee you this girl is not getting what she thinks, here.
She'll be supporting him,cleaning up after him, and listening to him whine now. It's just the way it goes.
The sweetest revenge comes with time. When you finally do meet a Man who has character, and can make a responsible decision, who is loving and kind, and strong......that's when baby's daddy is going to have to take a good, long look, and measure up against your man.
Then he'll have to live with the knowledge that he was Less Than a Man.
Now that's revenge.
2007-10-05 23:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
getting revenge is CHILDISH!!!
the mature thing to do would be get a dna test..prove to him that hes the father and then take him to court and make him pay child support. Having a heated struggle between the 2 of you eventually will only end up hurting your children and I would hope that their well being is more important to you than your "revenge"
2007-10-05 20:31:30 · answer #2 · answered by MzBowlez 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Instead of looking for revenge, get the DNA testing done, and if the testing is positive, send him the results, pursue child support and encourage him to have a relationship with your child. Stop thinking of your own feelings (which you say you are working with) and start thinking of the feelings and needs of your child.
2007-10-05 20:30:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Having a DNA test should have nothing to do with revenge. It should have to do with providing your child with the security that is deserved. Financially, you will need to be able to support your child and your child deserves to have that income to make his/her life better.
It's about responsibility and insuring that your child has basic needs..........not revenge. If you are trying to "get revenge" as stated before........it only makes you less of a person and parent. YOu want to be the best parent you can be. Let go of the hurt and channel all your love towards your child.
2007-10-05 22:40:08 · answer #4 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seriously, you need to have a DNA test to slap it to his face. Then, try to take legal action so that coward have to help you with your kid. And one more thing, you can always call that new girl to stir up their relationship or even better try to ask anyone to pretend to be his current girlfriend and confront that 'girl'. Can add a little spice to his life. Oh,..and don't forgot to send a copy of the DNA test to that girl.
2007-10-05 20:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by spygirl_1781 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only way to prove paternity is with a DNA test. You should do it for your child's sake, not to seek revenge. I'm not sure what the laws are in your area, but I'm sure proven paternity makes him financially responsible, not just morally, and the courts can enforce this.
Don't stoop to his level, be dignified but stand up for your child's rights, she' s not old enough to do it for herself.
2007-10-06 00:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
take the dna testing go to a hospital and ask if its available, it should be. what kind of jerk of a father wouldnt even accept his own daughter? regardless if she was really his or not? Having the same dna doesnt make you a daughter/parent, its the love that comes with parenting!!
2007-10-05 20:25:28 · answer #7 · answered by snapplecrunch 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would you lower yourself down to his level?
Since he is the father of the child, you need to do everything you can to provide that child with a happy, healthy home. Seeking revenge will only expose your child to the childish and selfishness of you. Don't you think the child deserves at least one adult as a parent.
Good luck. You child will be in my prayers.
2007-10-05 20:29:45 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
DNA has nothing to do with a fraternity
2007-10-05 20:25:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont need sweet revenge because that will only make you go down to his level. your a much better woman than that.
2007-10-05 20:24:28 · answer #10 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋