2007-10-05 20:22:40 · 4 answers · asked by jagarxjs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A marriage is not happy. It's the people in it that are happy with themselves and each other.
2007-10-05 20:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure whether you mean outside of your country or within your country. That depends where you country is.
But to find a happy marriage-you first have to find a partner. Then you will probably want to be in love with them and them with you. That is a start of thinking about getting married. But even when you have found a loving,compatible partner that doesn't mean you are ready for a huge commitment as marriage. To even consider getting married you both(you and the partner) need to be emotionally ready to make that step. It means you will live together,spend a great deal of time together,share intimate time together. Sharing is a key word in this marriage, along with love, consideration, patience,understanding, loyalty, compatibility, maturity etc etc. Are you ready to be in a long term relationship-preferably forever with the same person?? Can you forget about observing members of the opposite sex regularly ,and wanting to know what it is like to be with them??
That is a small part of what is involved in both finding a partner and being married. Then making it happy is like a full time job. Always willing to compromise, respect, trust, share, spontaneity, adapt to change, love, understand etc.
Love that is built to last doesn't come that easy. And you might not find it by looking. Or by looking either in your country or out o f it. It is a gift of finding just the right person for you and making each other happy-just by being together!!!
Did that help??? Well one day maybe you will find that and then you will have a happy marriage. But a happy marriage doesn't just fall into your lap. It arrives through hard work and a dedication to make it last.
2007-10-06 03:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by Forgetmenotshell 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not something you go out and find , you do that when getting a pet ....A happy Marriage is obtained thru hard work , lots of trust , tons of honesty , and a whole bunch of resisting the urge to choke the sh*t out of each other .....I do not marry , but I have been with the same woman for 11 years and it is not easy , every other day , she either says " I'm leaving" and I say "bye"....and some days , I get so mad I say get the fk out ...we never follow through with it , because we each made a promise that once we were settled in our house , we would never walk out after an argument , and after we cool down and we still decide to leave that is it , walk a way ,and never look back ...and we never go to sleep in the middle of an argument , nor do we go to bed angry
after 11 years we know everything the other is going to say before the mouth comes open ..when I pass her driving down the road we do not wave to each other , we flip each other the middle finger , her pet name is beeyatch , and mine is @sshole ....we joke around all the time , was it instant ? NO , was it easy ? NO ..it takes years of good times , and years of bad , A happy marriage is not about being happy with the person everyday and live a fairy tale life , it is being happy with who you decide to spend your life with , it has to be someone you love no matter what , even if they spend too much on BS and shoes , it is being with someone you want by your side through the good times , and the bad times ...
2007-10-06 03:54:43 · answer #3 · answered by Insensitively Honest 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look between the sheets.
2007-10-06 03:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋