I moved my wife to the USA 4 months ago and I work out of the country and all we do is fight, she shows no love and no support and very jealous of everything. She reads my e-mail which is fine I have nothing to hide. When I call she is not happy to hear from me, she rarely tells me that she loves me or misses me and cant wait until I come home. I am honest hardworking and faithful and I love her but I cant take this disrespect anymore. I cant remeber the last time I did anything that made her happy. I call everyday send letters, she has everything she could want but something is not right. I just dont feel that she loves me. She has made a comment this is the way that I am take it or leave it. What do I do?
2007-10-05 22:42:27 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your a smart man but not so smart when picking a wife.Don't you know that 90 % of Filipino women will do just about anything to get out of the Philippines.My brother married a Filipino woman,this is how bad they want to get out, my brother was shown 3 pictures of women and he pick the one he liked best. I think that is totally disgusting but fortunately for my brother it worked out because she is very sweet and everyone in our family loves her now. When i am in the yahoo chat room some filipino girls are on they talk about how much they want to get out because the conditions there are so bad.The one girl i talked to was only 14 years old. They are looking for any man that will marry them and take them away. Did you really think she loved you,she probably don't know what love is and could care less.
2007-10-06 14:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Filipina American
2016-11-12 03:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you known her long enough that made you decide to marry her? I am a filipina and the major nature of a filipina is very loving...as you have described her...she seems to be an exception. I've read some of the answers and i recommend that you try changing jobs like one that is close to home...or bring your wife to the country were you work so that you will be able to actually say that your wife is not as loving as a filipina should be or that she really is actually very sweet. how long have you been married? i am 7 years married and we still do fight because we were brought up from different homes and different backgrounds. many foreigners have married a filipina because they have seen that they are loving and very motherly...not much problems but as you have observed her at your side always...then only then you can decide if you can live with her for life or not...i can't answer for her....only you can truly be able to see her true motives...just open your eyes to the truth and the truth will set you free.
2007-10-06 01:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by sdrbl 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Before you decide to marry that woman you shoukd think 100 times if she really meant for you or know her not a months but a years.I am filipina.They say filipina are caring,and loving.Not all filipina are the same.But moslty are not.Im nit judging other filipino,but that is the moslty mainly reason.They want foriegn for there needs and not love,For me love is the most important thibgs in this world.And im dating an american.Were getting 2 years communicating..But everytime he went here in Philippines he meet different woman.And i respect him,because i know his still looking the oerfect for him.But im happy whst we have rigth now as a friend. I LOVE HIM. And will wait for the right time that hiss full in love in me.I show him how his important to me,show the care.Love and searching someone is not rushing it takes time to know together.So that at the end you have happy endibg,
2015-09-04 17:21:31 · answer #4 · answered by maricel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame in on her being a Filipina. People are people the world over. I've been married and divorced to a nasty American woman. Unloving, uncaring and totally materialistic. I bear a great deal of the responsibility for not choosing well.
2016-12-05 14:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by Peter H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not gonna defend your wife because she is a Filipina, because I too came from the Philippines. I am a Filipino. The main problem I see in your story is that you didnot actually tried to know her before you married her did you?
Most foreigners who are married to a Filipina living abroad has actually little or no problems at all. It is quite a surprise reading something like this here in the forum against a Filipina. You married a Filipina because of the things you hear about them did you? Of course, you did if not you wouldn't marry one. They are so affectionate, loving, caring ...etc. actually they are but not all in a certain aspect. Maybe the one here in the forum who told you that maybe she just use you to go to the USA and migrate there for her own and bring the whole family. Maybe but I won't judge her for I wouldn't be judge either.
What can you do? Then for your own protection who might scare her a little off by telling her "I will divorce you". I donot know the procedure there, but if she is already considered a US citizen then she could marry another American, if not yet then she might take it more seriously and begin to realize her own fault and misgivings.
Maybe it is YOU who got problems. I donot know, just wondering you are some how meticulous in everything, you want this, you want that, if not given to you some how you feel bad about it or feel worst about the other person, in this case your wife. It is seems all the blame are focus in your WIFE. As if you are spotless and blameless in this relationship. All you do is GOOD while your wife is doing BAD. Scares me really. But the best thing is surrender yourself for psychological or psychiatrict evaluation or might better both of you to straighthen out your relationship as early as today before they become worst, don't you think? If you love your relationship that bad. Just like old captain says " DON'T GIVE UP THE SHIP". Good luck for both of you.
2007-10-05 23:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
oh man you have to sent her back to her family in Philippines.
My sister was married to American and their are so happy because they were together all the time. You've got a wrong girl man some Filipinas are like that they just want to go out to the Philippines but mostly Filipina are not,they want to serve their husband all the time
like my sister who marry my brother in law. As I remember its been 5 years before they got married , may be you married her in short time only and thats wrong. Divorce her and send her back to P.I and married again but next time you have to know her better even it takes a long year just to know her. Good Luck Man. I'm A Filipino and I know what a Filipina is!
2013-10-21 23:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by Robin 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not 100% Filipina is like her, maybe you are not that smart in choosing a partner. Love is not meeting a person one day, courting the next day and marrying in a week. Love takes time, time to know and time to grow. Love endures even in the test of time. Above all, you must pray it to the Lord because we can inherit something from the parents but only God can provide the best partner...that is in the Book of Proverbs.
2015-12-16 16:45:57 · answer #8 · answered by MG 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't get to know her well for sure.If love doesn't exist what's her purpose of marrying you? Think!!! Convenience, green card???Is there someone else in her heart.if you are telling the truth then it's time to make up your mind before it's too late. Only she knows her real motive of marrying you. Sit and examine yourself too.Have you done something that hurt her that's why she deals with you in a very bad and difficult manner? Do your best to smooth things out. If you have exhausted all means and everything fails,then accept reality. Fix what needs to be...then both of you start again a new life.
2016-03-19 06:25:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pilipina is very sweet and respectful, maybe you must talk to your wife properly and you show here that you love here so that she can respect you, pilipina is very concervative and understanding caring, maybe you make mistake before that s why your life she react like that. Maybe you must understand here because soon she would realized that what she did is not good so, understanding your life because marriage is not a game especially in the Philippines is forever no divorced, you must love and care your wife because once you married you and your wife is become one that s why you married because you need your partner that can advice you and take care of you. Love is the most important thing in the world and understanding forgiveness acceptance, I hope you and your wife is ok soon.
2015-12-25 05:58:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋