I have been married for about 3 years and my husband cheats on me all the time.?

Question

i got proofs from his emails and text messages. i read one of his messages 2 months ago telling a girl that he ll do anything to have her by his side.( i called d girl and she told me my husband has been on her neck, but she refused when she found out he was married. i even talked to her mother!) we stay apart cos of our jobs. he visits biweekly. During his visits, his numerous girlfriends call him, they drop d call if i pick. they send romantic texts too. It makes us quarrel. He always says he is sorry, but he still does not want to break up with these girls for my sake. we have a kid. He is the first man in my life and the only. Cos of my rage for his infidelity, i speak angrily to him and harshly too. Now he says am disrespectful, nagging and overbearing. Am beginning to have regrets. please help

Answer 1

*Sweety this man has emotionally already left you!
He is NOT sorry! When you are sorry you don't keep repeating the act you apologize for!
He is staying with you and keeping you as a pawn! As long as he has you there waiting he can have his cake and eat it too!
I wouldn't even bother giving him an ultimatum! He will continue to treat you poorly as he has such a poor self image that he will always need someone to make him look like "the big man on campus!"
Take your baby and find happiness! I didn't and have lived a nightmare for many years!
Remember whatever he tells you that "past actions predict the future"! Good luck, hon!

Answer 2

Hi dear,
I can understand your problem.I know how u might b feeling now when the person whom u loved betrays u.It shud b very hard for u these days. I have seen this prob with men many times. I dont have any qualms saying tht even thought I am a guy myself.
Actually even my manager was into the same thing. Even they have 2 kids. She had left his home n gone away but they came back together for their kids. He had told his wife that he wouldnt meet hif girl friend again but he kept meeting her all the time.
So u speak to him politely n tell abt ur child, make him think abt it then he might have a change of heart n b wid u n ur kid.Just give it a try once for ur kid yaar.
I know I havent given u any solution but plz dont speak to him angrily as he seems to b making it a reason and not talking to u abt the exact mis deeds that he is doing. Hes trying to hide it against ur anger n still accusing of being rude to him.So dont speak rudely to him, so that he doesnt get the chance not to speak to u.Just try it once, I am sure u will b much clear abt wht u have to do next.

Answer 3

I can sure understand your side of things. I would not tolerate my this crap for anything. I would change the locks and file for divorce prior to his next visit home. You teach people how to treat you. He does it because he CAN.

What is the point of a marriage if it does not mean anything? Stop with the rage, the nagging, etc. He can choose to act any way he wants to and nothing you say will make him act any differently, but you don't have to stand by and tolerate being treated like this. You can't change what he is doing but you sure can decide what you will put up with. Infidelity is deal breaker. Get checked for STD's, don't have any more children with this idiot and get him out of there. Are you kidding?

Answer 4

First love always becomes hard to break loose, however in your relationship here, he is disrespectiful and perhaps uses you to get the women he be fooling with. You can put a stop to it or move on with your life. You don't deserve to be infected with STDs. It won't be easier for him to actually stop his bahavior but perhaps if you find a better way to communicate rather than arguing may help to solve things. Have you tried marriage counselling? Having all those prove at hand doesn't help you unless you consider divorce, what helps is how you can fix this abusive relationship.

Answer 5

Regrets,you should have gone for a divorce the first time he cheated on you. This is ridiculous,he cheats all the time and he accuses you of being disrespectful overbearing and a nag.What does he expect you to do ,you are his wife. Look this situation is beyond redemption .See a lawyer tomorrow and throw the bum out.

Answer 6

The first thing that you have to think about is yourself. He married you not these other women that he is sleeping with. It can be hard to pick up the pieces and move on but first you need to build up your self esteem and know that you are beautiful and deserve more. He can bringing anything home to you and your child and with the rate of Aids and STDs in America you should consider that first. I would suggest marriage counseling and if he doesn't want to do that then he doesn't want to be married. It's not fair to you and it's not fair to your child.

Answer 7

what a fool all the responder has been ! am sorry if i sound rude but do you consider the following facts:
1. what if these girls happen to know the man long before he married her.
3. where does virtues come in
4. what if she has fail to stand-up to her responsibilities even when the live of other partners is involve.
5. what if she under a spell that make her imagine terrible things happen to her.

in my little op-ion and knowledge most of the responder are rather foolish or shallow minded

Answer 8

Honey, He has issues. He is not going to kill himself. He says that because he knows that is the only thing that is going to get you back with him.He is totally holding your emotions hostage with that BS. Don't waste another minute of your life waiting for him to be faithful. The past is the past, is just his way of sweeping it under the rug. You can't trust him and you probably won't any time soon. Get out before he sucks the life out of you. Trust me. It will hurt, but you will be so much better off without him in your life. Good luck sister!

Answer 9

leave him. plain and simple leave him , ive been married 11 years , if one day my hubby would cheat on me , id leave his *** so fast his head would spin like in the excorcist. you are allowing this behavior by staying with him, get a backbone and stand up for yourself, you deserve better, not all men cheat. even if you are overbearing and nagging if he truly loved you , he wouldnt cheat. You staying with him is telling your child that cheating is ok. You both are setting a bad example for your child, they need to see that you will stand up for yourself, that when a spouse is cheating constatly you dont ACCEPT IT! He is being a lousy father, why would he want to put his child through a divorce . Selfish it is , apparently he loves himself and his whores more than you and your child. LEAVE HIM and DONT TAKE HIM BACK, once a cheater always a cheater.

Answer 10

For some men it's not natural to be with one woman. But he is being very disrespectful about it and shouldn't have married you if this was the lifestyle he prefers. Twice a week isn't much time at all, and I'm not sure how you handle that even without the cheating. He's also putting you at risk of an std by sleeping with different people. If you can accept his other lifestyle, he should compromise down to just ONE other girlfriend that is also accepting so that no one is being mislead or deceived.