1st, he had to maintained a relationship with his ex in order to keep her alive while lying to me. This was when we first met.
Then, there was his business failure and his bankcruptcy. He was suppose to pay for the monthly installment to the bank for an outstanding loan of 150k to secure his dads assets. When asked, he said he's been paying and only last year we found put that he haven't paid a cent. And the outstanding amount now is 780k as interested accumulated over the years. Which i have resolved by selling 2 of his dad properties.
And last year, i was told to packed my bags and leave our hse coz he has loaned from the loan-sharks. My baby was 6 months old. The best part was it was my cheque and ID that he gave to them and i had to stop 60 over cheques. And of course my family members was harrased.
I've sold off 2 cars, used all my savings and even credit cards to help him.No wedding photo let alone banquet.
Unstable income, Uncertain future is our family tagline.
2007-10-05 23:47:56 · 15 answers · asked by funky mama 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He doesnt sound an average husband to me!!!! I don't think I'd be able to put up with an unstable life like that.
2007-10-05 23:51:12 · answer #1 · answered by Caroline 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is not average he is stupid. Do average husbands create 780K of debt, I don't think so. I haven't always made the right financial decisions, but then my wife has messed up too. We have debts but we're not stupid enough to go to loan sharks.
In the end we can't tell you what to do, I expect you already know and just want someone to tell you so that you can say it was someone else who told you, which is really avoiding responsibility.
The fact that you've tried to help this guy is obviously in your favour ... you're not a bad person. There are *always* legal ways out of these problems, not nice ways, but things you can do to deal with them. He is clearly too stupid to do things the right way and just gets deeper and deeper into the sh*t, and he's dragging you and your child down with him.
You have to make a decision about what is the right and wrong. *You* have to decide.
If you read this about marriage:
http://www.scientologyhandbook.org/SH13.HTM
And this about right and wrong:
http://www.scientologyhandbook.org/SH9.HTM
Almost everything else on that website will help ... then you'll know what you should do but it'll be your decision.
Good luck.
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2007-10-06 07:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by replybysteve 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You knew from the very beginning that this man had some major baggage. I wouldn't have had a second date with someone that was still emotionally involved with their ex other than for the sake of children. I don't like all this drama. And, he is unromantic with a bad temper? My bags would have been packed a long time ago!
2007-10-06 07:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop lying to yourself.
This is not an average husband. The simple fact that you posted this shows you are allowing yourself a glimmer of truth. Now let the truth flow in and accept reality.
You will not be able to make any progress until you are able to be honest with yourself.
Good luck.
2007-10-06 06:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by box of rain 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
its time to go sounds like he' just dragging you down and how much longer can you put up with this. I think you know what you have to do you just needed some support to do it. If you stay with him no life no money and no future and alot of unhappiness
2007-10-06 07:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by dreamweaver 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,sweetie an answer to such a problem as this could only be in GOD'S hands.I can tell you from many experiences that PRAYER really works.Just call on JESUS and give all your cares to HIM.That is why HE came here over 2000 years ago,for all of who have sinned.So basically what i am saying is give your cares and worries to HIM and HE will show you the answers to it ALL.If you said for better or worse , then yes he is worth it.
2007-10-06 07:03:00 · answer #6 · answered by margery d 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
HELL NO he is NOT worth it.
In fact, I would take his LYING a to court for fraud, for using your personal identification and ruining your credit!!!!!!!!!
Sistuh, get a move on!
I would've kicked him out for the 700K something problem.. but DANG!
I hope you do another post and let us know what's happening.
2007-10-06 07:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't sound average to me. To me he sounds like a bum.
Kick him to the crub before you have bail him out anymore.
2007-10-06 08:12:59 · answer #8 · answered by Spring 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my ex husband.Is his name Tom?
2007-10-06 07:13:49 · answer #9 · answered by lollypop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is a loser and you should run as fast as you can away from him. for the sake of your kids. he has caused enough damage to your family. so enough is enough!
2007-10-06 07:18:06 · answer #10 · answered by brazenlove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋