Marriage & Divorce - 6 October 2007

I'm 22 years old, I've been married for 7 months. He's in the army, we live in Colorado, originally from Indiana. For the past 3 months (on and off), things have been rocky and I have considered leaving. We didnt date before we got married, we went from best friends to engaged and a month later to being married. I have never really felt married, we don't have a good sex life and its not getting any better. We have no money ever. We're not romantic. When we are being friends then things are fun and laughing and good, but when it comes time to be a married couple (sex, money, kids etc.) there is friction between us, and thats when stress and doubts come in. I have been open with him about how I have been feeling and have repeatly said "Maybe we're just meant to be friends" "If we do break up, I want us to be friends, I don't want to get to the point we hate each other". and he has agreed. His birthday is coming up and the holidays....should i stay until those are over?

2007-10-06 04:45:01 · 6 answers · asked by rachel 2

If a person grew up in a home where one of their parents was a habitual cheater, is that person more likely to cheat when he/she is married/in a relationship? What if the child never knew that the parent was a cheater until he/she was grown or never found out at all? What if the child hated that the parent cheated and swore he/she would never do that to someone he/she loved?

If you think so, do you think it's something in the genes, or is it a learned behavior from childhood?

If you don't think so, please tell me why.

2007-10-06 04:33:41 · 22 answers · asked by ncgirl 3

An old friend stops by and asks you if he can stay a couple days.while you are gone at work you find out later that he was watching porn in your room while your wife is there.The evidence looks as if she was in the same room because there are no cig buts in any other rooms.Your wife tells you she was in a differant room and acts like its no big deal. How would you respond to this.

2007-10-06 04:33:28 · 4 answers · asked by unmovingasp 3

There is a 27 year difference in the ages. She is quite younger. But she has expressed her desire, in more ways than one, of her attatchment and satisfaction of having a more experienced and wealthy companion.

But I worry. Is she simply using her beauty and younger body as a lure to get monetary returns?

I care deeply for my best friend. Ole Ernie is getting on in years and that poodle down the street seems to have wrapped him around her little paw. Should I keep her away and encourage him to "love up" the fence post as a substitute?

I don't want him to be hurt by false and contrived "love".

2007-10-06 04:22:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am in love with my best freind. and we have talked about like what if we got married, and she was the one who brought it up. We have also said what we would name our kids and stuff like that. but i want to hint her somehow that i want to marry her.. i just dont know how!!! HELP!!

and she also said to me, " You would be the one person i wouldnt divorce"

2007-10-06 04:12:05 · 8 answers · asked by oprahmax 1

Okay my husband and I just got married last June and since then its been very rocky...We are both very young.. I am 20 and he is 24 and his step father killed himself last Nov. his mother has been heavily on drugs before his step father killed himself but she got even worse after his death... She was on crack and cocaine... shes made my life a living hell... Shes in rehab right now and we are stuck raising her 15 year old son... We just bought a house together and I pictured this little fairy tale like everyone does... But the little brother is so bad... he curses us out and he seems to have so much anger inside... I try to set the punishment for him to actually learn and husband never follows through with the punishment... Mother in law always needs something from us... we had to move all of her stuff into our house and its full of her stuff and I am scared shes going to try to move in once she gets out... Husband keeps telling me shes not... I live in fear and I am tired of dealing..

2007-10-06 04:11:24 · 20 answers · asked by JessieA 2

my boyfriend and I have been talking about marriage - which led to an argument that has been ongoing. I really love this man, and I know that he loves me. However, I wanted to get married in 2009, he wants to get married asap. I want us to be around each other for a year going to marriage counseling and spending time together before we marry. He said he compromised for December of 08, but didn't mention that until we broke up. Then he wanted to move to washington after marriage. I have tried to compromise with him in many ways - he feels i'm not compromising, and I feel he's become different - he's really pushing his ideas and opinions - so I broke it off because I couldn't imagine saying yes with him being like this - I still love him, where do we go from here?

2007-10-06 04:00:44 · 10 answers · asked by CandiApple 1

Do woman enjoy any advantages because of their gender ?

Is marriage more advantageous to a man or a woman ?

2007-10-06 03:58:49 · 15 answers · asked by Pramod R 4

well i've been married for 5 years now my husband has an anger management problem he is 6 feet tall and looks like a fooball player so it is pretty intimidatingwhen he gets mad over little things even if i ask what they saying in the news he will snap but this is being growing with time he wa better before but it seems that he is always strees out about anything and everything he has an streessing job that i understand but dont take it out on me that how i feel then he blames me for everything that goes wrong in our life its just i have to much guilt all the time my best friend tell me i can live the rest of my life this way but is soooooo hard to divorce because i love him even more than my self i worry about hes feelings a lot and i know he loves me a lot so bottom line is dont know what todo cause he says hes going to change but then goes back to old wayshes done a lot a thing to me but cheating he is very lawful to me he always home when hes not working .

2007-10-06 03:44:53 · 8 answers · asked by kat 1

he is hard to deal with but he is very reliable (she got an operation in her brain ,he stayed supported and took care of her for a whole year of therapy and still taking care as she cant walk, talk or use her hand correctly , now she left him after he helped her buying new appartment and took all her furniture with ,I turned to hate her as i was all my life dont like him upon her talks on him - they supported me and my sister all our life and gave us good education and fully supported me in my marriage which i chose basically to stay beside her and give her grandchildren that she always dreamed of.. i feel like she destroyed us and forcing him to find another wife which in turn is frustrating for me ,i feel like she stapped me in my back as i stayed close to her ,married and worked a regular job just for her to be happy,and i gave up all my ambitions in traveling , building my own career and life.on the contrary my older sis that traveled & worked abroad that was very painful for her

2007-10-06 03:44:19 · 7 answers · asked by fady h 1

Looking for input. A guy friend of mine was telling me about his ex-girlfriend, who broke it off with him about a year ago and immediately hooked up with another guy. She got engaged shortly thereafter and was just married a few months ago to this guy. She has never stopped calling my friend over the past year. Numerous times, she has told my friend she still has feelings for him. Just this past week, she told him in a lengthy discussion that she still loves him, misses him, and even thinks of him as her soulmate. Maybe she's just jerking my friend around and telling him this stuff because she knows he likes to hear it. For better or worse, he still has feelings for her too.

This seems pretty weird to me. But, maybe I'm old fashioned and things are different today. I'm older and the girl I'm talking about is much younger, so maybe it's OK today to be married, but still have strong emotions for a previous boyfriend. Am I missing something?

2007-10-06 03:38:48 · 9 answers · asked by Tiger 1

Me and my faince' r so in love and been engaged for a very long time (but we were in two different countries so the engagement was mostly phone calls and internet)

Problem is .. the "honeymoon" sweet talks , beautiful feelings, calling each other sweet names, romantic stuff .. etc .. are disappearing one by one and it's time to be logic and serious and plan a life together .. I just can't get over it .. i feel i still want more "honeymoon" days .. sometimes i try to bring them back but it seems to be when it's over .. IT'S OVER and it's time to get real

I did talk to him and told him that i miss those days and had a long conversation but as a conclusion his reply was simply "u know i love u"

I dont wanna keep talking to him about it cuz i dont want to sound like an immature girl who still wants to live her fairytale .. or am i ?

Help .. how did u get over the fact that the "honeymoon" period is over ??

2007-10-06 03:31:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-06 03:13:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Finding it difficult to let go and still thinking about what I should do to get by. I still love her but as someone said shes toxxic. But shes my favorite mistake. Trying to dissapate the loneliness any suggestions?

2007-10-06 03:09:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

he said i hurt him why im bad proson

2007-10-06 02:33:39 · 13 answers · asked by tina t 1

My daughter is 3 and my ex told me she has been peeing the bed and and her pants. I have never seen her do that. I am worried. He is a control freak (that's why he is my ex husband.) I am so scared for her!

2007-10-06 02:02:04 · 22 answers · asked by ? 2

My 19 year old nephew is marrying his 19 year old girlfriend in December. He is currently serving in the Navy. I feel as though it's just a bit too young to be marrying according to today's standards? I am hoping his marragie will work out ok - do you think 19 is too young to marry?
thanks!

2007-10-06 01:57:27 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

I said I wouldnt do it any more but I still do and just delete the history.If she asks me which she does sometmes I just say I dont do it but I'm lying. We have a really good sex life and I love her. I'm 48. Am I doing wrong?

2007-10-06 01:14:54 · 25 answers · asked by Caroline 5

is right for me to marry awomen

2007-10-06 01:00:42 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

Sam and Becky are celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary. Sam says to Becky, "Becky, I was wondering - have you ever cheated on me?"

Becky replies, "Oh Sam, why would you ask such a question now? You don't want to ask that question..."

"Yes, Becky, I really want to know. Please..."

"Well, all right. Yes, 3 times..."

"Three? Well, when were they?" he asked.

"Well, Sam, remember when you were 35 years old and you really wanted to start the business on your own and no bank would give you a loan? Remember, then one day the bank president himself came over the house and signed the loan papers, no questions asked?"

"Oh, Becky, you did that for me! I respect you even more than ever, to do such a thing for me. So, when was number 2?"

"Well, Sam, remember when you had that last heart attack and you were needing that very tricky operation, and no surgeon would touch you? Then remember how the doctor came all the way up here, to do the surgery himself, and then you were in good shape again?"

"I can't believe it! Becky, you should do such a thingfor me, to save my life. I couldn't have a more wonderful wife. To do such a thing, you must really love me darling. I couldn't be more moved. So, all right then, when was number 3?"

"Well, Sam, remember a few years ago, when you really wanted to be president of the golf club and you were 17 votes short...?"

2007-10-06 00:37:31 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-06 00:06:21 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous