If a person grew up in a home where one of their parents was a habitual cheater, is that person more likely to cheat when he/she is married/in a relationship? What if the child never knew that the parent was a cheater until he/she was grown or never found out at all? What if the child hated that the parent cheated and swore he/she would never do that to someone he/she loved?
If you think so, do you think it's something in the genes, or is it a learned behavior from childhood?
If you don't think so, please tell me why.
2007-10-06 04:33:41 · 22 answers · asked by ncgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cheating is NEVER genetic or hereditary, it's also not a learned behavior, it's a choice that someone makes, becuase of their own selfishness. Your family history has nothing to do with the choices you make for yourself, and cheating is not a learned beavhior. You choose to cheat, just like you have the choice NOT to.
2007-10-06 06:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think cheating is some thing that is learned from others and the influences around us. I don't agree with it . I think if you dedicate your self to a person in marriage you put all your love into your relationship work at it, communicate problems out instead of finding another person when things get rough. Most children are hurt and have very angry issues about a parent cheating because it hurts everyone involved.Its OK to be angry about it. I think Its a choice to cheat or not people are temped all the time. If a person believes Its morally wrong and know how it effects all involved more than likely they will not cheat because they know the pain and hurt involved. ( I was married for 13 years and cheated on It was so painful. I am now remarried to a great guy I honesty know he would never put me through that he's a good guy.) I hoped this answered your questions. If you want to ask more questions contact me.
2016-03-13 07:18:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think cheating is a learnd behavior. If a parent is a habitual cheater than the child can be a cheater but if the parent don't let the child finds out then the child more likely not cheat. Cheating is depending on peer pessure and addicting. If the child thinks that cheating is wrong than he/she won't likely cheat. Sometimes the child can be encourage to not cheat by good friends, bible, parents, and teacher or maybe even tv. It all depends on the child but cheating IS a learn behavior. Example: when you born do you have all the skill your parents have? NO! You don't have all the skills, you learn to have the skills but never born with.
2007-10-06 04:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by 858top5 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that, to a certain point, it is learned behavior.
The men that I have known (not in a relationship with) who have cheated have all had fathers who cheated and their mothers either kept forgiving the affairs or chose to not recognize the obvious signs of affairs. The men that I know also did not have much of a relationship with their father because their dad was either not available or somewhat abusive...but not a loving role model. I think that the men that I am talking about are insecure (stemming from their childhood) and are looking for as much acceptance as they get, from whatever source. The men that I know also have some poor self esteem issues--they act tough, but you can tell they really are insecure with their professional lives. I think that these men truly love their wives, but simply did not learn how to be in a respecful, loving marriage.
The women that I know that have chosen to forgive the affairs are generally those who grew up in a household where their mothers were abused and afraid to leave, so that think that they will be a bad mother if they take their kids away from their dad. Or, they stay because their mom left their cheating dad and it threw them into financial ruin with no support from their fathers. Either way, they don't want to end up there. So, they try and try to be a better wife so that their husband won't want to stray. In fact, it has nothing to do with how great she is, it's how needy her husband is.
It's a sad situation.
2007-10-06 09:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by Susan D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is Cheating Hereditary
2017-01-12 03:59:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's absolutely a learned behavior. I don't necessarily think, however, that its learned from your parents or childhood, but more environment and popular culture. It is also sometimes a function of insecurity; not getting enough attention. The other most plausible reason for cheating is when a person is simply unhappy in their relationship and find something better. I don't think it is in anyone's genetic makeup to cheat.
2007-10-06 04:40:33 · answer #6 · answered by Mine's 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its more of a reaction to a certain action especially when the opportunity presents itself at the same time. Its more of a human action than any learned behavior or heredity factor. More like human revenge against another meant to hurt the other in most cases. Its a human misconception that an affair will cure relationship problems but only compounds them but most enter without ever thinking of the possible consequences if caught and allwho will possibly be hurt by it
2007-10-06 04:43:53 · answer #7 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe it is a learned behaviour. Have found that men or women who grew up seeing it as an accepted behaviour tend to believe it is acceptable. Have known some who had much heartach due to their cheating and it took years for them to realize that cheating does not make them more of a 'man' or 'woman'. They do not need this to validate their own sexuality or masculinity. But, also, some who had faithful parents seem to seek validation of their sexuality and appeal by cheating also. Guess it boils down to a choice on their part and their own character more than anything else.
2007-10-06 05:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what I have observed it is usually the child of the same sex as the cheater that will follow in his/her footsteps but more likely to be males who think that this is what marriage is supposed to look like. Nothing to do with genes but rather patterns in the family tree - never marry someone when you know there has been infidelity in their family!
2007-10-06 05:15:44 · answer #9 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think cheating is a lack of morals and respect for others. i really don't believe it has anything to do with genes, that sounds like a scape goat (i can't help myself, i was born this way). possibly a learned behavior, but only in the sense that the person was raise to believe it's OK to be selfish.
2007-10-06 05:42:50 · answer #10 · answered by paula t. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋