Looking for input. A guy friend of mine was telling me about his ex-girlfriend, who broke it off with him about a year ago and immediately hooked up with another guy. She got engaged shortly thereafter and was just married a few months ago to this guy. She has never stopped calling my friend over the past year. Numerous times, she has told my friend she still has feelings for him. Just this past week, she told him in a lengthy discussion that she still loves him, misses him, and even thinks of him as her soulmate. Maybe she's just jerking my friend around and telling him this stuff because she knows he likes to hear it. For better or worse, he still has feelings for her too.
This seems pretty weird to me. But, maybe I'm old fashioned and things are different today. I'm older and the girl I'm talking about is much younger, so maybe it's OK today to be married, but still have strong emotions for a previous boyfriend. Am I missing something?
2007-10-06 03:38:48 · 9 answers · asked by Tiger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it's not ok. This girl is just stringing your friend along. She wants him there as back-up, in case her marriage (which she rushed into) doesn't work out. She doesn't want him to get over her and move on with his life, even though she's moving on with hers. He should cut off all contact with her. She is probably telling him that stuff so she can hear it back from him and boost her ego.
2007-10-06 03:47:54 · answer #1 · answered by Fiona NYC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contrary to popular belief, soul mates are only reconnected in the afterlife; not here on earth. So, no she is not his nor he her soul mate. She is setting this friend up for much heartache; along with her husband. Of course people have feelings for others; even if they are married - but - when they have those feelings, instead of reaching out to have constant contact with that person, they need to wake up and stay far away. Oh, lets' put a mound of candy in front of someone obese or alcohol in front of someone who is an alcoholic. It is all in her control and his. Truthfully, the need to stay away from each other unless they want to reap the repricussions of their possible future actions and deal with the hurt and guilt it could cause.
2007-10-06 05:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think women can be friends with exes, but if she's telling her ex that she still loves him, misses him, etc. then she shouldn't have married Mr. Rebound.
I think your friend ought to consider cutting of contact with her, feelings or no, because she's married now and he can't be anything more than "just friends" with her. Based on what you've said of her and the fact that he still has feelings for her, it's an affair waiting to happen (because it doesn't sound like she has the boundaries in place to understand that she's MARRIED now).
2007-10-06 03:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only have one soulmate. The concepts of soulmates arose from Greek mythology. According to the story, our ancestors once had 2 heads, 4 arms. They did something to offend a god so that god punished them by splitting them down the middle, resulting in the creation of humans. As a punishment, we are condemned to spend our lives searching for the other half, our soulmates.
2016-05-17 08:54:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently she doesn't love her husband as much as she professes to love him......a married woman or a man for that matters has no business contacting an ex and telling them that they still have feelings for them....She is messing with your friend's head... If she had unresolved issues with your friend she shouldn't have gotten married.....Your friend is playing with fire by talking with this VERY MARRIED woman....and would be wise to cease all contact with her. As far as being his soul mate....if she was his soul mate don't you think they would be together?
2007-10-06 03:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is an idiot if he believes a word she is saying.
Do people who love you sleep with and then marry others? Do people that care about you jerk you around like that?
Tell him to grow a pair, tell her to move on, and then stop taking her calls.
2007-10-06 03:43:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're not missing anything.... There is something missing in this girls head though. Your friend must be blind not to see she is a nut case. Tell him to open his eyes to reality or she will ruin his life.
2007-10-06 04:10:53 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to move on and stop taking her calls. I had something similiar happen to me. I didn't take that kind of crap and I feel a lot better for it. It's just not right to linger on past loves!
2007-10-06 03:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we can be our Own worst critic was there anything about the guy that he left out not to tell you that he brought caos to the relationship with the girl! There are often and always two sides to every story!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Often times we can be our own worst critics....................................
2007-10-06 03:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by rita_hiemy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋