my name is shery .my problem is in my life there is no happiness& and no good job?

Answer 1

Hi Shery. I'm not sure what your circumstances are...whether or not children are involved. As far as your job, it's NEVER too late to go back to school. As much help as there is now days there is no excuse. I went to college on a Pell Grant. It was 100% free and as long as I maintained a C average I didn't have to worry. If you don't have a diploma get your GED. I got an Associates Degree in two years in Dental Hygiene (cleaning people's teeth). I came FRESH out of college making $20/hour.
As far as your marital problems, (I assume your married since your question is in the marriage & divorce section), you need to do what's best for your health and sanity. If that means a divorce then so be it. But don't divorce your husband just because you're unhappy with yourself. (If that's the case). Because if you don't fix yourself, no matter how many times you get married or how many men you date, you will keep having the same problem over and over again.

I had to start taking an anti-depressant and my outlook has changed drastically. You may want to talk to your gynecologist about that. I take Wel-Butrin SR.

If you're not married then the same rules apply...don't get married because you think it's going to make you happy. You will doom your marriage from the start if you do that.

And if you have kids and can't find the time to go to school, there are TONS of online courses available. You can study part-time. TAKE ADVANTAGE OF WHATS OUT THERE!!

Good luck hon :)

Answer 2

Dear Shery,
The word happiness has been defined in various ways. But in the normal sense, we can call a person happy, when he is in harmony with his environment and relations. Environment means life style, living standards and all. Different people will have different living environment according to their "Karma Philosophy". The problem arises when we start comparing other's environment with ours. That also we used to take the model to the higher level. That means instead of relaxing by looking downwards, we used to sigh looking upwards.

Shery keep this awareness in your intellect that a person who is taking birth in a fortunate atmosphere is not because of his merit or due to the grace or blessing of God, but he is enjoying the reward of his actions from the previous life. Likewise if you are having a sorrowful life, it is not because of your fault. As per the world drama rule"whatever you do, you have to reap it". You are now settling your karmic account. Just be happy with it. If you are not settling that in this birth, again you will have to settle it in the succeeding incarnations.

Regarding job. There are so many jobs around. Only thing is you must not have that much of body consciousness to think that this job is good and this job is bad. All jobs that will not involve other's pain or tears (robbery, pimping, prostitution like devilish job) have their own dignity. So find a job that matches with your qualification and experience. Don't look at others. Do what you feel is right. If you will start comparing your life with others, you will feel jealousy, frustration and all. Just think "my life is mine and others is for themselves only". It is saying in bible na "Every grain that you eat , your name is written on it"

Answer 3

Shery. You need to make your own happiness. Take a walk. read a book. Listen to music. Paint your toe nails. Clean your house. Organize your closet.Do something you know that will make you personally feel happy. Surround yourself with a few friends to make you smile. As for the good job, maybe you need to go back to school and update your skills.Or, if worse comes to worse, relocate, if possible, to find a better paying job.Take care!

Answer 4

There ain't happiness any where. Most people pretend to be happy but they are not. Some are happy for a season and sad the other season and sorrow the other and miserable the other etc. Happiness is hard to define especially if you consider your financial status, your state or country. Third world contries of cause jobs are limited and without a job is stressful. Being in an abusive relationship causes unhappiness. So why not pretend to be happy like the rest do.

Answer 5

happiness in life is what we make of it, and as for good jobs, there the same. If your not happy at your job find another one. If your talking about good jobs meaning money paying ones, don't fool yourself those are usually hi pressure jobs and most people in them are not happy. Shery, surely you have one piece of happiness in your life, everyone does even if its a memory. If you need to chat please feel free to contact me. Sounds like your in a bit of a depression. Take care

Answer 6

First of all, 'We are product of our own thoughts.' That means our thoughts create world for ourselves. So what can be done is just shift the thoughts. In normal cases we try to run away from the problem, that itself creates more problems. First option Better stop running, and face it. For eg. If we are been chased by a dog, we keep running. And next time if we face such situation we will do the same, and next time again the same thing. Now just sit, relax and analyse your action. If, in the same situation we face that dog with courage, and overcome that. Next time we will face again, and the fear will be moved out. In short problems get solved by facing it. Second option. Consider that there is no problem at all. My belief is that, problems are nothing but a mask covering an opportunity. Consider each and every problem as an opportunity to grow. Third option. Love yourself. Love is the most powerful emotion in this universe, that can do innumerable miracles in life. The more you love yourself, the more peaceful life becomes. And when it comes to loving yourself, love your each and every thought. Final suggestion. Read books based on Mind power. Some good books to start with - "The Secret by Rhonda Byrne", "The Power of Subconscious Mind by Dr. Joseph Murphy", "What to say when you talk to yourself" etc. Search the web you will find many options. Keep learning life, that is the best way to enjoy life.

Answer 7

my dear Shery....happiness starts from within, if u're not happy within urself... u can never be happy even if someone entered your life. learn to be happy with yourself then can u be happy with someone else and no good job means u have to get up and find a way of making things work for u... one thing i'm learning is.. don't work for money, let money work for u.
if u are gonna wake up everyday and go to work at seven only to come home at five is not a life and it is cruel to live that kind of lif... it is found cruel to wake up in the middle of the night terrified about paying your debts, and it is cruel to live in fear that the next month we won't have money if we don't take that pay-less job! it's time you realized that more money means more spending and the more you spend is the more you want more money and that is Rat Race that we must all avoid.
use your brain to take a risk and overcome the emotion of fear and greed(desire) because if ever you are going to let your emotions do the thinking for you then you are facing a life that is not productive and not happy at all.
advice: read this book: RICH DAD POOR DAD.
love lots,Sonia

Answer 8

Shery help around the house more and dont wake your mother up all the time cuz she works two jobs

Answer 9

It is difficult when you feel like this but have you heard about a film titled "The Caveman" some of the actresses was Ursula Andres and the actor was George Harrison? You might find good ideas while planning for an intrepreneurship. You never know. Having something that you call your own will surely make you happy.

Answer 10

Sometimes a person has to create his/her own happiness. A good way to find it is by reaching out to others. Do volunteer work. Help children or help those less fortunate than yourself.

Take a class. Join a gym. Learn a new hobby. Make new friends.

If unsatisfied in your job, take a few days off and use that time to look for a new job.

Sometimes, you have to make happiness happen. I suggest you start by reaching out to others. Good luck to you.