he is hard to deal with but he is very reliable (she got an operation in her brain ,he stayed supported and took care of her for a whole year of therapy and still taking care as she cant walk, talk or use her hand correctly , now she left him after he helped her buying new appartment and took all her furniture with ,I turned to hate her as i was all my life dont like him upon her talks on him - they supported me and my sister all our life and gave us good education and fully supported me in my marriage which i chose basically to stay beside her and give her grandchildren that she always dreamed of.. i feel like she destroyed us and forcing him to find another wife which in turn is frustrating for me ,i feel like she stapped me in my back as i stayed close to her ,married and worked a regular job just for her to be happy,and i gave up all my ambitions in traveling , building my own career and life.on the contrary my older sis that traveled & worked abroad that was very painful for her
2007-10-06 03:44:19 · 7 answers · asked by fady h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what is upsetting me that all our life she used to tell us that he wont help us (me and sister) that he is bad and he will dump her when she grow up that his family are selfish and will take all his money by the time i found the contrary he is the only one who stayed beside her for over a year of therapy after a brain surgery in his sister appartment outside town for nothing the hole 15 months and they were always asking and visiting .dad and mum always argue together in everything he is not very generous and not into loving talks but he done all his best for us all.his family is nice with us now even in very past they were teasing her.beside i stayed married closer to her for them to be nice and together.she done so many great things too.but how i convince her he is not that bad,stop both arguing on everything and put some trust.yes its her life but i feel he was dumped for unfair reasons,he still willing to stay with her,i dont like seeing him lonley .she remeber only bad memories
2007-10-07 04:36:13 · update #1
What you did with your life is YOUR responsiblity, not hers!
If she choses to leave your father that's her responsibilty and has nothing to do with you.
This is the real world.
2007-10-06 04:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by LAL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, how selfish of YOU ! to be honest, you dont know what that woman has been going through with him all those years. I mean she could have been the type of mother that went out her way to hide alot of their problems from her kids. I was in a relationship like that, and my ex was very emotionally and physically abusive to me, but my kids never knew nothing ! I hid the pain, and the bruises. you should have sat down with your mother, and asked her the real reason she was ready to call it quits after all those years, because it had to be something you guys just dont know about. your mom deserves to be happy too, it is not all about you ! grow up and stop being selfish !
2007-10-06 11:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a situation that you should back out of for awhile and let your parents alone. They are adults. Your mother needs to make her own decision. It also appears that all your life, you've done things for her approval and not what you really wanted to do. As I said, back off for awhile. Take time for a reality check. Maybe your parents will have one too.
2007-10-06 11:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never should have lived your life for your mother, you should have always been true to yourself. That is what your mother is doing now, instead of being mad and resentful towards her respect her wishes. This is between your mother and father, no one else. Try to be happy with your life.
2007-10-06 10:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's her life! what now you think she owes you cuz of all the things you gave up for her?what about her giving things up for you and siblings since you were born?! let her live her life for whats left!! maybe she doesn't wanna die unhappy.
2007-10-06 10:57:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to respect her decision even if you don't understand it. It is her life after all.
2007-10-06 10:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by * Xanthippe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are no more hormones between them
let them separate and see what real life is like
2007-10-06 10:49:08 · answer #7 · answered by Effu 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋