Is monogamy really necessary for a successful marriage if the spouses should agree otherwise?

Answer 1

No if it makes you both happy to swing, then be a swinger.

Answer 2

No, monogamy is not necessary for a successful marriage if the spouses agree otherwise. For instance, it is commonly accepted that the divorce rate amongst swingers (real swingers, not the ones that dabble in it to "fix" a broken relationship) is only around 15%, 3-times less than general society.

When compared against the General Societal Survey 78.5% of swingers described their marriage as "very happy" compared to 64.0% of those in the GSS. Only 21.5% of swingers described their marriage as "pretty happy" or "not to happy" compared to 36% of non-swingers.

Also, 62.6% of swingers found that swinging improved their marriages/relationships, 35.6% said their relationships stayed about the same, and only 1.7% said they became less happy. Even among those who said their marriages were "Very Happy" prior to swinging nearly 49.7% said they became happier.

Basically, it's whatever the couple agrees on. There is as many ways to do a relationship as their are people in them. Like snowflakes, no two are exactly alike. What works for one couple may not work for another couple.

Answer 3

Yes, actually it is. While it may seem mature and enlightened to allow an 'open' marriage it is only asking for trouble. Why would a spouse stick around when things get tough if there is nothing special or exclusive about the marriage?

Not only is such a couple, and if you ask me especially the woman, asking for trouble but they're setting the stage for divorce.

In an open marriage either partner is able to have sex with whomever they want...so what happens in 5 or 10 years when the dear hubby is hot for a young thing? Or what if the hubby starts to have male pattern baldness and wifey thinks 'Joe Hot Bod' is sexier? All they need to do is pick a fight and they've got their divorce. And do I even need to get into STD's?

Sex is a powerful communication tool between a man and a wife. It's a way for each partner to honor one another. Sure it's not the only thing that makes marriage special and important but it is one of the foundation blocks.

I, personally, have never heard of an open marriage lasting very long at all.

Answer 4

I think that's a really tricky question that depends entirely on the couple. My first reaction is to say that no, it isn't necessary if both spouses agree otherwise. But it opens a lot of opportunity for trouble, I personally couldn't see my marriage going that direction without eventual conflict. But to each his own.

Answer 5

I used to think Sex was just Sex and people could have SEX with whom they wanted to when there was an agreement. Someone always breaks the rules. Someone goes out side the boundaries and it messes everything up. I always told my ex if he was on a business trip and needed some strange to wrap it and go for it I just did not want to be sitting at a volleyball game with some witch behind me thinking "I did your man" and he broke the rules. I saw this woman everyday and dealt with her for school things and all along she was diddling him. He broke the rules so he is out of here I would rather be alone then go through that again. Now I have to have monogamy to be in a relationship.

Answer 6

OH NO. Its never a good idea unless you want to end up divorced.Unless you are both extremely secure with yourselves and each other and you are both mature enough to seperate sex from love (which most women cant even though men can) one of you will end up getting extremely jealous and bitter towards the other.Or one of you will end up falling in love with other people. Its just not a good idea.Ive been there.Not in a marriage but in a 4 year relationship and we ended up hating each other for it.Even if it sounds good now it will be bad later on.And you will both be angry at each other even if you dont realize that you are and it will cause serious arguments because of the fact that one or both of you will be bitter about the other cheating.

Answer 7

No, monogamy is not required for a successful marriage, but honesty is. Cheating is only wrong because it involves lying.

Answer 8

There is no marriage if there is no monogamy. Couples who pull this kind of stuff find out the hard way. If you don't care to be faithful, don't marry.

Answer 9

Yes it absolutely is. And just to clarify your question monogamy is to be with only one person during a relationship not abstinence where you totally abstain from any sexual activities.

Answer 10

Yes. Even if both of you agreed to be with others, problems would arise over time. Jealousy would brew. Infidelity has a way of bringing your insecurities out into the open. If you experiment like this then you'll have fun doing it, but in the long run you will both regret it.