Have you ever had to lower your standards and be with a person, that is normally not your type ? serious answers please,
If yes, how did the relationship play out ? did you fall in love ? what happened ?
2007-10-06 15:56:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, and it all played out very well because I fell in love with him and I realised that if I hadn't "lowered my standards", as you said, I would have missed out the opportunity to date this guy. He wasn't my type because of physical appearance. And we started dating at a point in my life when I was really isolated and he really helped me get better, so I love him even more for that!
2007-10-06 16:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by muffinauxcarottes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I wouldn't say I lowered my standards, I just continued to go out with a fellow that was not my type and boring. LOL, I ended up marrying that guy and we had 32 great years, and to think I dumped him 3 times before I started to see the good in him, I'm sure glad he didn't dump me!
2007-10-06 16:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by Great Grandma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes my 1st husband , he was german for 1 full blooded and a decendant of a not very nice person , he acted like a complete and utter show pony in front of other women , he cheated on every girl he ever dated , he disrespected his mother every chance he got , he thought he was above the law and above any normal human being , he honestly thinks to this day being a blond haired blue eyed german he is the king of the world .
I would never have dated him or had children or married him if my life hadnt been so messed up and he hadnt convinced me he was so wonderful and would always put me above the world , but we live and learn dont we .I divorced him and he is still running my damn life through our daughter.
2007-10-06 16:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, if I hadn't, I wouldn't have any ex's.
My relationships didn't work out, because I was always disapointed in the end. They never turned out to be who I thought they were. Guys are good at playing the part of "what you need when you're at a "low point", but if he's a realy good guy, he might work out, just count yourself lucky he's not an ***.
2007-10-06 16:08:54 · answer #4 · answered by reptileandee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, after my divorce, I felt useless. I met a man who was divorced with 2 young daughters that needed help. I needed to feel needed and got involved with him and his daughters. He was very different than anyone I had ever been with and after a year and a half I realized I wasn't attracted to him at all. I was attracted to the thought of being needed. Worked out in the end - I've maintained contact with the girls. In hind-sight I just cannot believe I talked myself into being with him. He wasn't even fun to be around. Strange what you do when you are at the lowest point in your life.
2007-10-06 16:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by slv02 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
God yes and bless his heart he was a great guy that was the bad thing and I ended up hurting him really bad. I was totally honeswt with him about how I felt and where I was in my life and he just thought he would ware me down and I would love him. Bless him. He was so sad. I finally appologized for treating him so bad 1 year after we parted ways. I dated him 9 months and never even french kissed him. He just hung on.
2007-10-06 16:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by soulmate_n_nc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and I still regret it.
Went out with this person for two years and ended hating him. Also, I hurt his feelings deeply, which was not fair. It was hard to split, because I struggled to get free from him but he was in love and became very controlling and manipulative.
Besides, it affected my self esteem. Thank goodness I got out of that relationship.
It was horrible. Don't do it.
2007-10-06 18:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by melissa986 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sort of.
Actually I married someone at a low point in my life that I wouldn't ordinarily have married.
Turnout out exactly as one would expect.
2007-10-06 16:01:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh lord yes! when i was younger i was at a point in my life that all i wanted to do was party. i had a string of short term jobs, but i had a great social life. i met this guy and fell in love with him. he ended up going to prison and i stayed with him for a while. yeah, it ended up with him going back to prison numerous times and i grew up.
2007-10-06 16:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a few times when I was just lonely and wanted some companionship. It did not work out.
2007-10-06 15:59:40 · answer #10 · answered by Judy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋