since we got married (2 months ago) my husband started to speak very bad to me, he left his job and since then he didn't do anything to get another. he keeps saying that he has not studies to get a proper job. anyway when he used to work i earned double than him but this never it was a problem for me. also he's saying that i have studies (law school) and always i'll be better than him.he's not doing anything all day. i'm working, i'm paying the rent, i'm paying for food and his beers, i'm doing everything in the house. I never made him feel bad for this and always i tried to encourage him.but he can't appreciate all these and he's giving back only very bad words. and tonight he went to sleep at his mom's
2007-10-06 12:29:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
vnj....be sure i told him that many times, even today i registered him on some job sites, but he took it wrong. never i counted the money he brings in. i think money shouldn't matter as long as there is love and understanding. never looked down on him.
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breastmom...fortunately the house is on my name. he used to live with his mom before he moved in with me
2007-10-06 12:51:48 · update #1
NICHOLAS.....he left his job, he was not fired.
2007-10-06 12:56:03 · update #2
Your husband seems to be troubled with "unknowns". Does he feel guilt for himself that he allows himself to deny himself who he is towards you? I believe he may be under stress associated with depression that makes him acts like this towards you. If he lost the job that's not the only one or the last one, he has to understand its part of life to gain or loss. The best thing to do is sit your husband down and talk to him politely for him to understand the problem surrounding both of your are normal, and you will do anything possible until he get back to his feet. He is not getting it right now only that he has let the loss of his job to get the best out of him and he is taking it on you. A good and better communication would solve your problem.
2007-10-06 12:51:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should actually help him understand in your conversations that though he makes less money than you, that you do not look down on him. Say things like "whats important is that you are actually working and helping out in our family activties. Its not what amount you earn but its more about how you are helping out".
I think that will help him feel better and he will start looking for jobs. Also tell him that you are there to support him and help him find a job, so help him get on hotjobs.yahoo.com, monster.com etc and help him build a resume.
2007-10-06 19:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by vnj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a loser and only looking for a meal ticket. Be glad he left and if he wants to come back give him a set period of time to get a job, don't buy him beer, and remember that you will not find true love until you divorce this jerk and look somewhere else.
2007-10-06 19:37:27 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have gotten very lucky by mistake. He is showing his true colors and his personality. THough it may be tough you probably want to reevaulute wether this relationship is worth continuing. To put it bluntly. Get rid of the sponge before he ruins you.
2007-10-06 20:01:09 · answer #4 · answered by Bob D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sound like the marriage is a mistake. I'd be surprised if he didn't emit some clues before marriage.... It seems to be that the best solution is to divorce him as you've really had no marriage to begin with.
2007-10-06 19:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by Neil L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that bast*** kick him to the curb, he will never change
you deserve better than that and I'd say its time for you to start. change the locks. who's name is on the lease..if its both of yours, then that may cause trouble, or more trouble than you need. If its your name..call the cops.....or just pack up and move, dont call him or let him know..let him suffer
2007-10-06 19:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by Marie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how it's bothering you and if he can't respect and understand all you do then you deserve better. Tell him to get his act together and if not then I'd leave him and find someone better... you shouldn't have to be like his total support basis
2007-10-06 19:36:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. He won't change and it could become physical abuse. He is a Mama's Boy and shouldn't be married.
You have made it too easy for him.
2007-10-06 19:39:44 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a SPONGE. A USER. A JERK. A LOSER.
THROW HIM OUT.
DUMP HIM NOW and thank your lucky stars that you found out now, before you subjected some poor child to this loser.
2007-10-06 19:34:00 · answer #9 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get out now!! It won't get better and the longer you stay the harder it is to leave!!
2007-10-06 19:36:03 · answer #10 · answered by onceisenoughilearnedmylesson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋