what can a beautiful wife do to tame a highly promiscious husband?

Question

tried everything........ lots of sex, good sense of humour, dress nicely, good food (served on time) up for any new thing, Encouraging and supportive.......... what's missing? please tell me

Answer 1

Unfortunately nothing. A man who is a cheater will be one. It really has nothing to do with you.. It is him and his low self esteem. He feels as if he needs to acquire the women in the world to make himself be a man.. Please get away from him if you can he will only make you feel that YOUR worth is decided by his approval.

Answer 2

What's missing is your absence.

No idea why you want to stay with this man, however, the only thing that may work is reverse psychology. That means, you carry on being the lovely person you are but you take a different tack with it.

First, tell him you have zero problem with him cheating (part of him is reveling in the "forbidden" aspect of this). Then, you start cutting back your availability to him.

Get yourself dressed up while he's there (make up, nice clothes, as if you have a date) and go out for the night, on your own. Don't tell him where you are going, just smile sweetly and tell him you have things to do, you are "meeting friends". It doesn't matter if you're just going to watch a movie on your own, just leave the house.

Get yourself a social life - be busy, busy, busy. Get some interests outside of the marriage that he doesn't take part in. Basically, as he arrives home, you are leaving, or you aren't there. On a Friday, let him arrive home to a note that you've gone to Hawaii, or whatever, for the weekend.

Be very sweet when you are doing this. Sweet but with a backbone of iron. You will have to be a bit of a b-itch (not the nasty abrasive sort, more the kind of woman who can stand up for herself and not be walked over because she is assertive - stop cooking most of his dinners for a start because you are "too busy").

If this works, because he will start going crazy at the thought that you may end up meeting someone else, once he is safely back in the fold, you can scale back this behaviour a little, but this "unavailable" tactic will probably have to be a part of your relationship for the rest of time you are together. Keep him guessing.

Good luck.

Answer 3

She doesnt love you! Marriage is a union of 2 people, but in your case it seems that you are the only one doing your part. Dump him and find someone who will respect and appreciate you. He shouldnt be looking somewhere else with a beautiful wife, lots of sex (very important), good sense of humour, dresses nice, encouraging and supportive, you are the perfect wife.

Answer 4

If you sit him down and ask him straight out what he's doing by hurting you and your marriage, you may get a dialog of some sort going.
Promiscuity is not tameable, it's a bad behavior. Level with him and tell him that if he doesn't stop messing around, he'll lose the one good woman that's in his life. If he's smart, he'll listen and shape up. If he doesn't break the habit, make good on your word without making a big scene out of it.
Your beauty, humor, fashion sense, cooking, and openness to new experiences isn't really a factor. It's not you, it's him.

Answer 5

.... a divorce if you ask me!

You are a saint to put up with that!

Seriously though hun YOU seem to be the one making the effort to resolve things but you not mentioning one thing he doing to solve situation and I guessing he isn't as you seem to have tried all these things and he still cheating.

This seams from the very first time you decided to forgive him for cheating ... he has taken advantage of your forgiveness and has treated you like a fool.

He is really having his cake and eating it. He feels he can go sleeping around and still knows at the end of the day, you are going to be there still loving him and forgiving him. He seems to be given a green light to keep doing this to you.

If it were me I would have left him a long time ago and I would sit down with him and ask him to go to counselling and make more of an effort and talk about future because way it is going it isn't as if the two of you are going to have a future together unless it involves the population of women!

Good luck!

Lx

Answer 6

Its so sad. Because you are beautiful and a decent person you thought you could change him. You can't. You are only responsible for yourself. Some men just love the chase. Now he has married you things are not the same for him. You are banging your head on a brick wall. Time to get out really really fast. My mum married a man like him. 5 children and 20 years later, he still hadn't changed. She was 19 and stunning and he was 35 when they met. She learnt a lot from him. She left.

Answer 7

You cant! Beautiful or not, good lover or not wont keep a man tame if he doesn't want to be. You cant stop a man from doing what he wants I have learned. Often we assume we can better ourselves to make our man stay good and around forever. You can't! If he can't stay good to you than you are better off without that situation. So remember no matter what - a man does what he wants regardless of how beautiful or sweet U are!!

Answer 8

Here are a few! Leave his dinner in the oven to burn, his clothes unwashed and his bedding on the couch. Leave a note on the kitchen table - gone out. Go anywhere - cinema, friends, family and when you come back - tell him the maid service is over and don't justify what you've done nor tell him where you've been. Don't try to change him - change yourself. You are only rewarding his selfish and dangerous behaviour. Go out and reward yourself for putting up with him for so long. He will eventually realise that his only options are to shape up or ship out. In the meanwhile, you enjoy yourself and your life!

Answer 9

Is this your covenant spouse? If so, you need to put God first in your life and pray for your husband's soul and for your marriage. Get the book called Power of a Praying Wife. Also check out the links below, especially the marriage restoration ministries.

Answer 10

Hess just like a rampant horse by the sounds of things, however, he always comes home to you? You are there for him and provide all he wants which is good in a way but try to give him a challenge also - not with other men im not suggesting that, but away on hol as a threesome?

Answer 11

Nothing other than stop letting him get away with it. Personally I would dump him now and find someone who will treat you right. Otherwise, you have to give an ultimatium but MEAN IT! You need to tell him to either keep his d*ck in his pants unless he is with you, or you are going to leave. Then if he strays, dump his butt.

The only other thing would be for you to find someone else behind his back. That, of course, won't fix anything, but you might find yourself having fun and find it much easier to dump your wayward hubby.