I just got out of an engagement a month ago today. I still love him and I want to be with him. I don't know what to do...He says he still sees a future with us but doesn't know how long it's going to be before we're together again. Do I move on or stick around? I was thinking of moving to Indiana but he thinks that will completely destroy us...I need advide//feedback on what would be the best choice. Please help! Thanks!
2007-10-06 20:37:08 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my grandmother repeated this to me:
if you love something. set it free.
if it comes back it is yours.
if it doesn't. it never was.
it's the one saying that i've always carried with me.
2007-10-06 20:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by dropdeadcherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you break the engagement or did he?
In any event, I'd suggest you sit down with him, make sure you have his undivided attention, and ask him what needs to happen for you two to be back together. Then SHUT UP and WAIT. I know it can be really hard to endure the long silence when you may not like the answer but any good interrogator will tell you that waiting is the only way to get to the truth. Then you can decide if you can give him what he needs.
Good luck.
2007-10-06 20:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by Net Rider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it kind of looks as if he is dating someone else, and being insecure and not really knowing if the new thing will work out, he keeps u there just in case, which is unfair because u have no guarantees there, u may be waiting for something that will never happen, and miss the chance of finding someone new. if the man loved u he would be there working on it, trying to make it right instead of giving u alot of promises of maybe. your right if u leave its probably over with, but it might already be over with now. think he is with someone else and won't come back until he is ready if ever. but who wants to be second best to someone else? it is hard to give someone up u love, but if they have someone else why wait maybe in vain for them to decide they want u.
2007-10-06 21:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are all playing each others mind. Get to the bottom part of it and discuss these issues in detail. Don't keep on leaving each other in suspense, its either you are in it or out. You all need to be mature enough, express your true feeling to each other, put all option on the table, and decide from there what's your fate in that relationship instead of wasting each others time. Step up to the plate and know where you stand.
2007-10-06 21:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there was a future for you both you would be together now, he is cruel to string you along and play your feelings, let go, it's for the best.
2007-10-06 20:40:35 · answer #5 · answered by cheeky_lil_pixiegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u broke up...
and now he doesn't no when u will get back together again???
THEN IT IS TIME TO MOVE ON....
i mean what is the deal??/ why doesn't he want to be engaged now???
something is fishy here???
2007-10-06 20:42:15 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When something is meant to be, it usually falls into place nicely the first time around.
2007-10-06 20:56:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on, try dating other people.
2007-10-06 20:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by soltaino79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋