My boyfriend and I got into our first huge argument today. It's been building for about a week now. Anyways, I took our two daughters and decided to spend the night at my moms since all my sisters and their families were over for dinner and a campfire etc etc.. so this may be a silly question--but since we've never had a huge argument before (usually we just talk things out before it ever gets to this point, but for some reason lately he's been moody and irrational) So tomorrow when i go home- do I just keep ignoring him? Should I make the 'first move' and apologize? (even though i did nothing wrong- he's being selfish and immature) or do I just wait for him?
2007-10-06 16:52:33 · 10 answers · asked by Amy Clark 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give it time and space until he gets over and then he will come over and apologize. There is no reason for you to make apologies over his crankiness and immature behavior.
2007-10-06 16:57:08 · answer #1 · answered by terliuke 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call him and tell him that the two of you need to talk, then meet at a neutral place, not home nor at your mothers. tell him that he appeared to you to be moody and irrational for the past week and ask him if there is a reason for this. Perhaps he has been having problems at work, for example and never mentioned that to you, or perhaps he has met someone new and feels trapped in the relationship with you. then after you have the conversation decide if you want to go home or back to your mothers. You don't want to ruin what would be a great relationship but neither do you want to get back into a situation where there will be huge arguments for your sake and for the sake of your daughters.
2007-10-06 17:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ignore him and don't apologize if you aren't at fault for anything. The one thing you might want to apologize for is leaving the situation instead of staying and toughing it out until you both got things working again. Don't really view it as you making the first move. Just view it as you taking the lead on getting past this, so that things can go back to normal. Express to him how you truly feel about your issues at hand and ask him how he feels. Ask him why he has been moody and irrational lately...just really get to the core of the issue and tackle it. Usually that opens up dialog for underlying issues that you both probably are emotional about then you both comfort eachother and make up. Good luck and remember...if you really love him and want things to work...never, never, never give up!
2007-10-06 17:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by Corporate Bully 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to talk things over. If you think you did nothing wrong he may be thinking the same about himself..
Sometimes apologize isn´t that bad if you have a better situation out of all this. You can´t ignore him because this things "sleep under your bed".
Better speak!,,,communication is the most important element in a marriage, try no to lose it...
Talk to him why is he being moody?----Be wise, don´t get angry, go easy, watch your temper,,,and you will win any battle. Take care of your marriage!..
2007-10-06 17:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by jackielafemme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you have to remember, is that you have to be an example to your daughters. Obviously, there is something eating at your boyfriend. I suggest that you do not ignore him, but try to find out what is happening to him. You could let him know, you hate having to be fighting with him and want to help him in whatever is bothering him. You both need to show your kids all the love you have for them. During these times of argument, it affects them maybe even more than it does you,even if they are small. I wish you all the best.
2007-10-06 17:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would have to apologize before I would go back and no telling what to. The kids don't need to have to deal with this. So leave them with a friend if you do go back and talk it out.
2007-10-06 17:46:47 · answer #6 · answered by Life lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what he did. Personally, I would just stay at mom's until he called and apologized.
2007-10-06 16:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go home and tell him that you guys need to talk about this when he's ready.
2007-10-06 17:17:33 · answer #8 · answered by Wild Ginger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet pea, if a president of a country was at fault. She/He should and shall apologized to *THE ONE* she/he had hurt regardless of who, where that one came from. Admitting to failures will make you a stronger person. That's how you should train your partner...Train isn't a good term, but but I forgot the term for it...ah! communicating with your partner. Don't provoke but you'd rather insist, yeh! hehehehe!!!!!!!!!
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2007-10-06 17:15:37 · answer #9 · answered by Dongfeng!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go home, and tell him you are ready to talk when he is.
2007-10-06 16:55:41 · answer #10 · answered by agonyaunt86 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋