Marriage & Divorce - 10 October 2007

Been married for several years but wife now has zero interest in sex. Have had NONE in 5 years. What do you think?

2007-10-10 17:25:26 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

i found a pic of him having sex with another woman

2007-10-10 17:17:38 · 12 answers · asked by jennifer h 1

I know that divorce and custody laws in the US differ so greatly from state to state. Why do people love giving the wrong advice to people on YA? I thought I was wrong to deny my ex-husband my address but only telephonic communication is dictated in our FL divorce decree and custody because the distance is greater than 350 miles it's different than in-state FL cases too. He does not have the explicit rights to do what he's done in the state we were divorced in. Ok, not a real question but gosh I look forward to my ex-husband falling flat on his face in court soon.....

2007-10-10 17:07:53 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

He works alot and is never free to go out with me to trips (other than the reg. dinner/movie or stay at home) he always tells me we'll do something or go somewhere for the weekend and never follows through. We were never able to plan anything in advance altough i suggested it many times b/c of his work schedule. & honestly I was tired. tired of always going out to parties or fam. events by myself b/c he was working. I sent him a txt message last monday saying that i was tired of everything always being about work and that I was done, all he had to say was "whatever" that next sat. (this past sat) was suppossed to be our 3-year anniversary. Up to today I had not heard anything from him no e-mail, txt call nothing. So i sent him a txt asking if he could stop by and pick up something. He said he didnt have the emotional capacity to see me and that was it. I don't know what to do, I love him so much and am so devastated but It just grown old always having compete with work.

2007-10-10 16:51:15 · 21 answers · asked by sola07 2

Ok. Here it goes:
I'm 25 and I'm in an adulterous relationship. I am single, he is married. Next week is my birthday and we want to celebrate it together (a few days before my the actual birthday). We are planning on staying overnight. My mom knows about him, isn't too happy but we talk about it. Should I tell her I am going to be with him? or should I tell her I'm sleeping over at a friend's house?

Please no judgemental answers. I love my mother dearly and I'm in love with him.

2007-10-10 16:47:18 · 22 answers · asked by OmShanti 2

I got married when i was 18. Before i got married, this man treated me if i were a princess, but when we got married things changed for the worse. For the first year of my marriage he phsyically abused me. He would restrain me and leave marks on my arms from restraining me too hard. He would put his hand around my neck leaving marks. He would spit in my face, and even has thrown me to ground.
He does not do the physical abuse anymore but will still call me the C word a b*tch retarded and stupid whenever we get into arguements.
Well I have this guy friend at work that i have talked to about all this and he has been there for me when i needed someone to listen. The other day we admitted to one another we like each other.
I feel so wrong for saying that I liked him because I do love my husband and I know he has tried so hard to change but the truth is that the abuse has made me lose a lot of my affection towards him. What to do? HELP Please!

2007-10-10 16:45:58 · 17 answers · asked by Katie R 2

I have been married 8 years with 3 kids (7,4,2) and have been a stay at home mom for most of it.. I have worked on and off when we were in desperate need of money. My husband had severe drug problems and a gambling addiction. With that said, we have gone thru counseling and he is even in methadone treatment for the drug problem. He has never been violent with me beyond yelling. He can't seem to keep a job, and was recently fired for stealing $5000, he claims he didn't do it and no charges have been filed, but he is now on the "lamb." Arriving at home to only shower and change clothes. I have no money and even no vehicle I am soo lost on what to do.. any advice on how to move on with my life. I love him so much I want to work on it, but at the same time I feel he is a lost cause. Disappearing for days at a time is not only hurting me but my girls are in tune with whats going on and cry themselves to sleep everynight. What do you think?

2007-10-10 16:43:43 · 11 answers · asked by Lulu 1

I was just married 2 months ago and now my wife and I are getting a divorce. I was wondering what the proper edicate is with gifts. Should we return them to the people that gave them to us?

2007-10-10 16:41:41 · 18 answers · asked by Adventurebound75 1

I say NO! If you are looking for someone to bring home to mama.. not a good idea! So... do you think a marriage to a stripper ever has a happy ending? Do you think she can change her lifestyle, and just be a guys wife? Opinions welcome!!!

2007-10-10 16:34:25 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok so if someone got divorced and was paid X amount of money every month and then they're ex-spouse got re-married to another person and soon after got divorced from that person too would the pay of for the first someone decrease because of the second someone's divorce pay
i know this i confusing but if i don't get the right answer or the link to the right site to answer my question my grandmother may take my grandfather to court and he's getting old and his income is dwindling he is about to retire and he will not be able to support my grandma and his second ex-wife
everyone in the family is taking sides and braking the peace my mom i leaning with my grandma but i'm leaning withmy grandfather................................................what a mess

BTW: this must aply to Idaho state law

thank you varry much

if you give me the right answer i will love you forever

2007-10-10 16:30:32 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my boyfriend for four years. Two out of those years he paid for everything while the other two my mom paid for everything. So i guess it is fair? On the other hand he thinks he put more work into it because he put his money in it, while I did not. I could not because when we met I was in school and have been for the past four years. Now he is not working and planning on going to school this fall, for two years, and then for three more. He is asking me to pay for everything including his part during the first two years, while he pays for his school credit card and child support. The thing is I am going to be a graduating senior and just starting my career, I do not know how I will be able to support him and me? I had my own goals too, saving for a house and helping my family in the Ukraine.

He tells me if I choose not to support him then he will break up with me because I did not support him in his dream, that we are a team. I do not know what to do, I just do not think it is fair for a twenty two year just out of school to be supporting a twenty nine year old man.

I have to make a decision. Please help, any advice helps.

Thanks,
Allison

2007-10-10 16:30:16 · 29 answers · asked by alina, alina k 1

Me and my boyfriend have been together 3 years and we never talk about marriage, i want to get married sometime but he NEVER talks about it? what is this all about?

2007-10-10 16:27:23 · 11 answers · asked by jojo 1

I have been with my husband for 12 yrs. and married for 8 yrs. He cheated on me with a married women who is now divorced. We are in our fifties. He says he has love for me but not sure if he is in love. He is lusting this other women with 2 small children. She is 32 yrs old. They been having an affair for 6 months.

He left a week ago because I caught him. He has proposed a plan to come home and stay in the other room so we can re-aquaint our selves. But we can go and do as we like but no dating. If we go back it will be 150 percent married. Should I do this or not?

2007-10-10 16:19:47 · 33 answers · asked by nancy r 1

I've been married for 4 years. We have 2 young kids and he has a 7 year old from his first marriage. We were married after only two months of dating, but we knew each other all through grade and high school. He had me so in love with him, I was sure he was it. Turns out, a lot of what he told me were things he knew I wanted to hear. The first 3 years were hell for me. We fought all the time. He has changed a lot the last year, but I can't seem to forget all the hurt he's caused me. Plus, a lot of people question his sexuality. Including his ex wife. Now all I think about is a life with someone who has the same likes, wants, and desires. He has no friends, no hobbies, no desire to vacation. All he wants to do is work and take care of kids. He's great around the house, but I know in my heart we don't belong together. We don't make each other happy, and I work 7 days a week so I don't have to be around him or his daughter any more than I have to be. Do I stay for the kids?

2007-10-10 16:07:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 26 years old, never been married, never been engaged. Have had several boyfriends (3 that I dated one year or more). Not dating anyone now. I have a college education and a good job. I think men find me attractive.
Recently I have become very self concious about that fact that I am not married. Many of my friends who were younger than me are now married.
I know this is an embarassing and lame question to ask, but I am seriously feeling inadequate lately.
Should I be worried?
Honest answers only, please.
This is not a joke.

2007-10-10 15:59:01 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

should I still give him a good night, or tell him to bug off?

2007-10-10 15:52:49 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 36 and the Marine I have been dating for a year now is 30. He is in special forces and is pretty much a loner (he has a handful of close friends). He recently opened up to me drastically and told me he wanted me to be the last woman he is ever with and me to be the mother to his children. He says he has never had the feelings of completeness till he met me and he has never been able to talk to anyone as he does to me. Everything he talks about is in "us" and the future and he is very considerate of my feelings. He wants me to move in with him so he will never have to be without me. So my question to you is, does it sound to you as if he will be proposing to me soon? I mean that would be great but I do not want to rush it yet I would love for him to...Any real men with a good answer out there

2007-10-10 15:50:24 · 14 answers · asked by one Life to live 3

Do you think that he cares he has left 3 times in less than a year .But he call and always wants to know what Iam doing. Can you help me?

2007-10-10 15:46:04 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

okay so my father in-law just today is separated from his wife, she took his dog that she gave him as a gift,but the dog was adopted and her name is on the papers....is there anything that we could do to get the dog back

2007-10-10 15:41:06 · 10 answers · asked by angelsrose_01 2

I have been married now to my wife since July of this year. We had a baby in Sept. I love my little girl and would never leave her. But I am so frustrated and at the end with my wife. Sometimes I wonder if it was a mistake to marry her. She shows no signs of romance, no appreciation, she bickers and argues and assumes most things I say are to down her in some way. I am so sick of hearing of her past and how it is affecting her now or her justyfying how she feels. I didnt have a great past because my parents argued and struggled financially at times but I get along great with them and I think about the past and use that to my advantage to know how I want to be and not to be and know how I want to treat my children. Her dad was a military guy and he now lives a 1,000 miles away. I am usually a positive person, I joke at work, play with the kid and try to stay upbeat and have some fun. I work and am feeling good about my career, I pay the bills on time, always have food on the table, good

2007-10-10 15:37:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

He says that I have "let myself go", whatever that means. He also said that he refuses to take me out because I always look frumpy.
I take care of 3 kids, a household, and a business....what does he expect? For me to do all that in a miniskirt, heels, and a smile?
I think he's being picky....

2007-10-10 15:31:59 · 17 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7

It's been more than 6 months since I found out my marriage was not all I thought it was. We are trying to "work" things out. Is there a point when you don't think about what happened? I'm not obsessed, but, it's a rare day I don't think about it and that's only when he is not around.

2007-10-10 15:14:02 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with the same guy for the past five and a half years. We have two beautiful children together and at one point were engaged to be married. Let me add that we started dating when we were 17 and 18. We are now 23 and 24. I decided a couple of months ago that I no longer wanted to get married anymore. At least not right now because I feel that he is just not growing. He lives the life of a 17 year old, going to friends houses and doing whatever he wants to whenever he wants to while I'm at home living the life of a single mother. He's a great dad when he's at home. I just wish it were more often. We were living with his parents, but I couldn't take it there anymore so I decided to pack up the kids and move to my dad's house until we can get a place of our own. I couldn't take it there anymore. He had no responsiblities or motivation while we were living there. I want him to move in here bc I think that it would give him more motivation to get our own place. contd......

2007-10-10 15:03:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-10 14:35:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-10 14:31:07 · 25 answers · asked by irishpr 2

My ex-Bf told me he would divorce his wife even if I wasnt sure if I wanted to settle down with him.
but he kept asking if I would? I don't even like him anymore but he wouldn't leave me be! ..I kept sayin "no" & he said the divorce will wait another 3 months? I mean...
this guy even trust-worthy? HE SAID it wouldn't matter now he's chicken out and he's cheating on his wife who's always there for him?
** should I have a long talk to his wife about this or should I be silent and let it be?**

2007-10-10 14:14:04 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

lol like if twins married twins kinda thing. I dunno I was just curious.

2007-10-10 14:11:44 · 17 answers · asked by Jaroo 4

I just thought she was too shy to buy one on her own. I thought she would enjoy it. Anyway, I told her I bought her a toy and she started crying and made me feel like a dirty old man for buying it for her. Needless to say, I didn't give it to her... Why does she feel this way?

2007-10-10 14:04:55 · 15 answers · asked by Gary L 2

my bf abandoned his previous wife, thats why she filed for divorce. And it seems everytime stress comes along in a relationship he abandoned it, instead of trying to make it work.. How can i be sure he wont do that to be if we decides o get marry.

2007-10-10 13:44:40 · 14 answers · asked by ms attitude 2

2007-10-10 13:41:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous