I am 26 years old, never been married, never been engaged. Have had several boyfriends (3 that I dated one year or more). Not dating anyone now. I have a college education and a good job. I think men find me attractive.
Recently I have become very self concious about that fact that I am not married. Many of my friends who were younger than me are now married.
I know this is an embarassing and lame question to ask, but I am seriously feeling inadequate lately.
Should I be worried?
Honest answers only, please.
This is not a joke.
2007-10-10 15:59:01 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
start reading. read a book called ' why men marry some women and not others by john molloy. he did years of research on this very topic. it is a groundbreaking book.
go to the marriage, self improvement and relationship section of the bookstore and buy a bunch of books. oh, you will know them, they are something like ' how to get married, why men marry bi'ches, and the like. they will give you perspective on the dating scene.
do you live in a tiny town? do you have a job where you never meet anyone? have you gone online?
there are literally a million things you can do to meet a great guy. and i can tell by the intelligence of your question that you are a great girl.
get out there!! have a great time dating and meeting people!! use your youth and energy to enjoy the process.
in fact, set a goal that you get one date a week or 2 dates a month, and decide that you will use the goal of meeting a great guy like a job search, that is, you will work on it constantly. a 26 year old should be dating lots of guys. really.
2007-10-10 16:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My SIL went through the same thing. I felt badly for her during family get togethers. All her older siblings were married and had children and here she was 30 already and no one. She is attractive, tall and slender, has a good paying job of over 10 years, her own house, vehicle and all, but no man. Then one day she found someone and now they are married with their first child and she's very happy. Be patient, it takes time. Just because all your friends are married, doesn't mean that you won't. Try not to let it bother you. I know my SIL got pretty down about it at times and frustrated. Just be patient and some day Mr. Right will come your way. Also, 26 is still young, remember, my SIL didn't meat Mr. Right till 31. Be easy on yourself too and have faith. Hugs.
2007-10-10 23:06:47 · answer #2 · answered by Perkymo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww SMILE because you are beautiful! Nothing is wrong with you. Everyone has different paths in life and take their own sweet time. Some get married very young and some get married after they've gone through a good portion of their life.
My brother is 26 and never married/engaged and he is happy with his life. He's a busy man and is not "looking" for anyone. When he finds her, great! But it's not rush.
It's not a face to the "finish line" or to find that one person in your life to marry. Maybe God just hasn't brought him into your life yet...or maybe he has...and it's just not the right time for you. Everything will work out in the end. Just try not to think about it so much. All in due time hun :-)
Smile!
2007-10-10 23:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by Blondee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal to feel the way you do. I was 25 when it hit me that I wasn't married and it seemed as though everyone around me was getting married, having kids and just a whole heck of a lot happier than me. I learned to focus on what I did have instead of what I didn't have, as cliche as it sounds. Turns out I had the epiphany that just because I'm "alone" doesn't mean I'm "lonely". I had plenty of friends and freedom to do whatever, whenever! I've been married now for 7 amazing years (got married at 27) but I won't lie - I miss my single, carefree existance once in a while. But at least I had one to miss! And most of my friends who got married before me are, sadly, now divorced and right back in the dating pool. So it's really a no win situation - when it is right for you, it will happen - trust that it will and enjoy yourself now! You are not inadequate! You are perfect! You just haven't kissed all your frogs to get to your prince! Hang in there!
2007-10-10 23:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by Empress1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't feel that way. I got married young, I am now 27 and been married for 9 1/2 years. If I could do it all over again I would have waited until I finished college and have lived my life to the fullest. Enjoy your time being single. When you feel this way look and compare your life to your friends. Who has the better job, more education, less stress in their life. Marriage is great, but can be stressful.
2007-10-10 23:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by lili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just haven't met the right guy yet. Get out there and date. If you find a guy, date a long time, before you commit to marriage. Ask a lot of questions, find out his values, his interests and his plans for the future. Tell him yours. Find out if he wants children. Make sure he is well educated and can support a wife and children. Find out his political views, spiritual values. Does he drink or do drugs? Is he controlling or does he want a partner in life? Does he think he just has to work his job and come home while you are expected to do everything else or is he willing to help with house work and kids. Observe how he treats other people in general, ask his friends and relatives how he is. Is he messy or neat, organized or not.
When you first meet some one you are only meeting their Representative it takes a long time for the real person to come out.
2007-10-10 23:12:31 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're ok. We're all a little insecure. Maybe you just haven't found that person who makes you feel content and happy yet. You'll hang around and one day some guy will come along with all of the tools to meet your needs emotionally and physically and WHAM!!! You've found the love of your life. It'll happen. There's no sense in rushing it. There's a plan for all of us. However, I don't think marrying the guy from Maine is probably going to be a good idea. Good luck with it dear.
2007-10-10 23:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by B. Nowlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you assume that your married friends are happy?
You are waiting for Mr. Right and he is worth waiting for. You are not inadequate. There is no set schedule in life. You need to realize that this time of your life can be just as exciting as being happily married. If you are lonely, go to places where you can meet eligible men. Take up golf, karate, tennis. Volunteer. Try on-line dating. I know a few couples where this worked for them. Good luck!
2007-10-10 23:35:04 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. I understand where you are coming from though. A lot of your friends are probably getting married and even having babies, so sometimes you feel left out or like there is something defective about you. Don't worry. He'll show up one day when you least expect it - mine did. You sound like a smart woman and I bet you are just waiting for the right person - for life, and not for right now. Good luck!!!
2007-10-10 23:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by snowqueen80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage comes when you are ready , not when others jump into it, I didnt get married till i was 26, the same age as you. and that marriage lasted 10 years , now im on my second. so you shouldnt feel inadequate. your doing great with your life and every thing falls into place gradually as you get older, so dont rush things and dont worry, keep up the good work and enjoy your life the way it is, because everything always changes tommorrow
2007-10-10 23:07:08 · answer #10 · answered by yowuzup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋