My husban has left me and my kids for the 3rd time?

Question

Do you think that he cares he has left 3 times in less than a year .But he call and always wants to know what Iam doing. Can you help me?

Answer 1

This behaviour begs the question of whether he is actually committed to you and your family or not? I do not see how a man who was would be running out the door every time there was a problem. All couples have problems and argue sometimes, but very rarely do they leave and come back again later. I would not let a man treat me this way. Or my children. What kind of message is he sending? And what are you supposed to tell your children? Daddy's mad with mummy again, so he's gone away, but don't worry, he'll be back when he realises there's nothing out there for him? I think not. The next time he leaves, tell him it is the last time, you deserve so much more than a luke warm husband.

Answer 2

There could be several explanations. He could be a jerk and just throws a fit and moves out. He may feel a lot of pressure with kids or from you or whomever and moves out to get some "air". He may feel trapped because he has lost some of his freedom in marriage. Whatever the explanation, you both need to get to the bottom of the problem - this will be difficult, but you will not get any answers by not asking him in a non-threatening way. You deserve a better life and someone you can depend on to be there for you - just be sure you are that someone who is pleasant to be with and that you do your part to make a marriage. If you can't resolve this soon, you need to consider parting ways for the sake of the kids - this behavior is not a good atmosphere for children. Good luck.

Answer 3

It sounds like your husband does not really know what he wants. He needs to put the children first and when he does leave it can most likely be confusing for your children. If it is confusing for the children I can imagine how fed up you most likely are.To me what he is doing just does not sound too good. You both need to sit down and do some serious talking and ask him what the problem is and why he wants to keep on leaving all the time. Maybe you can both go to some marriage counseling to work out the problems.

Answer 4

for one thing you spelled husband like it is just a word. You forgot the "d" after the "n" on the word husband. If he left you for the 3rd time in less than a year what do you think? Of course that is a mans' nature to know what is going on inside his home as well as outside his home .Play with it !! you need to get control of yourself and not depend on men. That is what they want . Be independent, show him and expecially yourself that you can do it without him.

Answer 5

You have to put your foot down girl! Your children are your priority, not some guy that is going to be playing you. He needs to be given the choice either stay or leave. That is going to be hard at first, but no woman needs a man that is going to be treating her like that. Your kids come first. He may care for you but he may care for someone else too. He is lost and don't know what he wants. Good Luck.

Answer 6

What kind of help do you want? I would have kicked him out for good after the first time leaving. File for divorce, ask for full custody and take him to the cleaners as far as alimony and child care. He's a cad and does not deserve the wife and children that he has. You also need to quit taking him back each time he calls and begs forgiveness.

Answer 7

did your husband leave you for someone else, or did he just leave just to be leaving? sounds like he has some attachment issues or some unresolved desires that coupledom and family just don't fill. the fact that he calls and wants to know what you are doing is proof of the fact that he does care about you, he just needs to figure out why he can't stay. he has come back. if he didn't care he wouldn't. what do you really know about him? did his father leave him when he was a child? how many times has his mother been married or coupled with a man? you both need to go into some family therapy and he into some therapy by himself so that he can delve into his past so that he can discover why he keeps leaving. you all need to really talk to each other so that you can figure out what is really behind his leaving and returning. i wish you all the best

Answer 8

3 strikes and he's out. The third time my ex-husband threatened to move out and actually started packing his suitcase I called his bluff and let him leave. He came back but a month later I left and haven't looked back- and that was the FIRST time I made the "threat". If he keeps leaving he isn't happy and it is likely making you miserable too- I know I was. I am a much more content person without him around making life awful.

Answer 9

You have to ask yourself why he has left.You either fix the problem if it can be fixed or don't let him get away doing this.Don;t make it so easy for him to keep coming back.Perhaps you two need to talk and try to solve what us happening between you both before you end up in a divorce.Children make it hard to make a decision but it is not fair to them either.If you love him work it out.Sometimes you have to stand your ground and go it alone,many women and men do this so can you.I hope you both can work it out life is to short to fight

Answer 10

If he left again, don't let him come back. Your house is not a motel where he can be in an out as he pleases. You and your kids are not a toy. It's not a good example for your kids either who see Daddy leave and come back whenever he wants.