I am 36 and the Marine I have been dating for a year now is 30. He is in special forces and is pretty much a loner (he has a handful of close friends). He recently opened up to me drastically and told me he wanted me to be the last woman he is ever with and me to be the mother to his children. He says he has never had the feelings of completeness till he met me and he has never been able to talk to anyone as he does to me. Everything he talks about is in "us" and the future and he is very considerate of my feelings. He wants me to move in with him so he will never have to be without me. So my question to you is, does it sound to you as if he will be proposing to me soon? I mean that would be great but I do not want to rush it yet I would love for him to...Any real men with a good answer out there
2007-10-10 15:50:24 · 14 answers · asked by one Life to live 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think what he did was already a form of proposal, though it's not a formal one. And if you don't want to get things rushed, you could share your concerns with him, since he had been considerate of your feelings...
2007-10-10 15:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by MJ 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well i am a woman and from what you said he sounds like he is into a lot and is thinking of the future with both of you in it so that really sounds like a proposal to me and then again take into thought his age this is when men kind of wants to settle down and if you say he is kind of a loner then he wants to come home to someone maybe he is tired of the lonely nights both of you have good jobs and seems like a stable life why not together girl I do think he is thinking about but i think he is a little nervous don't push him or scare him give him his room and baby he will come home good luck and lots of love ( :
2007-10-10 15:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by islandgirl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
uh, uh, listen to the girls here, dont move in with him until you have a ring and !!!!!! a wedding date. you want an honest answer, that is it.
otherwise you will be asking this question 3, 4 or 5 years from now, and it will not be dignified or nice.
tell him you are the marrying kind and you dont feel right about living together without a commitment, otherwise, if you move in with him, you !!!! are the only one who has made a commitment. not him. get this loud and clear?????
you have been warned!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ps: i am NOT saying this is true of him, but i know for a fact that when a guy wants something and he is in a situation where there are a lot of guys around, they literally rehearse lines that women want to hear, and they know exactly what to say, and yet, what not to say so that they are not themselves committed. ok? he has said these really powerful things to you, but, honey, when he gets to the good part, he does not say one single thing about commitment except YOUR commitment.
i have known girls who have not listened carefully to the emotional " opening up' closely enuf and have found themselves years later wondering how they could be all alone when they were sure, really sure, the guy was serious about them. proceed carefully. and say what i said above, and see what he says. if he says a lot but it doesnt amount to anything like a commitment, beware.
of course, he could be wonderful, just be aware.
2007-10-10 15:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would sound like -- from your synopsis -- that he's wanting to prepare you for a proposal in the future. How soon is anybody's guess. One word of advice however: Don't move in with him until you DO have that ring.
Good luck & best wishes!
2007-10-10 15:54:02 · answer #4 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well, it certainly sounds as though there is a growing dependency for you on his part (I find it unique that you are the woman ...yet in the Marines...Hummmmvery interesting).
Are these feelings of dependence equal?
Perhaps he is demonstrating dependence..... to "feel" you out in the hopes that you will need him as much as he claims to need you.....
However, if it is pretty clear that your feelings are just as strong...I would say that a proposal is forthcoming.
If the feelings are not so equal.....and identifyably so.......then he's merely testing to see your reaction.
2007-10-10 15:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
ANSWER: Be true to yourself you aren't going to use one of these answers to decide your life. Know the facts and his family and what you're dealing with. If you decide to live with him go in expecting nothing, because it will be along drawn out emotional conflict that he likely will not understand filled with nonverbal communication wars.
Here's an article I read in Psych Today
http://psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-3788.html
2007-10-10 16:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would take some time and think about things before you do anything you will regret later. It sounds like he cares about you alot. Sounds like he wants to take some time first.
2007-10-10 16:02:00 · answer #7 · answered by patches 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like it will be a proposal. I don't know about right away but definitely will be :)
2007-10-10 15:53:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
MOVING IN WITH HIM WOULD BE A GOOD MOVE IT SOUNDS LIKE HE IS NEARLY READY FOR COMMITMENT BUT WANTS TO TRY LIVING TOGETHER FIRST. IF ALL GOES WELL AND I HOPE THT IT WOULD I AM SURE HE WILL PROPOSE WITHIN A YEAR, SOMETIMES MEN FEEL LIKE THEY NEED TO TEST THE WATER, ONCE WE FIND THAT THE WATER IS NICE WE LIKE TO STAY THERE. THE REAL QUESTION IS DO YOU NEED HIM TO MARRY YOU FOR YOU TO BE HAPPY OR WILL JUST LIVING WITH HIM LONG TERM BE ENUFF FOR YOU? HE IS READY FOR THIS STEP ARE YOU?
2007-10-10 15:56:49 · answer #9 · answered by James H 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Yeah, sounds like it. Since he is military he can't really do anything with you, other than a quicky unless he is married. If he is serious about kids he needs to get married. Hope is he serious and not jiving you... Good luck.
2007-10-10 15:54:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋